Unapologetically Sensitive Patricia Young

Attachment Wounds: A Follow Up Conversation
 
Jen and Patricia reflect on their recent challenge (see episode 241), and they discuss the importance of taking responsibility for their own needs and emotions. They explore the impact of attachment wounds and the challenges of navigating relationships. They talk about what trauma and reenactment looks like in a relationship. They also discuss the need for self-care and the importance of managing expectations. This is a very vulnerable and open conversation.
 
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
 
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their recent experiences and the impact it had on their relationship. They explore the challenges of change and disruption, the importance of naming and validating emotions, and the process of healing from past trauma. They also touch on the dynamics of their friendship and the need for autonomy and understanding. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of holding space for each other and navigating through difficult emotions with patience and curiosity. In this conversation.
Takeaways
·         Change and disruption can be challenging.
·         Naming and validating emotions is powerful and can help in moving forward.
·         Healing from past trauma requires self-awareness and taking responsibility for one's own healing process.
·         Navigating difficult emotions in relationships requires patience, understanding, and the ability to hold space for each other. Taking responsibility for our own needs and emotions is essential in relationships.
·         Attachment wounds can impact our expectations and behaviors in relationships.
·         Self-care and managing expectations are important for maintaining healthy relationships.
·         Open and honest communication can lead to growth and healing.
Sound Bites
·         "Change and disruption are difficult for me"
·         "Letting it be okay to say it's annoying"
·         "The power of naming things and how validating it is"
·         "It's the openheartedness really."
·         "Adulthood in many ways is a myth except for taxes and stuff."
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Frustrations
08:03 Reenactment and Taking Responsibility
25:49 Openheartedness and Taking Responsibility
34:00 Accepting Unmet Needs
40:39 Managing Expectations
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
 
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
 
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Jen’s Links
 
Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com
 
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Attachment Wounds: When You Can’t Work It Out In The Moment
 
Patricia reflects on her attachment wounds & something that happened with Jen. She emphasizes that the issue was not a rupture in her relationship, but rather her own trauma and wounding. She reassures listeners that they are doing fine & have navigated the situation with honesty & grace. Patricia also touches on the importance of doing personal work & finding others who are also committed to growth. She encourages listeners to embrace their sensitivity & prioritize their own needs and boundaries.
 
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
·         Attachment wounds can surface unexpectedly and it's important to seek consent before sharing personal experiences.
·         Healing from trauma and wounding requires individual work and support from others who are also committed to growth.
·         Embracing sensitivity means honoring one's own needs and setting boundaries.
·         Challenges in relationships are normal and can be navigated with honesty and grace.
·         Validation and reassurance are important in maintaining a sense of safety and regulation.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
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Navigating Grief, Uncertainty & Travel Through the Lens of Attachment
Patricia and Jen discuss navigating uncertainty and overwhelm, managing change and unexpected situations, balancing personal needs, the power of communication and validation, finding meaning and value in relationships, coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking, choosing to assume the best, managing energy and boundaries, secure attachment and autonomy, dealing with uncertainty and seeking information, taking care of yourself in travel. They also reflect on their friendship
 
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
 
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
Patricia and Jen discuss various topics including body image, grief, historical trauma, emotional support, communication, and family dynamics. Patricia shares her personal experiences and emotions surrounding her son leaving for boot camp, which triggers both current and historical grief. They explore the importance of emotional attunement and the impact of different processing styles on relationships. The conversation highlights the need for compassion, understanding, and open communication in navigating intense emotions and supporting one another.
Takeaways
·         Body image concerns can impact self-perception and emotional well-being.
·         Grief can be triggered by current events and activate historical trauma.
·         Emotional support and attunement are crucial in navigating intense emotions.
·         Open communication and understanding of different processing styles can strengthen relationships. Navigating uncertainty and overwhelm can be challenging, but finding ways to manage change and unexpected situations can help.
·         Balancing personal needs and family expectations is important for maintaining well-being.
·         Effective communication and validation can strengthen relationships and provide support during difficult times.
·         Coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking requires self-awareness and the ability to assume the best in uncertain situations.
·         Taking care of oneself and setting boundaries is crucial for managing energy and maintaining emotional well-being.
·         Seeking information and being proactive can help reduce uncertainty and increase feelings of security.
·         Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.
·         Taking care of oneself during travel, such as having snacks and staying hydrated, can help manage stress and anxiety.
·         Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.
·         Reflecting on friendship and growth can bring appreciation and gratitude for the journey.
Additional topics discussed:
Exploring the complexities of loss, grief, and change in personal experiences. Normalizing and validating diverse ways of coping with sadness and challenges. Reflecting on the interplay between present circumstances and past narratives. Nurturing compassion and gentleness in relationships to facilitate healing. Recognizing the value of secure attachments in both personal and life contexts. Strategies for dealing with uncertainty and finding resources for support. Cultivating wisdom in distinguishing between controllable and uncontrollable aspects of life. The power of communication in addressing needs within relationships. Overcoming codependency and setting healthy boundaries in interactions. Embracing vulnerability and authenticity in sharing personal experiences. Balancing self-expression with consideration for others in relationships. Addressing feelings of inadequacy and the need for self-affirmation. Seeking empowerment through information and planning in uncertain situations. Building resilience through shared experiences a

Being “Too Much” is a Narrative that needs to be Re-examined
 
Summary
 
Patricia discusses the wound of too much and how it can impact relationships. Too much is about BOTH people and the capacity of the other person. This is a narrative that needs to be reexamined, and the context of both people needs to be addressed. She explores the intersection of neurodivergence, trauma, and socialization. Patricia also explores the concept of rules, and how through an autistic lens, this can create some challenges.
 
HIGHLIGHTS
 
Takeaways
The wound of feeling like you're too much can stem from trauma and socialization of neurotypical norms.
Understanding and respecting one's own capacity and the capacity of others is crucial in communication.
Navigating relationships as a neurodivergent individual requires open and honest conversations.
Embracing sensitivity and accepting oneself is essential for personal well-being.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
Points made in this episode:
Exploring the concept of the "wound of too much" in relationships and self-perception. Addressing the impact of past traumas and relationship experiences on feeling "too much." Discussing the importance of understanding and respecting personal and others' capacities. Emphasizing the need for setting healthy boundaries to overcome the "wound of too much." Highlighting the dynamics of communication and capacity in relationships. Encouraging empathy and consideration for others' limits in interactions. Recognizing the interconnectedness of personal wounds of "too much" and "not enough." Offering strategies for balancing enthusiasm and respecting others' capacities. Challenging the narrative that focuses solely on one person being "too much." Advocating for a shift towards understanding and honoring both individuals' capacities. Discussing the challenges faced in relationships between neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals. Providing insights on communication, boundaries, and self-awareness in relationships. Emphasizing the importance of mutual understanding and communication in addressing capacity issues. Exploring the nuances of being perceived as "too much" and the impact on self-esteem. Encouraging self-acceptance, setting boundaries, and fostering healthy connections. 00:00 Introduction and Setting the Topic
01:36 The Wound of Too Much
06:21 PDA Profile and Autonomy
07:52 Socialization and Autistic Females
10:16 Stimming and Accommodations
11:34 Navigating Communication and Social Cues
13:17 The Fear of Being Too Much
14:07 The Influence of Others' Opinions
18:22 Shifting the Narrative: Capacity of Both Parties
20:11 Navigating Relationships with Limited Insight
21:10 Personal Examples and Communication
23:35 Finding Balance in Showing Interest
24:05 Conclusion and Encouragement
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
 
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologetic

Learning to Trust Yourself and Finding Peace in Your Own Rhythm
 
Patricia discusses her experience when her husband is away. She shares her journey of managing attachment wounds, and the challenges of household responsibilities. Patricia also explores the impact of autistic burnout and ADHD on her ability to stay on top of things. She emphasizes the importance of honoring autonomy and considering others while maintaining a sense of self. Patricia concludes by encouraging listeners to trust themselves and find comfort in their own needs and wiring.
 
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
 
Learning to trust yourself and find peace in your own rhythm.
Managing attachment wounds and fear of being alone.
Balancing household responsibilities and find ways to stay on top of things.
Honoring autonomy and consider others while maintaining a sense of self.
 
Additional takeaways:
Recognize the evolution of coping strategies over the years. Understand the impact of attachment wounds on relationships. Explore ways to manage feelings of fear and insecurity. Discover the importance of staying connected during separations. Learn how to anchor oneself to a support system. Reflect on the challenges of maintaining responsibilities solo. Identify the role of communication in long-distance relationships. Explore personal growth through periods of solitude. Acknowledge the significance of self-care during partner's absence. Reflect on the journey of building trust and resilience. Consider the balance between independence and interdependence. Explore strategies for regulating emotions during separations. Understand the dynamics of individual growth within a relationship. Reflect on personal boundaries and self-compassion. Discover the power of vulnerability in relationships. Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
 
00:00 Introduction and Background
00:56 Attachment Wounds and Fear of Being Alone
03:04 Trusting the Process
04:24 Autistic Burnout and ADHD
05:19 Autonomy and Consideration of Others
06:47 Guilt and Honoring Autonomy
07:36 Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)
09:13 Taking Care of Pets
11:08 Autonomy and Space in Relationships
13:03 Trusting Yourself and Letting Go of Tension
16:29 Transitioning and Adjusting
22:30 Processing and Communication
24:43 Non-Traditional Relationships and Balance
26:09 Trusting Yourself and Finding Peace
28:47 Honoring Your Needs and Wired
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
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Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships
 
Patricia and Jen discuss the challenges of unmasking and being authentic in relationships including the role of PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). They explore the narratives we have about ourselves and how they can impact our interactions with others. They also delve into the differences in communication styles and perspectives, and the importance of embracing who we are. The conversation highlights the need to navigate personal dynamics and self-reflection in order to foster understanding and growth.
 
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
 
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
 
·         Unmasking involves recognizing and embracing our authentic selves, even if it brings up discomfort or challenges in relationships.
·         Differences in communication styles and perspectives can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, but it's important to approach these differences with curiosity and compassion.
·         Challenging the narratives we have about ourselves and others can help us break free from limiting beliefs and foster healthier relationships.
·         Navigating personal dynamics requires open communication, self-reflection, and a willingness to honor our own needs while respecting the autonomy of others.

More about unmasking
Unmasking involves revealing one's authentic self and needs in relationships. It can bring up feelings of selfishness or discomfort when prioritizing personal authenticity. The author discusses the challenge of balancing personal needs with making others feel comfortable. Self-awareness plays a role in navigating the discomfort that may arise from unmasking. The author highlights the importance of authenticity in fostering genuine connections in relationships. Embracing one's true self involves acknowledging and communicating personal preferences and boundaries.  
Chapters (please adjust time for the addition of the introduction)
 
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
08:03 Unmasking and Authenticity
12:05 Differences in Perspectives and Communication Styles
26:13 Struggles with Identity and Unmasking
30:05 Levels of Experience and Narrative
35:26 Navigating Personal Dynamics and Self-Reflection
36:06 Closing Remarks
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
 
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
 
LINKS
 
Jen’s Links
 
Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com
 
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
 
Patricia’s Links
 
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
 
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