OnAscent Radio Tony LaPrino

Today I'm diving into the often debilitating world of perfectionism. I'm exploring what perfectionism is, its causes, the impact it has on our lives, and most importantly, how to overcome it. I'm sharing personal stories and practical tips to help you navigate your own struggles with perfectionism and hopefully triumph over it.

To see your hidden patterns, you need to intentionally build self-awareness. Question your perception. A mantra that I have adopted in my life is, "Change your story, change your life." What does that mean? It means that much of the way we think, see, and operate as individuals is based off a story. The question then becomes, "Is the story that I'm telling myself true?" If you answer yes, then prove it! With facts... not perception, half-truths, or lies. Build compassionate and honest dialogue. Dig deeper into what your real motivations are, and have humility to know you can learn more. Self-awareness combined with action opens the door to real change.

What does it means to believe in yourself? Self-belief is the confidence in your own abilities and judgment. It's not about being arrogant or dismissing others' input, but rather having faith that you are capable of handling life's challenges and making decisions that lead to your personal growth. "Whether you think you can, or you think you can't, you're right." This famous quote by Henry Ford captures the essence of self-belief. Your mindset shapes your reality. If you believe you can achieve something, you're more likely to put in the effort and perseverance needed to make it happen. So, how do you overcome self-doubt, have strong, positive self-beliefs, grow, and achieve your goals? That's what today's episode is all about.

As we venture deeper into ourselves, we may encounter a challenging barrier within our own thoughts, like a dense layer of sediment that has been hardened by conditioning. When we shed our emotional armor, it can be a painful process. We often feel the impact of the release in our personal lives: the storms of yesterday, the heaviness of the past moments rising to the surface. Opening ourselves up to unlearned beliefs and behaviors can create a feeling of unease and instability, as if we are on the verge of turbulence and disharmony. Real growth is recognizing these moments and treating ourselves gently as the storms pass.

It's ok to not have the answer. I believe one of the bravest things you can do is boldly embrace the unknown. Accept your fears. All fear is manageable. When fear is not managed and tuned into fuel and fire, it leads to doubt, hesitation, and procrastination. Fear will play tricks on you and make you think that you're not ready. Courageous people feel fear too; they just embrace it and use it to fuel them. Fear is contagious, but so is courage. Continue to move forward. A clear mission does not always have a clear path.

We all go through difficult times in our lives, and no one's experiences and pain should be compared with others. With these dark times come thoughts and actions that are not to be overlooked. Today, I'm bearing my soul a bit so that you can know you are not alone, you are valued, and you can get through this and get to brighter days.