Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman Damona Hoffman - Dates and Mates Media

Jillian Turecki, certified relationship coach and host of the Jillian On Love podcast, joins us for our Dates & Mates Season 11 finale! She and Damona explore why the fantasy of "The One" captivates us, and how this desire often masks a need for personal healing and growth.

We are bringing back the Romance Rollback this week with:

Surprising Facts About the Evolution of Dating 

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

My dates keep ditching me… for my brother! What can I do?

Follow Jillian at @JillianTurecki and you can become of member of Jillian’s relationship school by visiting JillianTurecki.com/membership

To read the Mental Floss piece on the Evolution of dating visit: mentalfloss.com/article/79140/10-fascinating-facts-about-evolution-dating-and-courtship

Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com)

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:03:40) The romance rollback 
(00:11:28) Introduction of Jillian Turecki 
(00:14:52) The myth of the one 
(00:20:34) The concept of "the one" 
(00:23:50) Reasons for being single 
(00:30:04) Challenges in building trust 
(00:35:02) The evolving dating landscape 
(00:36:08) Missions in relationship coaching 
(00:40:16) Making Dating Safer for Women 
(00:42:07) The Responsibility of Men in Dating Safety
(00:51:38) Impact of Attractiveness of Family Members on Dating
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Inessa Freya, international feng shui master and spiritual psychologist, reveals how simple changes in your home can attract new romantic possibilities, improve your current relationships, and bring a sense of harmony and balance that radiates from the inside out. Plus, Damona shares why she credits Inessa for being a part of bringing Mr. Hoffman into her life!
But first we have a surprising dating dish to serve up for you:


Move over healthcare! Could dating apps be the new benefit?



Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

Dating Burnout is real!!! How do I remain positive when I am struggling to find my match?

Follow Inessa on Instagram @Inessa_Freya and learn more about her work by visiting www.fengshuifromtheheart.com

Read the Forbes piece: forbes.com/sites/soulaimagourani/2024/06/04/dating-services-as-a-future-company-perk/?sh=5df2e008459a

Read the Independent piece: https://sg.news.yahoo.com/tokyo-launch-first-government-run-091413507.html

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(00:00:15) The introduction to Feng Shui
(00:02:24) Dating apps as employee benefits 
(00:06:20) Government-sponsored dating apps 
(00:08:59) Introduction to Inessa Freya
(00:10:36) Understanding Feng Shui 
(00:12:39) Personal experiences with Feng Shui
(00:18:01) Clearing up energy and finding love
(00:19:52) Visualizing love and moving for love
(00:24:32) Feng Shui principles and applying them
(00:26:33) Decluttering and space clearing 
(00:33:13) Space Clearing with Intention 
(00:33:47) Impact of Objects on Energy 
(00:35:14) Moving and Arranging Items 
(00:35:55) Feng Shui Rules for Bed Placement 
(00:39:38) Ancient Aspects of Feng Shui 
(00:42:00) Maintaining a Positive Dating Mindset 
(00:47:35) Challenging Societal Narratives 
(00:48:42) Attracting Someone 
(00:49:52) Mindset and Clarity 
(00:50:50) The Five Dating Loops 
(00:51:57) Setting Intentions 
(00:53:03) Upcoming Season Finale 
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Lily Womble, host of the Date Brazen podcast, shares insights from her new book, “Thank You, More Please” so that you can navigate the dating world with eyes wide open and a little main character energy. Plus, she will share how to know when it's time for a dating detox. 

The Dating Dish story this week is based on new findings from Tinder:

The Green Flags Study on Assumptions & Dating

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

How fast is too fast when dating a new match?

Follow Lily on Instagram @DateBrazen and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Thank You, More Please”.

Read the Tinder study by visiting: tinderpressroom.com/The-Green-Flags-Study#assets_all

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TIMESTAMPS
(00:00:00) Intro
(00:01:38) Tinder's "Green Flag Study" on assumptions in dating 
(00:05:47) Challenges in modern dating 
(00:07:00) Creating positive dating experiences 
(00:14:57) Criticism of dating apps 
(00:17:24) The challenges of modern dating 
(00:18:36) Design of dating apps 
(00:19:01) Impact of dating apps on users 
(00:21:23) Dependency on dating apps 
(00:22:22) Main character energy in dating 
(00:25:57) The practice of dating skills 
(00:30:15) Challenging societal messaging 
(00:29:11) Bragging on a date 
(00:34:22) Brazen Bragging 
(00:38:08) Essence Based Preferences 
(00:42:18) Dating Detox: When and Why 
(00:48:28) Importance of Intentional Dating 
(00:49:21) Navigating Relationship Preparation 
(00:49:58) Lily Womble's new book, "Thank You More Please" 
(00:50:27) Listener Question: Relationship Pace 
(00:51:52) The Notion of "Slow Love" 
(00:53:06) Balancing New Love and Personal Life 
(00:55:21) Cherishing New Love 
(00:56:32) Invitation for Questions and Future Episode Preview
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Mat Boggs, YouTube dating coach, sets you up for your best first date yet as he covers everything from red flags and conversation topics to knowing how much time to invest in a match.
The Dating Dish story this week comes from Mashable:

Dating Culture Has Become Selfish. How Do We Fix It?

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:
An old flame invited me to their big birthday bash in Cabo. Should I go?

Follow Mat on Youtube @MatBoggs and check out his MANifest Your Man Program by visiting: https://www.bravethinkinginstitute.com/love-relationships/resources/mym/offer/strategy-session

Read the Mashable story at: mashable.com/article/selfish-dating-app-culture

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TIMESTAMPS

(00:00:12) First dates: The gateway to new possibilities 
(00:01:57) Dating culture: A selfish era 
(00:04:35) The capitalist mindset and dating
(00:08:45) Rethinking the approach to dating
(00:10:22) Do's and don'ts of first dates
(00:17:47) Red Flags in Dating 
(00:18:38) Internal Repetitive Energy 
(00:19:35) Internal GPS System 
(00:21:28) Manipulative Behaviors
(00:23:04) Vibration for Long-Lasting Love 
(00:24:35) Compatibility of Interests 
(00:25:42) Mindset and Deal Breakers 
(00:26:37) Mindset for Online Dating 
(00:29:50) Intentional Action in Dating
(00:30:51) Sharing on First Dates 
(00:33:30) Whose hands are you going to put this baby into?
(00:35:33)Shifting the conversation 
(00:36:33) Mel's authentic approach
(00:43:46) Dear Damona - Tracy's dilemma 
(00:45:17) Damona's advice to Tracy 
(00:49:06) Happy Birthday and Letting Go 
(00:50:17) Lily Womble Up Next
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Dr. Alexandra Solomon, couples therapist and author, lays a foundational framework to deepen connection and self-understanding in her new book “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive.” In this episode, she will share specific exercises and prompts to get you thinking about love differently.

The Dating Dish story this week comes to you from NBC News:

Could an AI Dating Concierge fix your dating life?

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

Is it a red flag if my match doesn’t ask me questions about myself?


LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off on Tuesday, May 29th. Last chance to enroll in the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshop

Follow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram @Dr.Alexandra.Solomon and grab a copy of her new book, “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship heal, Grow and Thrive”

Read the NBC News story at: https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/internet/ai-personas-are-future-dating-bumble-founder-says-many-arent-buying-rcna151738

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Kara Loewentheil, Master Certified Life Coach, applies an analytical, feminist lens towards understanding our current dating culture and how our old stories may be affecting our decisions in love.

The Dating Dish story this week is based on a national study conducted by Whirlpool:

Spring Clean Your Dating Profile: A Surprising Social Experiment Uncovers What Singles Prioritize Most 

Then our Dear Damona question this week is:

How can I get more messages from my matches?

LIVE ONLINE EVENT: Damona is hosting a one night only, live workshop talking about how to meet your matches online and off. Sign up for the Dating Decoded workshop at DamonaHoffman.com/workshop

Follow Kara on Instagram @KaraLoewentheil and be sure to grab a copy of her new book, “Take Back Your Brain: How A Sexist Society Gets In Your Head and How To Get It Out.”

Read about the Whirpool survey at: prnewswire.com/news-releases/spring-clean-your-dating-profile-whirlpool-brand-uncovers-what-singles-prioritize-most-in-a-potential-partner-302077664.html
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