3 girls and a mic 3 girls and a mic

In this episode we cover our experiences pertaining to leaving jobs. If you’ve employed one of us and feel that we were critiquing you, it’s not personal. It is what it is. But also, welcome to your tape 🙂 (13 reasons why reference).
Sandra was pet-sitting while we were recording this episode. Apologies for any cats that might be heard meowing in the background.

Inspired by Khadija Mbowe's video analysis of Netflix's The Ultimatum, the girls talk about love and possessiveness, hierarchy within love relationships, how the concept of "the one" stems from a scarcity mindset and much more. Cindy also expounds a little more on relationship anarchy, polyamory and ethical non monogamy. (PS// while editing another episode, Cindy mistakenly tampered with this one and deleted a short segment. A really short one, like 1, maybe 2 seconds. My sincerest apologies)
Resources: 
You don't own your partners 😗 The Ultimatum, love and possession analyzed by Khadija Mbowe
The Ultimatum' & Supported Self-Sabotage by Tee Noir 
All About Love by bell hooks
Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s) by Sophie Lucido Johnson
Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good by by Adrienne Maree Brown.

The girls talk house parties, from the craziest ones they’ve been to, who’s on their guest list, food and drinks, to exist strategies, and so much more!

For this episode, we’re graced by Kesie, an aspiring popstar and a young Kenyan living in Germany, taking on the world one day at a time. We got to interview her and delight in her intelligence. We hope you enjoy this episode as much as we enjoyed recording it.

Questions asked:

What do you think your life will be like in the future?

How would you change the world if you could?

If you switched places with your teacher tomorrow, what would you teach the class?

If you could set one rule for the family that we all have to follow, what would it be? 

What do you feel are the most important things to living a great life?

Of all the things you’re learning, what do you think will be most useful as an adult?

If you could write a letter to your your future self to know, what would you like to ask/tell them?

If you could travel back in time 3 years, what advice would you give yourself? 

Do you ever get stressed, what stresses you (if you do) and how does it affect your normal functioning?

How’s your relationship with your caregivers, how do you see life and what are you enjoying at the moment?

What do you do when you can’t sleep at night? 

If you were told you would live forever, what would you change about your life? 

We are joined by Tracy Omani, host of kelele za jikoni podcast and a fitness enthusiast, as we discuss intentional friendships. 

We talk about how we show up in friendships, how the ways we show up for ourselves influences our relationships, maintaining friendships on these internet streets, and of course, boundaries 

“Love as political resistance” in Pleasure Activism by Adrienne Maree Brown “the pleasures of deep, intentional friendships” in Pleasure Activism Liberated relationships in Pleasure Activism A chapter in All About Love, by bell hooks titled community (chapter 8) 

There were a few audio glitches, please bear with us.

It’s 2022, and ignorance is not bliss, not any longer. As people who do not know Jada Pickett-Smith, Will Smith and Chris Rock personally, we critique Chris’ bad joke and the smackdown that quickly followed.

Chris Rock joked about Jada Pinkett-Smith starring in "G.I. Jane 2" apparently because her head is shaved. Will Smith then walked to the stage and slapped Chris Rock.

Once seated he (Will Smith) yelled at Rock "Keep my wife’s name out of your fucking mouth!”

We talk about insults and willful ignorance masquerading as humor, and whether violence can ever be justified. We talk about this thing that happens all the time where women get decentred from their issues when men enter the picture. We talk about men needing a therapy & support group for the healing they’re clearly in need of. Then, there’s the Lupita memes 😂😂

The part of Will’s speech that we referenced (towards the end of the podcast):

“Denzel [Washington] said to me a few minutes ago, he said, ‘At your highest moment, that’s when the devil comes for you… I want to apologize to the Academy, I want to apologize to my fellow nominees. This is a beautiful moment and I’m not crying for winning an award. It’s not about winning an award for me. It’s about being able to shine a light on all of the people … Art imitates life. I look like the crazy father just like they said … just like they said about Richard Williams. Love will make you do crazy things.”