139. Are you TOO comfortable? And what is it costing you‪?‬ Simple on Purpose | Intentional Living and Parenting

I love comfort (#typeninevibes) and I know that a lot of my comfort-seeking is more the AVOIDANCE of discomfort.  I don't want to be uncomfortable. 



 

What things make you uncomfortable?

For me they have been things like: 



Taking my small kids out in public

Working on the conflicts in my marriage

Exercise

Getting up in the mornings

Doing dishes

Decluttering and organizing my home 

Seeing my kid struggle or be upset

Go to a social event I was nervous about

Sitting with all the stress and anxiety I felt about motherhood and life

Paying attention to how my body was feeling



No matter how simple these may seem, they were things I was avoiding because they were uncomfortable. 

But staying in what felt COMFORTABLE was coming at a cost. 

What does 'staying where we are' cost us? It has a cost to our relationships, to our health, to the state of our home. This complacency costs us something. 

When we realize what we have traded for comfort, it can make us feel shame. 

When my eyes were opened to what my comfort was costing me I felt like something was wrong with me. I needed to 'do better' and 'be better'. The first step was letting go of the shame I felt about this. Then I had to make a plan what I wanted to do about it. 



I decided I needed to TAKE ACTION. 



Then I realized there were myths I believed about being Someone Who Takes Action. Myths like: it is easy, it comes naturally, it feels good, it feels motivating. 

I realized that taking action felt very UNcomfortable

Listen in to this episode to hear:



* Why do we seek comfort

* The cost of seeking comfort

* A mindset shift to help you take action

* The purpose of discomfort

* Building your tolerance for discomfort

* Ways I made myself uncomfortable, on purpose

* A CHALLENGE to join in this month



 

Links mentioned in this episode:

Making motherhood harder than it needs to be



Live your values worksheets



Live your vision worksheets



The Life on Purpose Workbook



Small things can change your whole life



The Simple on Purpose Facebook group  (make sure to answer the entry questions)



Tag me on Instagram    Use the hashtag #uncomfortableonpurpose







 

SIMPLE PLEASURE OF THE WEEK

Is FIKA - the Swedish tradition of taking a coffee break, emphasis on the break part. At the heart of it is a slowing down and truly breaking. FIKA often includes coffee, a sweet treat, and a good conversation. But it can also be done solo as well. 



I love to FIKA at my home with coffee, a treat, and staring out the window at trees. 



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