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When the clutter, motherhood, relationships, and life seem too overwhelming. When you have resentment and frustration every day - this is a sign you have been living on auto-pilot- letting life happen to you instead of living it ON PURPOSE. I’ve been there. Three kids under 4 and I decided to declutter my home and realized I was living my whole life on autopilot. I wanted more. I wanted to take action, be more present, have more fun! Enjoy my kids! I’m Shawna, You might know me as your Nerdy Girlfriend. I am a Certified Coach Practitioner, a Transformational Life Coach, and am currently a Counsellor in Training. I use the Enneagram, Faith and CBT as tools in my life coaching approach. I teach moms around the world the tools they need to set values and vision for the 9 areas of their lives so they can take the right steps towards living life ON PURPOSE. Find my books, course and blog at simpleonpurpose.ca

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When the clutter, motherhood, relationships, and life seem too overwhelming. When you have resentment and frustration every day - this is a sign you have been living on auto-pilot- letting life happen to you instead of living it ON PURPOSE. I’ve been there. Three kids under 4 and I decided to declutter my home and realized I was living my whole life on autopilot. I wanted more. I wanted to take action, be more present, have more fun! Enjoy my kids! I’m Shawna, You might know me as your Nerdy Girlfriend. I am a Certified Coach Practitioner, a Transformational Life Coach, and am currently a Counsellor in Training. I use the Enneagram, Faith and CBT as tools in my life coaching approach. I teach moms around the world the tools they need to set values and vision for the 9 areas of their lives so they can take the right steps towards living life ON PURPOSE. Find my books, course and blog at simpleonpurpose.ca

    169. Moms Simplifying Q+A: Toddler MomLife, Procrastination and Decluttering

    169. Moms Simplifying Q+A: Toddler MomLife, Procrastination and Decluttering

    Answering decluttering, simplifying and momlife questions that were sent in through the Simple on Purpose community group. Covering topics including organization, procrastination, decluttering kids' clothes, showing up well for momlife. 



    Make sure to check out the show notes for more related links on these questions



     



     

    Questions that were sent in:



    * I'm reworking a room in our house soon to be an office/media room and trying to figure out a system for office supplies, books, devices, charging cables etc. It wants to turn into a catch-all space... If you have any thoughts on that? Thanks!



    * What Pinterest Doesn’t Tell You About Home Organization

    * 5 common mistakes moms make when organizing their homes, and what to do about it (+ cheatsheet of 5 more)

    * 157. How I tackled decluttering my office and kids craft drawers + how I handle the resistance to decluttering

    * The old basement home office

    * Adding a desk to my (upstairs) home office





    * Tips for vehicle/trunk organization



    * Considering a bin/bag system





    * Simplifying kid's shoes



    * A question to start with to know what next steps you need

    * Seasonal declutter:



    * Keeping track of what is in storage









    * Do you have any on simplifying kids' clothes? (big, wearing, grew out of)



    * Decluttering with Kids Guide





    * I’m moving in the next few months and have been working on all the decluttering and packing etc. I have 2 kids under 5. What I notice is that I have a hard time getting started on the jobs involved until the last minute when there is a big push and looming deadline. I’d love to work on a more peaceful and gradual approach to get it all done



    *  How I found myself procrastinating this morning

    * Questions to ask yourself when doing self-inquiry into your own procrastination

    * 153. How to move from ambivalent to ambitious (making change takes more than just willpower)

    * 154. What to do now that you are motivated (simplify getting started)

    * 135. Procrastination tips for moms

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    168. Teaching our kids contentment, on purpose

    168. Teaching our kids contentment, on purpose

    How do we teach our kids contentment? I want to unpack this question from all angles. From why it is hard for us as parents, how we teach them reactively vs on purpose, where the emotion of contentment comes from, the purpose of discontentment and growing our tolerance of discontentment. 



     



     

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    Topics covered in this episode:



    * The difference between being happy vs being content

    * Happiness as a parenting goal can be very defeating and maybe even counterproductive



    * Should happy kids be our parenting goal





    * Recognizing that we live in a culture that is obsessed with happiness



    * The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris 

    * 66. Are you stuck in the hustle for happiness? Finding contentment in momlife





    * Teaching our kids contentment, how we do it reactively and without intention



    * Pretending you're happy



    * Parenting Book: Review for Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child

    * 120. Teaching our kids emotional intelligence





    * Guilt and deprivation



    * The ‘not-enough’ mindset (how to spot a scarcity mindset and shift it to an abundance mindset)









    * Consider how we learn contentment in our own lives 



    * How to really start showing up for your life

    * How To Find Your Enneagram Type (and how it has changed my life)

    * Hard and awesome (from Think The Best of Me)

    * 140. Give your discomfort a purpose #uncomfortableonpurpose

    * 115. A Controlling mom, or a capable mom?

    * Finding Joy In Your Every Day (#theperfectmomentsproject)

    * ...

    • 29 min
    167. Mindful parenting through the struggles, and letting go of perfectionism in motherhood

    167. Mindful parenting through the struggles, and letting go of perfectionism in motherhood

    Being a mom on purpose means stepping into your strengths as well as stepping into your struggles.  This means letting go of perfectionism and the chase to be the ideal mom and have the ideal kids. 



     

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    This episode covers:



    * What is conscious parenting

    * Parenting on auto-pilot, why we do it and how it is different from mindful parenting

    * When our kids are difficult we try to 'out-difficult' them, and what we can do instead

    * How conscious parenting challenges our western parenting culture and how many of us were raised

    * Quote from Dr. Sheflai



    * Unless we address why we can’t embrace our children for precisely who they are, we will forever either seek to mold, control, and dominate them—or we will allow ourselves to be dominated by them.Tsabary, Dr. Shefali. The Conscious Parent (p. 54). Namaste Publishing Inc.. Kindle Edition.





    * How our kid's struggles bring us face to face with our own struggles

    * When our kids aren't easy, they are challenging the things we have conditioned ourselves to be uncomfortable with

    * Letting go of the notion that we are meant to be perfect parents

    * The messy relationships and the struggle matter as much as the peace we crave

    * Hard doesn't mean you are doing it wrong, it often simply means you are doing it



     

    Related links and episodes mentioned

    53. Change your motherhood experience by changing how you make memories



    The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali



    The key elements of Conscious Parenting



    Never Say No by Jan and Mark Foreman



    Three Books That Changed My Mothering



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    Full transcript (unedited)



    0:07

    Hey friends welcome to simple purpose. I'm here to girlfriend Shawna. And this is a follow up episode to episode 166. So I encourage you to stop by and listen to that one versus 13 minutes pretty quick. In that one, we talked about understanding that you can be a mom on purpose because you were made on purpose. It's not a checklist you have to make. It's something that's already inside of you everything you bring into motherhood, your strengths, your struggles, they all matter. They all help your family and you learn and grow together. And I think we can hyper focus on giving our kids this idyllic childhood, I think we can get caught up in all of the Pinterest requirements on how childhood has to look. But the motherhood experience matters just as much it matters. Motherhood matters as much to us as childhood matters to our kids. So our experience matters. This is important. If you want to dig in a little bit into that, check out episode 53 Change your motherhood experience by changing how you make memories. I'll link that in the show notes.

    • 13 min
    166. How to find confidence in being the mom you are, intentional motherhood

    166. How to find confidence in being the mom you are, intentional motherhood

    Motherhood is a journey and there are stepping stones along the way of things we learn. I want to share a few of my stepping stones with you. They are around parenting from our own strengths, rather than focussing on what we are doing wrong. I want to share a few ways you can find confidence within yourself rather than from comparison and external validation. 



     



     

    In this episode I talk about:



    * the Perfect Mom Checklist

    * Making your own list for motherhood

    * Where to start when you want to do motherhood, on purpose

    * Parenting from checklists and comparison and how can create pride or shame

    * Where we try to find shortcuts to confidence

    * Where we can truly find confidence

    * Finding connection and fun in motherhood



     

    Related links and episodes mentioned:

    162. Think the best of me, or not. Allowing the hard and awesome in ourselves and in our lives.



    How this one list can empower you to be the mom you are



    The ‘not-enough’ mindset (how to spot a scarcity mindset and shift it to an abundance mindset)



    76. Why it matters what you think (limiting mindsets in motherhood)



    163. Have fun with your kids, on purpose + reasons we don’t have fun



    The Mom, on Purpose podcast playlist



     







     



    Full transcript (unedited)



    0:00

     This is a place where we just stop for a minute we slow down and we talk about the ways that we can simplify our lives, remove the distractions, remove the clutter, and start living on purpose with intention shutting off that autopilot. Today I want to talk about doing this in motherhood being a mom on purpose, something that's helped me is to think about motherhood as a journey. So I have three kids, they are 11. One's going to be 10 Soon, and one's going to be eight soon. And so I like to think about the journey I've been on over the past 11 years. For me, it really has been a journey where I started off clueless, I mean, my son, my firstborn son, was the first newborn I ever held. I also started off worried, which was my nature, but that I think that's something you bring into motherhood, you're worried about everything you don't know up against everything you're dealing with. And along the way, you learn. You listen, you try, you adjust, you wait, you learn, you learn what the different color poops mean, you learn how to set schedules and rules. You learn how to find peace, when everything is making you anxious. And you learn how to sit through the hard parts. Rather, rather than just scrambling to fix everything all the time you learn your way you learn the journey. And it really is a journey nobody can take for you. I think we're all looking to other people for the solution for the path.

    • 13 min
    165. Spring cleaning urgency + organization tips and inventory strategies that save you money and reduce clutter

    165. Spring cleaning urgency + organization tips and inventory strategies that save you money and reduce clutter

    Spring cleaning had me feeling a mental urgency at ALL THE THINGS I needed to get cleaned in my home. I am sharing how I am approaching that overwhelm. Also sharing how organization and inventory of your stuff can save you money and reduce clutter (starting with the freezer!)



     



     

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    The main points covered in this episode



    * My cleaning goals for last weekend and how I was derailed by spring cleaning mental drama

    * My spring cleaning list and closet jenga

    * Operating from a sense of urgency and how it can lead to shame/resent

    * Paying attention to our thoughts and which thoughts we will 'hop on and run off with'

    * Cleaning out the freezer

    * The hidden costs of stockpiling and having all of the options on hand, scarcity  minset 

    * How to do a food inventory (and save money on groceries!)

    * Organizing things in a way that makes them accessible and visible 

    * Doing an inventory of things to prevent you from doubling up by buying more because you don't realize you have it at home



     

    All the fun links you might like

    61. How we introduced chores to our kids (Saturday Morning Chores)



    60. Doing Chores You Want to Avoid (how I life coached myself to do the dishes)



    @GOCLEANCO on Instagram



    A quick video about thought trains by Russ Harris 



    154. What to do now that you are motivated (simplify getting started)



    15 Practical Tips for Moms to GET STUFF DONE



    78. Small things that can change your whole life (the compound effect)



    A post I shared on IG, four years go, about using the notes app to do storage inventory



    Bitters, I like this peach one by Dillons, the next one I want to try is the Alcohol-Free digestive bitters by Flora



     







    FULL TRANSCRIPT (unedited)



    Welcome to the simple purpose podcast. Around here, we talk about ways that you can simplify your home, your heaart your life. So you can show up right now in whatever season you're in and show up for it on purpose with intention about what you want, and how you want to act and what you want more of and what you want less of. Today, I want to talk about some recent decluttering and cleaning that I was doing the other weekend. And some realizations I came to while I was doing ...

    • 17 min
    164. How I am finding balance in my life this year

    164. How I am finding balance in my life this year

    I was asked to cover this topic in the recent feedback survey. I think it is a great question to ask, and it is one I've ruthlessly searched to the ends of Pinterest to answer, 'how to find balance in motherhood' 



    In this episode, I will share about the extra demands in my life right now and the ways I am finding balance in a very busy season of life of motherhood, school and work. 



     



     

    Topics covered in this episode:



    * What we think 'balance' means culturally for women and moms

    * What I have decided to make it mean for myself 

    * The power of prioritizing and all the reasons it is hard to prioritize

    * What I am saying yes to this year

    * What I am saying no to this year

    * How I plan out my weeks 

    * How I protect my priorities and the reality that it doesn't always look or feel lovely

    * Adjusting things as I go versus having an all or nothing mindset

    * Owning it and not feeling like a victim of my life



    Links you might like:

    Simplify your life series



    What I Learned While Searching for Balance in Motherhood



    The Eisenhower Matrix



    Opportunity costs, talk about this a bit more in How to Define Simple Living for Your Family



    The Life on Purpose Roadmap



    How To Plan Your Day As a Mom (3 Simple Steps)



    @themanwhohasitall



    133. 4 simple habits that make my momlife better



    137. Back to school routines that we have in our house



    Family Rhythms



    144. How to lighten the mental load of DECISION FATIGUE



    150. A new approach to habit change: routine and habit refinement



    69. Will a simpler home bring me peace?



    Working through a bad mood with one simple question



     

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