Each month, Sara and Jay explore topics in sex health, relationships, queer identities, BDSM, kink, sex work, and more. This podcast is only for listeners 18 and older.
Building Trans Justice Into Sex Ed
Sara and Jay finish our discussion of justice-centered sex ed! We discuss moral panics and provide structure, guidance, and questions to ask yourself if you're doing sex ed.
1:30 - Intro
4:59 - WotS: Moral Panic
28:43 - Patreon
32:30 - Main Topic
38:49 - Building Sex Ed
44:32 - Working Backwards
49:11 - Power Dynamics
56:11 - We Can't Do This Work in a Vacuum
59:02 - Helpful Guidelines
1:07:15 - Questions to Ask Yourself
Trans Justice and Sex Ed
This week, Sara and Jay talk about the difference between doing trans-inclusive sex ed and building sex ed based on a justice framework. Also inclusion, virginity, life-long sex ed, and reproductive justice.
1:30 - Intro
3:22 - Accountability Corner
17:57 - Word of the Show
25:00 - Article Discussion
35:09 - Patreon Message
36:40 - Main Topic
41:41 - What's Wrong?
54:12 - Why Make It Better?
1:04:59 - Justice-Centered
1:15:03 - Risk Aware Sex Ed
1:28:00 - Sex Ed isn't Biology Class
Genital Torture and Trans Bodies
Join Jay and Sara as we explore the innies and outies of genital torture play. We'll talk about pain tolerance, dysphoria, safety tips, and give examples of play you might never have thought about!
1:30 - Intro
7:21 - Word of the Show: Pain Tolerance
14:40 - How Do You Find It?
22:40 - Patreon Message
25:57 - What is Genital Torture Play?
29:48 - Why Not Just Use "CBT"?
33:23 - Types of GT Play
52:42 - Trans-Specific Tips for GT
1:10:28 - Harm Reduction
1:23:04 - Negotiating GT
Dysphoria & Sex as a Trans Person
Sara and Jay jump into the first topic discussion of Season 2, how to navigate sex and dysphoria as a trans person! We discuss strategies, validate the struggles, and give some tips from our experience.
1:30 - Intro
2:10 - Word of the Show: Gender Dysphoria
20:09 - Dysphoria Tips
45:46 - Patreon Message
47:54 - Exploring Sex As A Trans Person
59:17 - HRT Effects on Sex and Orgasm
1:19:58 - Final Takeaway Tips
QSE Listener Questions 6
Season 2 kicks off with a question episode catching up on your emails to us over the break! We discuss endometriosis, herpes transmission, identity-based humiliation play, and more! We are so excited to be back in your podcast feed. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/p3FKnWmQTyS8jynNBQ_Mvw
2:35 - Season 2
6:18 - Endometriosis and HRT
20:11 - Humiliation Play
32:26 - Patreon Message
36:32 - Oral Herpes
53:21 - STI Risk with Tongue Piercing
1:05:53 - Wrap Up
1:09:51 - Anti-Fascist Rant
Body Changes on Hormones
Jay and Sara talk about the changes people can expect on testosterone or estrogen, progesterone, and spiro as hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Also discussed: muffing
3:48 - Word of the Show, Muffing
13:13 - Patreon Message
14:46 - Intro to Hormones and HRT
25:21 - Talking with the doctor about HRT and sex
36:26 - Effects of Testosterone
49:17 - Effects of Estrogen
1:01:10 - Effects of Spiro
1:10:07 - Effects of Progesterone
1:15:12 - In Response to Buck Angel
1:26:12 - Wrap-up
A fantastic podcast👌🏾
I learn so much and am often affirmed by listening to these two chat & I think this podcast is a powerful resource for deepening our understandings and ability to articulate our own queer and trans realities🌻
I love QSE!!
This podcast has basically changed my life. I have anxiety, and this is often attached to sex and relationships. Listening to QSE has given me a lot of tools, inspiration and confidence for dealing with this. I'm also a tremendously nerdy person and I just like learning about all of the things, so that's fun (and I very much relate every time Sara mentions that she is also a sex nerd at heart).
As a cis white person looking for ways to expand their understanding of other experiences, I'm grateful to Jay and Sara for doing this work because it's a really valuable space for me to be in to listen and learn. It's pushed me to continue seeking out more ways of diversifying my media diet, challenging my assumptions, and taking allyship action in my community.
Thank you Jay and Sara, you are wonderful humans <3
This Podcast is for EVERYONE
Sara and Jay are the heroes that the world needs right now.
I cannot express enough how much this podcast has spoken to me - on a deep level. I often found myself crying in public places while listening to the hosts tell a story that made me feel seen for the first time and made me like a less defective member of queer community writ large.
Many queer folks I've encountered struggle against the confines imposed by the 'cis-het-white supremacist-patriarchy' by creating new boxes that further restrict who we are and what we can be. I need more voices like Sara's and Jay's in my life - voices that confirm that there is no one way to be queer, no one way to form relationships, no one way to have sex, no one way to experience desire, no one way to discover your gender. Their voices have enabled me to listen to my own.
I have recommended this podcast to everyone in my life - regardless of where they fall on the various identity spectrums. As tiring, as harmful and as frustrating as this world can be sometimes, QSE has given me a little hope that we humans have it within us to be kinder to ourselves and each other.