Each month, Sara and Jay explore topics in sex health, relationships, queer identities, BDSM, kink, sex work, and more. This podcast is only for listeners 18 and older.
Building Trans Justice Into Sex Ed
Sara and Jay are back this week to finish our discussion of justice-centered sex education! This week we discuss moral panics and also provide structure, guidance, and questions to ask yourself to build sex ed centered on trans justice.
We tried to focus on offering structures, guidelines, and tangible ways you can question your own work, but there's no way we could cover everything in one show. For more on this, check out our previous episode, number 63, and also Episodes 1, 9, 11, 21, 23, 24, 34, and 53.
1:30 - Intro
4:59 - Word of the Show: Moral Panic
20:33 - Famous Moral Panics of the Past and Present
28:43 - Patreon Message
32:30 - Main Topic Intro
38:49 - 5 (+2 Extra) Steps for Building Justice-Centered Sex Education
44:32 - Working Backwards to Build a Foundation
49:11 - Power Dynamics and Sex Ed
56:11 - We Can't Do This Work in a Vacuum
59:02 - Helpful Guidelines to Start From
1:07:15 - Questions to Ask Yourself
Sex Education Guidelines:
Trans Justice and Sex Ed
This week, Sara and Jay talk about the difference between "trans-inclusive" sex ed and building sex ed based on a justice framework more broadly. Also discussed, inclusion, virginity, life-long sex ed, and reproductive justice.
1:30 - Intro
3:22 - Accountability Corner
17:57 - Word of the Show: Inclusion
25:00 - "The Language of Appeasement" Article Discussion
35:09 - Patreon Message
36:40 - Main Topic Intro
41:41 - What's Wrong With Sex Ed?
54:12 - Why Make Sex Ed Better?
1:04:59 - Being Justice-Centered
1:15:03 - Risk Aware Sex Ed
1:28:00 - Sex Education isn't a Biology Class
Audre Lorde Reads Uses of the Erotic: www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFHwg6aNKy0 (CW: cissexism, anti-pornography) Text version: https://uk.sagepub.com/sites/default/files/upm-binaries/11881_Chapter_5.pdf
Genital Torture and Trans Bodies
Join Jay and Sara as we explore the innies and outies of genital torture play (sometimes called CBT). We'll talk about pain tolerance, dysphoria, safety tips, and give examples of genital torture play you might never have thought about before!
1:30 - Intro
7:21 - Word of the Show: Pain Tolerance
14:40 - How Do You Find Your Pain Tolerance?
22:40 - Patreon Message
25:57 - What is Genital Torture Play?
29:48 - Why Not Just Use "CBT"?
33:23 - Types of GT Play
52:42 - Trans-Specific Tips for GT
1:10:28 - Harm Reduction Safety Tips
1:23:04 - Negotiating GT
Dysphoria & Sex as a Trans Person
Sara and Jay jump into the first topic discussion of Season 2, how to navigate sex and dysphoria as a trans person! We discuss strategies, validate the struggles, and give some tips from our experience.
1:30 - Intro
2:10 - Word of the Show: Gender Dysphoria
20:09 - Dysphoria Tips
45:46 - Patreon Message
47:54 - Exploring Sex As A Trans Person
59:17 - HRT Effects on Sex and Orgasm
1:19:58 - Final Takeaway Tips
QSE Listener Questions 6
Season 2 kicks off with a question episode catching up on your emails to us over the break! We discuss endometriosis, herpes transmission, identity-based humiliation play, and more! We are so excited to be back in your podcast feed with regular weekly episodes again.
2:35 - Season 2 changes to QSE
6:18 - Endometriosis and Testosterone HRT
20:11 - Identity-based Humiliation Play and Slurs
32:26 - Patreon Message
36:32 - Oral Herpes Transmission and Communicating Boundaries
53:21 - STI Risk with New Tongue Piercing
1:05:53 - Wrap Up
1:09:51 - Bonus! An Anti-Fascist Rant
[Last Week Tonight, Bias in Medicine]
Editors note: I accidentally left the same small clip of audio in the show at the end twice. I don't know how it happened, but I can't redo it without redoing the entire time-coded transcript so I'm leaving it in. I'll try and be more careful in the future.
Body Changes on Hormones
This week, Jay and Sara spend some time talking about the general changes people can expect when starting testosterone or estrogen, progesterone, and spironolactone as hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Also discussed: muffing, exploring new sensations, and a response to Buck Angel's recent fearmongering about the risks of taking testosterone.
3:48 - Word of the Show, Muffing
13:13 - Patreon Message
14:46 - Intro to Hormones and HRT
25:21 - Talking with the doctor about HRT and sex
36:26 - Effects of Testosterone
49:17 - Effects of Estrogen
1:01:10 - Effects of Spironolactone
1:10:07 - Effects of Progesterone
1:15:12 - In Response to Buck Angel's Recent Post About Hysterectomy
1:26:12 - Wrap-up and Tease for Next Week
Direct link to buy Fucking Trans Women by Mira Bellwether: https://payhip.com/b/hRtK
www.instagram.com/p/Bz57jmKjtTj/ (SERIOUS CW for body gore and bloody images. This is the Buck Angel post Jay is responding to around the 1 hour 15 minute mark. I feel we describe it well enough in the show to make our larger point without needing to see the actual picture, but I know some people will want to see the original thing for context.)
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A fantastic podcast👌🏾
I learn so much and am often affirmed by listening to these two chat & I think this podcast is a powerful resource for deepening our understandings and ability to articulate our own queer and trans realities🌻
I love QSE!!
This podcast has basically changed my life. I have anxiety, and this is often attached to sex and relationships. Listening to QSE has given me a lot of tools, inspiration and confidence for dealing with this. I'm also a tremendously nerdy person and I just like learning about all of the things, so that's fun (and I very much relate every time Sara mentions that she is also a sex nerd at heart).
As a cis white person looking for ways to expand their understanding of other experiences, I'm grateful to Jay and Sara for doing this work because it's a really valuable space for me to be in to listen and learn. It's pushed me to continue seeking out more ways of diversifying my media diet, challenging my assumptions, and taking allyship action in my community.
Thank you Jay and Sara, you are wonderful humans <3
This Podcast is for EVERYONE
Sara and Jay are the heroes that the world needs right now.
I cannot express enough how much this podcast has spoken to me - on a deep level. I often found myself crying in public places while listening to the hosts tell a story that made me feel seen for the first time and made me like a less defective member of queer community writ large.
Many queer folks I've encountered struggle against the confines imposed by the 'cis-het-white supremacist-patriarchy' by creating new boxes that further restrict who we are and what we can be. I need more voices like Sara's and Jay's in my life - voices that confirm that there is no one way to be queer, no one way to form relationships, no one way to have sex, no one way to experience desire, no one way to discover your gender. Their voices have enabled me to listen to my own.
I have recommended this podcast to everyone in my life - regardless of where they fall on the various identity spectrums. As tiring, as harmful and as frustrating as this world can be sometimes, QSE has given me a little hope that we humans have it within us to be kinder to ourselves and each other.