Self Talk with Rachel Astarte

Rachel Astarte, LMFT

Self Talk takes a conversational look at how we can show up in the world—for the world. If you're on a journey to your true self, this is your next stop.

  1. Jun 2

    Living the Foundation of Self—Separate Thought From Self: Awareness and the Eternal Self

    Send Rachel a text message. What if your thoughts and emotions are experiences you have, not the essence of who you are? In this episode, we explore: non-duality and the quantum fieldthe difference between awareness and identitywhy emotions rise and fall like waveshow to stop letting thoughts run the showa simple reflective exercise to reconnect with the eternal SelfThis is about reclaiming your power—not by suppressing emotion, but by remembering what remains aware beneath it all. 🌿 Bonus exercise for paid Substack subscribers EPISODE TIMELINE 0:00 – Opening Quote & Theme Ramana Maharshi quote introduces the core inquiry: if thoughts and feelings come and go, what remains? 0:19 – Welcome & Guiding Question Rachel welcomes listeners and shares a client’s question: “What is the emotion of the highest self?” This frames the episode’s central exploration. 0:47 – What Is the Highest Self? Clarification that the highest self does not “have” an emotion. It is non-dual presence, infinite potentiality—both all emotions and none of them. 1:22 – We Are Not Our Thoughts and Emotions Examination of how “I am” language (“I am angry,” “I am excited”) leads to identification with transient experiences instead of true self. 2:08 – Pure Consciousness and Chosen Experience Description of pure consciousness/quantum field “choosing” a potential feeling, which then appears in experience—without defining identity. 2:39 – Not Suppression, Not Spiritual Bypass Important clarification that this work is not about numbing, detachment, or becoming emotionally unavailable, but about relating differently to experience. 3:09 – The Constant Presence of Awareness Introduction of awareness as the “something” that remains through every emotion and thought, pointing to the eternal, capital-S Self. 3:44 – Rethinking the Divine: Not ‘Up There’ Challenge to the belief that the divine or Source is distant or above, and question of where the individual self fits into that framework. 4:14 – Non-Dual View: Atman and Brahman Explanation of Advaita Vedanta’s teaching that Atman (deepest self) is not separate from Brahman (infinite field); the field is what one truly is. 4:57 – Individuation as Expression of the Field Reframing individuality as a precise, necessary expression of the universal field becoming conscious in this form, body, and life. 5:33 – Why Individuality Matters Emphasis that each life is a unique iteration of the whole, underscoring inherent worth and relevance in the broader field of consciousness. 5:58 – Nature of Thoughts: Events in Consciousness Discussion of the volume of daily thoughts and how many are conditioned narratives, not truth—just events passing through consciousness. 6:25 – Inquiry: Who Is Having This Thought? Introduction of the core self-inquiry question that reveals awareness as distinct from any single thought. 6:44 – Nature of Emotions: Waves in the Ocean Description of emotions as energetic experiences shaped by perception and interpretation, rising and falling like waves, never permanent. 7:22 – The Eternal Self Before the Story Pointing to the capital-S Self that exists prior to name, biography, and conditioning: soul, Atman, core being. 7:52 – Awareness as Observer and Origin Clarification that if something notices a thought or emotion, awareness cannot be identical with it; awareness is both observer and origin. 8:26 – Practical Example: Working with Anxiety Application of the teaching to anxiety—shifting from “I am anxious” to “Anxiety is present”—creating space between identity and experience. 9:01 – Host vs. Visitor: The Cottage Metaphor Use of the cottage and long wooden table image to illustrate hosting emotions as visitors rather than becoming them. 9:23 – Suffering Through Identification Explanation of how believing every thought and fusing with emotions increases unnecessary suffering and reactivity. 9:43 – From Reacting to Responding Illustration of how awareness softens reactivity, allowing more grounded, intentional responses to inner weather. 10:02 – The Three Pillars: Non-Judgment, Awareness, Gentleness Recap of the foundational pillars that support a healthy relationship to inner experience and to self. 10:32 – What the Goal Is—and Is Not Reaffirmation that the goal is not to transcend humanity, but to remember that what one truly is is larger than any passing state. 10:57 – Guided Practice: Meeting a Recent Emotion or Thought A brief practice inviting listeners to bring to mind a recent emotion or thought, and gently notice its presence. 11:35 – Self-Inquiry in Practice Questions offered for inner exploration: “Who is having this thought?” “Who is aware of this emotion?” “When it passes, what remains?” 12:10 – Discovering What Remains A pause to rest in whatever arises when the thought or emotion is allowed to move on, pointing again to awareness as the ground. 12:41 – Ocean and Waves: Core Metaphor of Awareness Reinforcement of the image of awareness as the ocean and emotions/thoughts as its waves, always moving, never the whole. 12:58 – Living from the Foundation of Self Integration of the teaching into daily life: thinking and feeling fully while not surrendering identity to temporary inner weather. 13:26 – Closing Reflection and Encouragement Final reminder that the “sky” is never harmed by the weather that passes through it—and neither is true self. Closing blessing to be gentle with oneself. Write Your Self Open is a revolution in self-development that blends guided meditation, journaling, and supportive group discussion led by holistic psychotherapist Rachel Astarte. It's all the benefits of personal transformation + community-building without the constraints of talk therapy.Join anytime. No previous meditation or writing experience necessary.http://writeyourselfopen.com Got a question about your self? Send it to me at rachel@selftalkpodcast.com and it may be featured on a future episode.  Support the show Work with Rachel > foundationofself.com • Subscribe here, at youtube.com/@selftalkpodcast, or wherever you get podcasts. • Music: "Ave Marimba" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0

    16 min
  2. May 5

    Living the Foundation of Self—Receive, Don’t Seek: Manifestation Reimagined

    Send Rachel a text message. If you’ve ever felt like you’re “doing manifestation wrong”… this might shift everything. In this episode, we move beyond vision boards and wishful thinking to explore a deeper truth: You are not separate from what you’re trying to manifest. We talk about:  • why traditional manifestation (think The Secret) can feel limiting • how non-dual awareness changes everything • why language matters (“wanting” vs. “being”) • how to actually work with the field instead of waiting on it • the power of synchronicities as confirmation—not coincidence This is manifestation without pressure, performance, or perfection. 🌿 Bonus exercise for paid Substack subscribers EPISODE TIMELINE [0:00:00] – Perception, Imagination, and the Nature of Reality Opening quotes and framing introduce manifestation as a way of understanding reality itself, not just as a technique for getting what is wanted.[0:00:34] – From Popular Manifestation to a Deeper Lens Manifestation is presented in its familiar, “thoughts create reality” form while also setting up the shift away from a transactional model with the universe.[0:02:29] – The Problem with “Me vs. the Universe” Rachel explores how seeing the universe as a gatekeeper creates anxiety, self-blame, and a sense of spiritual performance pressure.[0:03:26] – Nondual Field of Consciousness and True Manifestation Nondual philosophies are introduced to reframe manifestation as aligning with a field of consciousness one is already part of, rather than asking an external force for favors.[0:04:24] – Negative Thoughts, Neutrality, and Integration Negative or limiting thoughts are reframed as invitations to be processed neutrally rather than suppressed, allowing them to dissolve and lose their power.[0:05:56] – Language, State, and the Reality of Completion Intentions like “my debts are paid” are shown to align with a state of completion, emphasizing that the field reflects one’s embodied state rather than one’s wishes.[0:07:30] – Co-Creation, Action, and the Path Unfolding Through the bagel example, Rachel illustrates that manifestation is co-creative, where action and the availability of conditions meet in a collaborative unfolding.[0:08:29] – When Manifestation “Fails” but Alignment Deepens The Jed McKenna story and the job example demonstrate how apparent failures can actually reveal deeper alignment with the true essence of a desire.[0:10:29] – Synchronicity as the Field Moving Through Self Synchronicities are described as natural expressions of coherence in the field, serving as quiet confirmations of connection and collaboration.[0:11:44] – A Simple Practice of Aligned Manifestation Rachel offers a concise framework—set a clear intention, take aligned action, then release control—to practice manifestation as participation in an intelligent field.[0:12:26] – Remembering Identity as the Field and Closing Blessing The episode closes by affirming that one is the field experiencing itself and inviting ongoing gentleness and trust in the unfolding of reality.Got a question about your self? Send it to me at rachel@selftalkpodcast.com and it may be featured on a future episode.  Support the show Work with Rachel > foundationofself.com • Subscribe here, at youtube.com/@selftalkpodcast, or wherever you get podcasts. • Music: "Ave Marimba" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0

    14 min
  3. Apr 7

    Living the Foundation of Self—Reclaim Your Energy

    Send Rachel a text message. Feeling exhausted, but not from what you actually did? You might be leaking energy. In this episode, we explore: how we unconsciously give our energy awaywhy it leaves us anxious, foggy, and burned outhow to gently call it backand how to avoid leaking energy in the first placeThis is where awareness becomes power. Your energy doesn’t need to be chased, controlled, or protected. It just needs to be brought home. 🌿 Bonus guided meditation for paid Substack subscribers EPISODE TIMELINE 0:00 – What Is “Leaking Energy”? A psychic/emotional drain caused by pouring attention into things you can’t control, often without noticing. 0:45 – Signs Your Energy Is Leaking Hyper-focusing on others, overextending yourself, seeking validation, anxiety, irritation, and feeling scattered. 2:00 – Body Signals + Interoception How tightness, shallow breathing, restlessness, and feeling “pulled outward” show that your energy isn’t centered in you. 3:30 – Step 1: Awareness Noticing “Oh, my energy is leaking” is already the beginning of reclaiming it—no force, just seeing clearly. 4:30 – Step 2: Non-Judgment Reframing leaks as learned safety patterns, not failures; dropping self-blame so shame doesn’t deepen the pattern. 6:00 – Step 3: Calling Your Energy Back A gentle inner practice of visualizing your energy—threads or light—coming back from people, stories, or future scenarios. 7:30 – Example: Storm Anxiety + The News How consuming fear-based news about a snowstorm led to unconscious anxiety and an energy drain, and how Rachel reclaimed it. 9:00 – Step 4: External Alignment + Boundaries Making outer changes—like turning off the news, reprioritizing, or setting boundaries—to support your reclaimed energy. 10:30 – Projection, Relationships + Energy Leaks How obsessing over a partner’s behavior can reveal unmet needs within yourself for listening, love, and support. 12:30 – The Three Pillars in Action + Invitation Using non-judgment, awareness, and gentleness to stabilize your energy—and an invitation to notice leaks and welcome your energy home. 16:56 – Write Your Self Open Program Invitation Information about the ongoing community, the new Monday cohort (April 13, 2026), and how to join for a deeper foundation of self-work. Write Your Self Open is a revolution in self-development that blends guided meditation, journaling, and supportive group discussion led by holistic psychotherapist Rachel Astarte. It's all the benefits of personal transformation + community-building without the constraints of talk therapy.Join anytime. No previous meditation or writing experience necessary.http://writeyourselfopen.com Got a question about your self? Send it to me at rachel@selftalkpodcast.com and it may be featured on a future episode.  Support the show Work with Rachel > foundationofself.com • Subscribe here, at youtube.com/@selftalkpodcast, or wherever you get podcasts. • Music: "Ave Marimba" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0

    20 min
  4. Mar 3

    Living the Foundation of Self—Meditate on This

    Send Rachel a text message. Meditation practice isn’t about trying to throw ourselves away and become something better. It’s about befriending who we are already. — Pema Chödrön In this episode of Self Talk, we redefine what meditation can be—beyond rules, shame, and “shoulds.” We'll explore why so many of us resist meditating, debunk the myth that meditation is about “reaching enlightenment,” and reframe practice as a personal check‑in with Source.  You’ll learn simple, accessible ways to make meditation your own, including a 60‑second drop‑in, a daily self‑alignment practice, and turning everyday activities into a mindfulness practice.  You're also invited to join Write Your Self Open, a guided meditation and reflective writing course that supports your ongoing inner work—and invites you to be lovingly, radically gentle with yourself. EPISODE TIMELINE 00:00 – What Meditation Really Is Pema Chödrön quote, intro to the episode, and why so many of us resist meditation or feel guilty about not doing it.01:08 – Rachel’s First Meditation Attempt as a Child Story of Rachel’s early experience with meditation, boredom, shame, and how that shaped her later practice.03:18 – Common Blocks: Shame, “Shoulds,” and Comparison How meditation becomes another item on the to‑do list, the comparison trap, and the fear of “doing it wrong.”05:23 – Fear of Thoughts and the Quiet Mind A client’s fear of being alone with his thoughts, why quieting the mind can feel scary, and how self‑work helps.06:21 – Why We Don’t Meditate: Enlightenment Myths Why chasing enlightenment through meditation is problematic, non‑duality, and the limits of the ego in this pursuit.08:00 – Real Benefits of Meditation (Mind, Body, Spirit) Nervous system regulation, stress reduction, better sleep, improved focus, and meditation as a “phone call home” to Source.10:45 – No Rules: Making Meditation Your Own Letting go of shame and rigid rules; reframing meditation as a personal check‑in rather than a performance.11:19 – Simple Practices You Can Start Today The 60‑second drop‑in body scan, daily self‑alignment meditation, and “whatever you’re doing, do it” mindfulness in everyday life.15:51 – Guided Meditation & ‘Write Your Self Open’ How guided meditation and reflective writing work in Rachel’s “Write Your Self Open” course, plus details about the new Monday cohort beginning April 13.Write Your Self Open is a revolution in self-development that blends guided meditation, journaling, and supportive group discussion led by holistic psychotherapist Rachel Astarte. It's all the benefits of personal transformation + community-building without the constraints of talk therapy.Join anytime. No previous meditation or writing experience necessary.http://writeyourselfopen.com Got a question about your self? Send it to me at rachel@selftalkpodcast.com and it may be featured on a future episode.  Support the show Work with Rachel > foundationofself.com • Subscribe here, at youtube.com/@selftalkpodcast, or wherever you get podcasts. • Music: "Ave Marimba" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0

    19 min
  5. Feb 3

    Living the Foundation of Self—Bring Fear Closer

    Send Rachel a text message. It’s not that you must be free from fear… What is needed rather than running away or controlling or suppressing or any other resistance is understanding fear; that means watch it; learn about it; come directly into contact with it. —J. Krishnamurti What if fear isn’t something to eliminate—but something asking to be seen? In this episode of Self Talk, we explore the transformative practice of bringing our fears closer rather than avoiding them. When fear is met with presence and curiosity, it loses its power to hijack our inner world and instead becomes a source of insight, integration, and self-trust. Together, we’ll look at why we avoid fear, how avoidance quietly shapes our behavior, and how welcoming even the most uncomfortable parts of ourselves creates inner transparency and resilience.  At the heart of it all is the Foundation of Self: the understanding that each of us is a unique expression of Pure Consciousness—and nothing within us is separate or unworthy of belonging. EPISODE TIMELINE [0:00:00 – 0:00:38] Opening & Theme Krishnamurti quote on understanding fear and brief introduction to the season’s focus on practicing the foundation of self. The core theme of “bringing fear closer” is introduced. [0:00:38 – 0:03:10] Fear as Protection Fear is framed as an evolutionary protection mechanism. Its role in the nervous system and its destabilizing psychological impact are outlined. [0:03:10 – 0:05:40] Underdeveloped Ego & Avoidance The underdeveloped ego is described as equating fear with danger and annihilation. Common avoidance patterns—distraction, overworking, numbing, and spiritual bypassing—are named. [0:05:40 – 0:07:50] Unnamed Fear & Anxiety Unacknowledged fear is shown to become anxiety and other symptoms like irritability and self-sabotage. A client story illustrates how vague fear can be clarified into a specific, workable concern. [0:07:50 – 0:09:40] Fear as a Frightened Child Fear is reimagined as a frightened child seeking reassurance. “Bringing it closer” is presented as turning toward fear with steadiness and curiosity, held by the larger Self. [0:09:40 – 0:12:20] Naming & Integrating Fear The importance of naming and feeling fear without judgment is highlighted. Fear is shown to carry old stories that can be updated when brought into conscious awareness. [0:12:20 – 0:15:00] Wholeness & Congruency Healing is framed as integrating, not eliminating, inner parts. The “cottage of the self” metaphor illustrates welcoming all parts to create congruency between inner and outer life. [0:15:00 – 0:18:00] Consciousness & Belonging Each person is described as a unique expression of pure consciousness. From this view, nothing within is foreign, and fear loses power to enforce a sense of isolation. [0:18:00 – 0:20:00] Daily Practice Invitation Listeners are invited to notice one moment of fear and gently bring it closer. Simple witnessing with non-judgment is offered as a daily integrative practice. [0:20:00 – End] Course Mention & Closing Brief invitation to the Write Yourself Open course with basic schedule and contact information. The episode ends with a reminder to meet oneself with gentleness. Write Your Self Open is a revolution in self-development that blends guided meditation, journaling, and supportive group discussion led by holistic psychotherapist Rachel Astarte. It's all the benefits of personal transformation + community-building without the constraints of talk therapy. Join anytime. No previous meditation or writing experience necessary. http://www.writeyourselfopen.com Got a question about your self? Send it to me at rachel@selftalkpodcast.com and it may be featured on a future episode.  Support the show Work with Rachel > foundationofself.com • Subscribe here, at youtube.com/@selftalkpodcast, or wherever you get podcasts. • Music: "Ave Marimba" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0

    14 min
  6. Jan 6

    Living the Foundation of Self—Be Genuinely Curious

    Send Rachel a text message. You have built your Foundation of Self; now it's time to start living it. In this episode of Self Talk, we talk about Genuine Curiosity—the foundational tool at the heart of the Foundation of Self framework. We'll revisit the three core pillars of the work—non-judgment, awareness, and gentleness—and explain why genuine curiosity is the guide you'll return to time and again as you continue to develop your Self. Shift from self-judgment to self-understanding, using curiosity to explore thoughts, emotions, patterns, and relationships with compassion and clarity.  We'll also explore how genuine curiosity transforms our interactions with others, reduces ego-driven narratives, and helps us remember our deeper connection to one another and to Source itself. Be more curious than defensive. —Brené Brown EPISODE TIMELINE Opening Quote & Welcome (0:00–0:02) Brené Brown’s reminder to “be more curious than defensive” sets the tone as Rachel introduces this season’s focus: living the foundation of self.Foundation of Self & Genuine Curiosity (0:02–0:04) A brief recap of last season’s foundation work and an introduction to genuine curiosity as the base layer for relating to self, others, and reality without judgment.The Three Pillars Recap (0:04–0:07) Non-judgment, awareness, and gentleness are revisited as the core pillars that allow genuine curiosity to function without collapsing into criticism or control.What Genuine Curiosity Sounds Like (0:07–0:12) Rachel models how genuine curiosity sounds in inner dialogue and explains how it differs from judgment, emphasizing suspension of shaming “othering.”Curiosity in Inner Work – Examples (0:12–0:18) Through real-life examples (repeating relationship patterns, “I hate everybody,” and not progressing fast enough), she shows how to investigate the origins of thoughts and behaviors as an objective observer.Curiosity in Relationships (0:18–0:24) Genuine curiosity is applied to interactions with others, helping us not take things personally, widen our lens, and create space for compassion and connection.Deeper Truth & Sacred Curiosity (0:24–0:28) Rachel frames us as ambassadors of source—unique expressions of consciousness—and describes curiosity as a sacred way that awareness comes to know itself.Daily Practice Invitation (0:28–0:32) Listeners are invited to notice at least one moment each day when they choose curiosity over judgment and to meet their discoveries with gentleness.Closing & Offerings (0:32–0:36) Rachel shares opportunities to go deeper via the Write Your Self Open class and one-on-one work.Write Your Self Open is a revolution in self-development that blends guided meditation, journaling, and supportive group discussion led by holistic psychotherapist Rachel Astarte. It's all the benefits of personal transformation + community-building without the constraints of talk therapy.Join anytime. No previous meditation or writing experience necessary.http://writeyourselfopen.com Got a question about your self? Send it to me at rachel@selftalkpodcast.com and it may be featured on a future episode.  Support the show Work with Rachel > foundationofself.com • Subscribe here, at youtube.com/@selftalkpodcast, or wherever you get podcasts. • Music: "Ave Marimba" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0

    20 min
  7. 2025-12-02

    Building Your Foundation of Self—Interoception: Listening to the Body’s Wisdom

    Send Rachel a text message. In this episode, we explore interoception—the inner sense that lets us feel and understand what’s happening inside the body. This often-overlooked skill forms the foundation of emotional intelligence, intuition, self-trust, and conscious decision-making. You’ll learn why the underdeveloped ego resists inner sensation, how interoception connects us to our Highest Self, and simple daily practices to help you strengthen this essential inner-listening skill. We'll also practice a short guided exercise to help you return to your body gently and begin building a deeper, more compassionate relationship with your inner world. This is a grounding episode for anyone seeking clarity, alignment, or a more embodied path forward. ✨ Bonus for Listeners Paid subscribers to Rachel’s Substack, Foundation of Self, will receive exclusive access to her four-session video course: Interoception: Your Body's Gift for Personal Transformation.  As a thank-you for tuning in today, Rachel is offering a free 3-month paid subscription so you can experience the work deeply and at your own pace. Claim it here: http://rachelastarte.substack.com/selftalk Timeline 00:00 – Introduction & Framing Beginning thoughts on tuning into the body, the concept of interoception, and episode intentions.01:16 – What is Interoception? Defining interoception and its distinction from exteroception and proprioception.Its role in sensing inner truth and emotional awareness.02:18 – Why Interoception Matters Interoception as the root of self-awareness.Physical signals as first messengers for emotion and intuition.04:10 – Obstacles to Interoception Stories about ignoring or distrusting the body.Client experience of "living from the neck up."The underdeveloped ego’s resistance to inner sensation.06:13 – Working with the Ego Understanding why the ego fears inner growth.Reframing the ego as something to develop rather than suppress.08:00 – Building Interoceptive Skills Everyday practices: daily check-ins, mindful movement, dialoguing with sensations, and inviting the highest self’s guidance.10:11 – Benefits of Interoception Grounding, greater confidence, better decisions, and feeling safe within oneself.11:05 – Guided Practice Brief interoceptive pause: bringing attention to sensation, breathing, movement, and asking for inner guidance.13:16 – Integration & Closing Thoughts Interoception as a bridge between body, mind, and spirit.Coming home to one’s true nature.14:14 – Community Invitation Information and invitation to join the "Write Yourself Open" course for continued group and individual work. Got a question about your self? Send it to me at rachel@selftalkpodcast.com and it may be featured on a future episode.  Support the show Work with Rachel > foundationofself.com • Subscribe here, at youtube.com/@selftalkpodcast, or wherever you get podcasts. • Music: "Ave Marimba" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0

    16 min
  8. 2025-11-04

    Building Your Foundation of Self—Creating Boundaries, Not Walls

    Send Rachel a text message. In this episode of Self Talk, we discuss the true purpose of healthy boundaries—and why they’re actually acts of compassion, not separation.  Beginning with the core mantra, “My boundaries benefit both of us,” we'll reframe boundaries as soulful practices that protect our inner peace while deepening authentic connection. We'll also unpack the difference between walls and boundaries, the role of the underdeveloped ego in boundary resistance, and how consulting our Highest Self can transform difficult exchanges into moments of clarity, honesty, and mutual respect. You'll walk away with a clearer understanding of what boundaries are, how to recognize when one is needed, and simple, compassionate steps for setting limits rooted in love—for self and others. ✨ Bonus for Listeners Paid subscribers to Rachel’s Substack, Foundation of Self, will receive exclusive access to her full one-hour Boundaries, Not Walls training video. And as a thank-you for tuning in today, Rachel is offering a free 3-month paid subscription so you can experience the work deeply and at your own pace. Claim it here: http://rachelastarte.substack.com/selftalk A heart-centered, grounding conversation for anyone ready to build healthier relationships through clarity, compassion, and courage. Timeline: [0:00:00] IntroductionQuote on boundaries and the value of self.[0:00:24] Applying Inner Work ExternallySetting the tone: using non-judgment, awareness, and gentleness in interactions with others.[0:01:08] Boundaries Mantra Shared“My boundaries benefit both of us.”[0:01:18] Traditional Understanding vs. True PurposeBoundaries as bridges (not walls).[0:02:02] Definition of BoundariesBoundaries as acts of self-respect and relational respect. [0:02:52] Consequences of Lack of BoundariesPeople-pleasing, burnout, building unhealthy walls vs. healthy boundaries.[0:03:25] When to Set BoundariesSignals that a boundary is needed (feeling drained, resentful, anxious, guilty).[0:04:16] Inner Resistance and the “Small s Self”Addressing fear voices, moving to listen to the Highest Self for healthier boundaries.[0:05:38] How to Build Healthy Boundaries — 3 Steps[0:07:19] When Others Don’t Honor Your BoundariesStep-by-step response[0:10:16] Personal and Relational BenefitsIncreased freedom, confidence, authenticity; deeper relationships.[0:10:58] Addressing People-PleasersImportance of boundaries for even the most compassionate individuals.[0:11:41] Example: Jesus and the Money ChangersBiblical illustration emphasizing strong and compassionate boundaries.[0:13:01] Closing InvitationEncouragement to practice loving boundaries.Got a question about your self? Send it to me at rachel@selftalkpodcast.com and it may be featured on a future episode.  Support the show Work with Rachel > foundationofself.com • Subscribe here, at youtube.com/@selftalkpodcast, or wherever you get podcasts. • Music: "Ave Marimba" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0

    15 min

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