Single & Mighty: Build a great life after divorce or separation Carmel Ecker and Lindsay Carlson

Divorce can blow up our lives -- but it can also be a massive opportunity to start over and build something new and amazing.
Our guest today wants newly separated or divorced parents to know is that the best part of your life is ahead of you.
In 2021 Jason Scriven's 27-year marriage ended in divorce, he moved in with his parents, lost his job, and had no car... all within the span of three months.
Anyone would say it was a brutal year.
Jason found his way through it. Figured out who he wanted to be, re-thought his career, and found a completely new path.
A year and a half later, we think you'll be inspired by where's he is now with his life.
Jason now advises people on how to thrive, not just survive after separation or divorce. He learned the hard way, but you don't have to.
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Find out Jason's best tips and hear his story: 
07:24 How to prioritize self-care during difficult life transitions like divorce. 11:20 When to lean on your support system for both practical and emotional support. 14:20 Building trust with your children through upheaval. 26:24 Focusing on growth over material things or past resentments. 38:40 Accepting that you can't control the changes happening -- and what you can control instead.To connect with Jason & for this episode's show notes, head to: https://singleandmighty.com/starting-over-divorce-coach-jason-scriven/
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What happens when you suddenly become a single parent in tough circumstances? Today we talk to Zeta Cosman -- a newly-single parent putting her life back together after a tough breakup.
Zeta’s an incredible go-getter and a powerful example of dealing with challenges head-on. A lot of us can learn from her story, whether we’re new single parents or long-divorced. 

We also loved how Zeta realized what sort of parent she wanted to become, and consciously worked to change her habits and become a better parent. She’s now a certified parenting coach and helps others who want to stop yelling and start enjoying a healthier relationship with their kids. 
Listen for:
Healing through counseling, parent coaching, and networking events, gaining insight into your own patterns. The challenges of being a single mother with most of the parenting responsibilities after a difficult divorce. 7:54Realizing a relationship is toxic, both emotionally and financially.Setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care in relationships.Dealing with addiction in an ex.Co-parenting challenges.Dealing with grief after ending a major relationship (or divorce).Developing your support system during difficult times.Parenting strategies Zeta teaches. 17:44Nervous system awareness. 30:00The importance of getting past shame and asking for help in parenting. 35:43The example we set for our kids when working through difficult issues.Prioritizing self-care and work-life balance as a solo parent. 46:51
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This episode is all about finding your own self-worth and learning to trust your judgement. We loved this conversation for anyone who may be facing trauma or domestic abuse, or finding your confidence again after some hard knocks. 
Some key lessons and insights from Rebecca's story include:
It's important to take time after a difficult relationship to reflect on what you want and don't want in a partnerHow Rebecca learned to set healthy boundaries and not rush into another relationship for fear of being aloneRecognizing the gradual nature of abuse and not blaming yourself for ending up in an unhealthy situationHow telling your story can help you own your experience, feel less shame, and see that you've grown from hard timesHow finding people who make you feel safe enough to share allows you to fully show up in relationshipsHow keeping difficult experiences inside can feel lonely, while telling your story helps you reclaim power over your narrative Learning to speak your own truthBy owning every part of your journey - even the parts that once brought shame - you see how far you've come.
Rebecca shares the eye-opening discovery that showed her one relationship had slowly shrunk her world. Plus, how making friends outside romance helped her kids see healthy interactions and find her true self.
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Today's conversation started with one little question: what does it mean to hit the "reset button" when things don't go our way? 
Setbacks are hard. Keeping it all together, while trying to be great parents for our kids, growing businesses, dating, and going after personal goals... it can be messy.
Carmel and Lindsay have a lot to say about this - especially since taking a few weeks off of the podcast. We're back and committed to a third season here for you. 
This one's not an interview. It's the two of us catching up on some big lessons we've learned this year -- and in our 10+ years as single parents. 
We talk about: 
What to do when a longstanding co-parenting agreement no longer fitsMaking time for dating and slowing down enough to nurture a relationshipSetbacks we’ve both faced lately and the self-care strategies we turn toGetting past mental blocks and going after what we want in lifeThe sometimes-hard reality of feeling isolated or lonely as a single parentWhat saying "yes" to our goals looks like in the long termEnjoying Single & Mighty? Please help us to reach more single parents:
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Today, we talk to Danusia Malina-Derben, a solo mum with a jaw-dropping list of accomplishments. She's also one of the most supportive women you could ever talk to... someone you'd just love to sit down with for a really long late-night chat. 
We just couldn't wait to share this one with you. 

Danusia became a single parent during a pregnancy with triplets. She made the bold decision to get out of a dangerous situation and lead life on her own terms -- and did she ever. 
After earning her PhD while parenting young children, Danusia is now a sought-after consultant, working with some of the world’s biggest brands. She’s an author, speaker, and inspiration to women worldwide. 

She’s a solo parent of 10 kids (seven of whom are now grown). And she knows what it is to raise neurodivergent, gifted children with additional needs. 

“I'm the kind of single parent that has 24/7 responsibility.”

Danusia tells us, “I want to stress the incredible opportunities that being a single parent brings. It's tough, of course, but being untethered to demands and constraints of someone else can be wonderful. I have been able to accomplish so much because I'm a solo parent.”

“I was able to do this NOT because I'm superwoman but because I've an army of staff. But how do we realise our own potential while holding space for our children as they grow into themselves?” It’s a tough road sometimes, but growing into our own potential is worth it. 

Danusia is host of the acclaimed School for Mothers Podcast that challenges old narratives and practices that limit the potential of individual mothers as their own people. Watch for her new podcast project, Parents Who Think. 
Danusia’s written two culture-changing books: 
NOISE: A Manifesto Modernising Motherhood and then, SPUNK: A Manifesto Modernising Fatherhood.We can’t wait to see what’s next for Danusia!
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Show Markers: 
(00:02:14 - 00:05:21): Danusia discusses her path to becoming a single parent, emphasizing the choice for her and her children's safety. "I got to being a single parent by making a choice...about the safety of my children."(00:05:21 - 00:07:38): She talks about the empowerment and autonomy found in being a single parent. "I've actively stayed single...it is an act of rebellion. As women, it's a revolutionary act to choose to be single."(00:07:50 - 00:09:58): Danusia values the autonomy of being single, enabling her to make decisions without needing approval from a partner. "Autonomy. I do not have to refer to anybody...I don’t have to explain myself."(00:17:00 - 00:19:31): She discusses societal pressures and expectations placed on women, particularly single mothers. "We are...seen as dangerous women when we are not tethered to a man."(00:31:00 - 00:32:45): Danusia encourages single parents to pursue their passions and create fulfilling lives regardless of their relationship status. "It's about choosing your own needs...settling isn’t worth it at any cost."(00:32:45 - 00:34:56): Danusia talks about her books, "Noise" and "Spunk," which explore modern motherhood and fatherhood, challenging traditional narratives. "Noise...is the underpinning myths about what it takes to be a mother and to be yourself still."

Can you be a “good mom” if your kids don’t live primarily with you? 
This story touches on one of the more vulnerable possibilities we can imagine as single parents. 
For Carina, that meant not having her kids live with her. 
As heartbreaking as that may sound, for Carina, it was a chance to grow and rediscover her sense of self. 
Today, Carina has a powerful sense of self, she's found joy and laughter in her home, and (with her partner) she coaches others through their relationships. She’s clear on what she wants, knows how to set boundaries, and she has a lot to teach us. 
She's also created a space and a life her kids enjoyed spending time in. 
Carina shows how important it is to be true to yourself, and make decisions that are best for your family's specific situation -- despite social pressures that may tell us otherwise. She truly supported her children’s choices and life paths, no matter what that looked like for her. 
We loved this conversation with Carina. It reminded us that every parenting situation is unique, and that we always need to remember the bigger picture for ourselves and our kids.
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