The OutSpoken Girlfriend with Naomi Clark Naomi Clark

*Heads Up- This is a re-release episode going way back to episode 19 of the podcast.  Please note in this episode there is use of ableist language where I reference the term ‘blind-spot.’  I am sorry for perpetuating harm by using this term.  Below in the show notes are resources to help educate on ableism and ableist language.  Please take a few minutes to do research on ableism as this is one step we can all take in creating a just and inclusive culture*
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I’m sure you’ve heard the expression “train people how to treat you.” On today’s show we are talking about how to “train YOURSELF to treat yourself” That’s done by demonstrating a high level of Self Integrity. 
 
It’s knowing you always got your own back. It’s knowing how to follow through on doing what’s right for you. It’s knowing you will be true to self. It’s knowing you can make a mistake or miss the mark and still be in integrity.
 
We live our lives one day at a time.  And there is no greater peace of mind than knowing you have lived that day in integrity with self. That my friend is how we can make this our Super Power.
 
Below are some key insights and learnings from today’s episode:
 
Learn more about the relationship between your values, your spending decisions, and self-integrity  How honoring decisions you have made for yourself enhances your self trust Why practicing self-advocacy is essential to developing a trusting relationship with yourself. Why it’s important to have an open mind and avoid falling into an ‘echo chamber’ Why it’s important to take into account the season of life you are within as that can impact how you go about progressing towards your goals.   
This is an important topic we are covering on today's episode.  Please listen, subscribe, and share the episode with folks who will benefit from this topic.
 
Naomi, The OutSpoken Girlfriend
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Episode Resources
Ableism 101 by Ashley Eisenmenger
Words Matter And It's Time To Explore The Meaning Of "Ableism" by Andrew Pulrang
 
JourneyGurl Magic Productions- The OutSpoken Girlfriend® podcast is edited by JourneyGurl Magic Productions. For more information about the production company- Click Here
 
Land Lineage I record The OutSpoken Girlfriend® podcast from Decatur, GA in the United States - which is the traditional home and territory of the Muscogee Creek Nation.  Use this map to research Native American traditional territories where you live- https://native-land.ca/
Voting Resources
It’s never too late to understand resources available to eligible voters! All elections are important, including your local, county, and state elections.  All votes are important! Your voice is your vote!
Click Here- US Senator Raphael Warnock's Speech On Voting- Senator Raphael Warnock represents the state of Georgia in the Senate of The United States.  This was his first speech as a Senator where he talked about how the right to vote is fundamental to democracy. I encourage everyone to watch this.
Click Here- Helpful Resources For Voting  provides numerous resources for how to get important information such as your polling location and tips on what to do if you run into issues while voting.
Click Here- Quick Overview of Votings Right Act of 1965 - this is a you.tube video that is about 10 minutes long and will give you the basics in understanding this landmark legislation.
Click Here- New York Time article that provides an overview of the changes made to the Voting Rights Act which removed protections against voter suppression efforts
 
Contact 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theoutspokengirlfriend/  (@theoutspokengirlfriend)
My Website: www.nao

Today on the podcast I am talking about how "financial freedom" is a farce and a terrible money goal to have for yourself.  While there may be variations on how one defines "financial freedom" for themselves- it's still quite common for most folks to have "zero debt" as a pre-requisite of "financial freedom."  Put another way, this means you can't be financially free if you are paying back debt. And this my friend, is the problem. In fact, it's not just one problem- there are TWO problems with this definition.  This is such a problematic concept that I'm dedicating a full episode to this topic. 



Below are some key insights and learnings from today’s episode:
 
Why I coined the terms Mindset Masquerade and Debt Shaming Culture  How to leverage an understanding of the Mindset Masquerade and Debt Shaming Culture when it comes to seeking “financial freedom.” Why it’s incorrect and incongruent to equivocate working hard with wealth The danger of making your “financial freedom” contingent on a future goal or version of yourself The importance of financial literacy including how to use debt as leverage.  
This is an important topic we are covering on today's episode.  Please listen, subscribe, and share the episode with folks who will benefit from this topic.
 
Naomi
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Episode Resources
Episode 33  The Invisible Predator In Your Finances
Episode 44 Debt Shaming, Financial Freedom, And The Mindset Masquerade
Episode 82 Remediating Falsehoods About Money, Work, and Wealth
 
JourneyGurl Magic Productions- The OutSpoken Girlfriend® podcast is edited by JourneyGurl Magic Productions. For more information about the production company- Click Here
 
Land Lineage I record The OutSpoken Girlfriend® podcast from Decatur, GA in the United States - which is the traditional home and territory of the Muscogee Creek Nation.  Use this map to research Native American traditional territories where you live- https://native-land.ca/
Voting Resources
It’s never too late to understand resources available to eligible voters! All elections are important, including your local, county, and state elections.  All votes are important! Your voice is your vote!
Click Here- US Senator Raphael Warnock's Speech On Voting- Senator Raphael Warnock represents the state of Georgia in the Senate of The United States.  This was his first speech as a Senator where he talked about how the right to vote is fundamental to democracy. I encourage everyone to watch this.
Click Here- Helpful Resources For Voting  provides numerous resources for how to get important information such as your polling location and tips on what to do if you run into issues while voting.
Click Here- Quick Overview of Votings Right Act of 1965 - this is a you.tube video that is about 10 minutes long and will give you the basics in understanding this landmark legislation.
Click Here- New York Time article that provides an overview of the changes made to the Voting Rights Act which removed protections against voter suppression efforts
 
Contact 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theoutspokengirlfriend/  (@theoutspokengirlfriend)
My Website: www.naomiscottclark.com
Email Me:  hello@naomiscottclark.com

Today on the podcast we are talking about the power of progress.  We live in a society and culture that is very much results oriented.  I think there is such a hyper-focus on outcomes, results, and goals that we can miss a lot the goodness that comes along the way. 
 
In this episode I also shared about a major podcast goal that took almost 2 years to complete.  If I’d only focused on the goal I would have missed out on countless wins, learnings, aha moments, and goodness along the way.  And life is too short to miss out on goodness!
 
I will be covering four mindset shifts you can take to reorient yourself to focus on progress instead of results and outcomes. I want you to pull out a pen and notebook for this episode, take notes and carve out some time for reflection.
 
Below are some key insights and learnings from today’s episode:
Your power is in the present. Recognizing this is how we can have some impact and influence over our future circumstances and results.   How to avoid falling into what I call the “Bang Fizzle Pitfall”- entering into a commitment with excitement for it only peter out and come to an end.   How to recognize when personal development and improvement becomes unhealthy What it means to be in a state of expansion and how this can we can get a wider perspective on all options you have available as you progress towards a desired outcome. Why it’s important to take into account the season of life you are within as that can impact how you go about progressing towards your goals.   
This is an important topic we are covering on today's episode.  Please listen, subscribe, and share the episode with folks who will benefit from this topic.
 
Naomi, The OutSpoken Girlfriend®
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Sign up to get More Money, More Power, an email I send a few times a month. Over the next 4 weeks I am doing a deep dive on how to cultivate self-trust when it comes to your money. You can sign up for More Money, More Power Click Here.
 
Join my free, virtual workshop “Let’s Make Power Moves (f*ck the money stories”) on Saturday, August 28th at 12pm-1:30pm EST. A recording will be provided to all folks who register Click Here
 
Episode Resources
Episode 67: Avoid The Bang Fizzle Trap Of New Year's Resolutions 
Episode 68: Behind The Scenes: From Discomfort To Courage
 
JourneyGurl Magic Productions- The OutSpoken Girlfriend® podcast is edited by JourneyGurl Magic Productions.
Land Lineage I record The OutSpoken Girlfriend® podcast from Decatur, GA in the United States - which is the traditional home and territory of the Muscogee Creek Nation.  Use this map to research Native American traditional territories where you live- https://native-land.ca/
Voting Resources
It’s never too late to understand resources available to eligible voters! All elections are important, including your local, county, and state elections.  All votes are important! Your voice is your vote!
 
Click Here- US Senator Raphael Warnock's Speech On Voting- Senator Raphael Warnock represents the state of Georgia in the Senate of The United States.  This was his first speech as a Senator where he talked about how the right to vote is fundamental to democracy. I encourage everyone to watch this.
 
Click Here- Helpful Resources For Voting  provides numerous resources for how to get important information such as your polling location and tips on what to do if you run into issues while voting.
Click Here- Quick Overview of Votings Right Act of 1965 - this is a you.tube video that is about 10 minutes long and will give you the basics in understanding this landmark legislation.
Click Here- New York Time article that provides an overview of the changes made to the Voting Rights Act which removed protections against voter suppression efforts
 
Contact 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theoutspokengirlfriend/  (@theoutspokengirlfriend)
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Today on the podcast we are talking about the power of practicing radical self-advocacy.  I call this radical because for many folks who have marginalized and intersectional identities, the practice of standing up for yourself can be a radical act within a society and culture that does not recognize the humanity and rights of all individuals.  Practicing self-advocacy is a form of self-love and of self-care.  
 
For women and folks impacted by misogyny and sexism, there is a risk in practicing self-advocacy because we are socialized as girls and women to be likeable, to be pleasant, to be nice, to put and to put other folks’ comfort ahead of our own.  This is a radical act when we are living within a society that has bias, prejudice, and discrimination built into the fabric of our culture. 
 
So the reality is one must be strategic in how you go about being a self-advocate, you need to understand the power dynamics at play within any situation, but what we are not going to do is allow worry about our likeability and perceived lack of humility to keep us from standing up for ourselves and our interests.
 
Each time you stand up for yourself, make your interests known, communicate your non-negotiables, and are honest with yourself and others you are and living in alignment with your values. You practicing self-advocacy in your personal life is a power move.
 
Below are some key insights from today’s episode:
The power of self-advocacy and how it's a crucial element to your self-care routine.   Practicing self-advocacy won't guarantee a desired outcome but it will always be of benefit to you.   Why self-advocacy is a power move especially for folks who have experienced bias, discrimination, and prejudice from the past and in the present. Why it’s not always easy to be a self-advocate due to how girls and women have been socialized The powerful examples of how Simone Biles and Naomi Osaka- premier athletes and women of color who have unapologetically self-advocated for themselves by putting their mental and emotional health as a priority over profit. Learn three mindset shifts that can help you go from information about self-advocacy to implementation  
This is an important topic we are covering on today's episode.  Please listen, subscribe, and share the episode with folks who will benefit from this topic.
 
Naomi, The OutSpoken Girlfriend®
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Sign up to get More Money, More Power, an email I send a few times a month. Over the next 4 weeks I am doing a deep dive on how to cultivate self-trust when it comes to your money. You can sign up for More Money, More Power Click Here.
 
Join my free, virtual workshop “Let’s Make Power Moves (f*ck the money stories”) on Saturday, August 28th at 12pm-1:30pm EST. A recording will be provided to all folks who register Click Here
 
Episode Resources
Episode 41 - Speaking Truth To Power With Heart, Honesty, And Humility
Episode 42- Power Moves, Humility, And Watch Outs For Women
Simone Biles Instagram Page
Naomi Osaka Instagram Page
Reference: 80 Ways To Say No (https://gonaturalenglish.com/how-to-say-no-politely)
 
JourneyGurl Magic Productions- The OutSpoken Girlfriend® podcast is edited by JourneyGurl Magic Productions. I highly recommend them for anyone interested in starting their podcasting journey.
For more information about the production company- Click Here
 
Land Lineage I record The OutSpoken Girlfriend® podcast from Decatur, GA in the United States - which is the traditional home and territory of the Muscogee Creek Nation.  Use this map to research Native American traditional territories where you live- https://native-land.ca/
Voting Resources
It’s never too late to understand resources available to eligible voters! All elections are important, including your local, county, and state elections.  All votes are important! You

In some areas we are brimming with self-trust, and in other areas...not so much. And that's okay. The process of cultivating self-trust is a life-long practice.  Because of this, it helps to be reminded that doubt is part of the human experience.   
This can include doubt and uncertainty when it comes to making decisions about money. When it comes to making money decisions, our thoughts and beliefs about money are guiding our actions.  Money does not spend itself.  Money does not save itself. Money does not invest itself.  Money does not earn itself. We are the ones making the decisions.  
 
But we are making money decisions within a belief system. Our belief system is something to help us to make sense of the world.  Our belief systems act as a filter through which we view the world and our place in it.    And countless beliefs are interwoven within our belief systems.  
 
We have beliefs about ourselves.  Beliefs about our self-worth and our capabilities.  Beliefs about what we "should" do (or not do) with our money.  We have beliefs about our partners, spouses, and folks with whom we share financial responsibilities. Often times our beliefs about money are instilled in us early on, as children.  
 
There are the beliefs we are told outright about money from our families, elders, friends, and communities. There are the beliefs placed upon us by society and the culture we live- in terms of who gets to have money and who does not.  Who is good with money and who is not? Who is worthy of investment and who is not?
 
Listen to today’s episode where we cover the following key topics:
The concept of belief and those beliefs we hold both at the conscious and subconscious levels. Because there is no talking about money without talking about beliefs and how it shows up in our day to day decisions which includes decisions around money.  Some of the common money stories and beliefs that can get in the way of your goals.   Learn an easy and simple method on how you can flip the script on some of the money beliefs that may be getting in your way.     
This is an important topic we are covering on today's episode.  
 
Naomi
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Sign up to get More Money, More Power, an email I send a few times a month. Over the next 4 weeks I am doing a deep dive on how to cultivate self-trust when it comes to your money. You can sign up for More Money, More Power Click Here.
 
Interested in my work as a Feminist Money Coach- check out my affordable workshops Click Here
 
Episode Resources
The phrase "flip the script" originates from the graffiti scene and culture, which rose from the Black and Latino neighborhoods of New York City alongside hip-hop music and street subcultures in the 1970s and 80s. Early graffiti artists were commonly called "writers" or "taggers" (individuals who write simple "tags," or their stylized signatures, with the goal of tagging as many locations as possible.) The goals was to have one's work seen by as many people as possible, in as many places as possible. So taking a rivals tag name and replicating it upside down or backwards was a way to showcase one's own superior skills. It was a way to show a rival's "script" or "tag" was so simple you could replicate it any way.  This is where "flip the script" originates and it’s important for us to recognize it – Click Here to read more.



JourneyGurl Magic Productions- The OutSpoken Girlfriend podcast is edited by JourneyGurl Magic Productions. I highly recommend them for anyone interested in starting their podcasting journey.
For more information about the production company- Click Here
 
Land Lineage I record The OutSpoken Girlfriend podcast from Decatur, GA in the United States - which is the traditional home and territory of the Muscogee Creek Nation.  Use this map to research Native American traditional territories wher