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Exploring our innate wisdom, well-being and resilience with host Alexandra Amor. Monday episodes answer listener questions. Thursday episodes feature guest interviews with teachers, coaches, authors and others who are exploring the inside-out understanding. Learn more and find transcripts at http://UnbrokenPodcast.com

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Exploring our innate wisdom, well-being and resilience with host Alexandra Amor. Monday episodes answer listener questions. Thursday episodes feature guest interviews with teachers, coaches, authors and others who are exploring the inside-out understanding. Learn more and find transcripts at http://UnbrokenPodcast.com

    Loving Relationships with Lori Carpenos

    Loving Relationships with Lori Carpenos

    Author, therapist and coach Lori Carpenos has seen that what affects our relationships the most is our state of mind. When the couples she works with see that ‘working on’ their relationship is not the answer to a loving relationship, that’s when everything changes.

    Lori Carpenos opened a private individual, couples and family counseling practice, in 1994, to pass along something she had stumbled upon in 1985, when she was privileged to meet the late Sydney Banks. As a result, her life changed in ways she could never have imagined at that time.

    She maintains a private practice in West Hartford, CT as a therapist, life coach, business consultant, facilitator, and writer.

    You can find Lori Carpenos at 3PrinciplesTherapy.com.

    You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.

    Show Notes

    * Starting out as an art teacher

    * Resonating with Sydney Banks’ exploration of innate mental health

    * On recognizing that ‘working’ on a relationship only makes things harder

    * How we all fall back into love when our minds are quiet

    * Getting on the wrong bus with our thinking but knowing we can choose a different ride

    * How we all always have all the love we need within us

    * How arguments originate from our state of mind

    * On being single and our relationship to thought about that

    * How we are all in relationship with our thinking

    Transcript of Interview with Lori Carpenos

    Alexandra: Lori Carpenos, welcome to Unbroken.

    Lori: Oh, thank you, Alexandra. It’s nice to be with you.

    Alexandra: It’s great to have you here. I’m so happy to meet you.

    Tell us a bit about your background and how you came to find the Three Principles.

    Lori: Well, they actually found me. It was quite by happenstance. I’d never heard of Sydney Banks, never heard of the three principles. I was an art teacher in Massachusetts, and I got a master’s in expressive arts therapy. I had this idea I wanted to do art therapy. And the place for that was California.

    So I was 25 years old, and I decided to quit my tenured art teacher job. Much to the dismay of my parents. They tried to stop me. But I felt called in retrospect, when I realized it was not to be an art therapist, because I’m driving across the country. Because California was known as the land of New Thought and new things. And art therapy was supposedly really big.

    I get halfway across. And I’m listening to a program, NPR, where they’re talking about a bill that had just passed in California, eliminating art, music, all the extra curricular activities in hospitals, schools, and I couldn’t believe it. It was like I was hearing something that was not true. And I’m thinking well, I’m halfway there. I already quit my job. I don’t have a job back on the east coast. So what do I do?

    I decided to keep going. I didn’t have a job. I knew one person in Northern California where I was headed to. No job, a cocktail waitress with my master’s degree my pocket...

    • 42 min
    Q&A 50 – The Wisdom in Insomnia

    Q&A 50 – The Wisdom in Insomnia

    In instances where our bodies and our innate wisdom are speaking to us, it can be tempting to see those messages as problems. But when we see them for the wisdom they carry and stay open to the messages these ‘problems’ have for us, we begin to see that they are always trying to help us on our paths as human beings.

    You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.

    Show Notes

    * When a good sleeper encounters a bout of insomnia

    * Discovering insightfully that is people pleasing tendencies keeping me awake

    * How insomnia does not mean that I’m broken or that my ability to sleep is broken

    * How insomnia, like overeating, is feedback about our mental state

    * What is insight and how does it arrive?

    * On the universal intelligence that is always flowing through all of us

    Transcript of episode

    Hello explorers and welcome to Q&A episode 50 of Unbroken. I’m Alexandra Amor.

    Before we get started today, I want to have a little mini celebration with you. Because this is q&a Episode 50. That means there are 100 episodes have Unbroken now. 50 episodes like this q&a one and 50 interview episodes. I’m pretty happy and proud of that milestone and I thank you for being with me here along for the ride, however long you’ve been joining me.

    It’s a real pleasure for me to be here to do this every week, and to share what I see with the aim of helping others, of supporting and uplifting and sharing what has made such a big huge difference in my life. So here’s to another 100 episodes. I aim to be around for the next year as well.

    February 14, 2024 will be the one year anniversary of the current website and the Freedom From Overeating course and Unbroken podcast. So we’ll celebrate that as well.

    Today’s q&a episode is going to involve a bit of a story.

    I’m also going to give you some background to give some context for what I’m about to share. And this story today has to do with insight, it has to do with our unbrokenness, which is really nice given that this is the 100th episode. So let’s get started.

    I’ll begin by telling you that about towards the end of 2023, October or November, there came a situation. I should back up a little further. I’m on the board or I was on the board of a little nonprofit that exists here in the town where I live. It’s a nonprofit housing society, independent living for seniors in the Ucluelet area. I’ve been on the board for a couple of years. And there’s one paid position in this organization. And the building is just a small, like, it looks like an apartment building. It has 10 apartments, all for seniors.

    And it’s independent living, like I said, so everybody is independent.

    They really don’t need any kind of assistance with mental health or physical chores or that kind of thing. Some of them can get care workers to come in, but 80% 90% of them don’t. It’s like an apartment building. And there’s one paid position. And it’s an administrative position that is 15 hours a week in the building. The woman who had been doing it was of retirement age. And also, she had been with the organization for five years and had brought the people,

    • 34 min
    Resolving the Habit of Discontent with Nikon Gormley

    Resolving the Habit of Discontent with Nikon Gormley

    Nikon Gormley had achieved success as a top-level athlete, but he was still searching for answers. He wanted to feel calm during his taekwondo matches so he began looking in all the usual places. It wasn’t until he discovered the Three Principles that things began to click into place for him. Now he coaches others about the innate resilience and well-being that we all possess.

    Nikon Gormley is passionate about guiding people to unleash their true, full potential so that they can experience greater levels of success, purpose, and well-being in their lives. He helps people understand and experience the beauty of how their minds work, harness the power of insight to navigate life with more clarity and ease and achieve more with less struggle, less anxiety, and less pressure.

    Nikon is also passionate about Taekwondo. He have been practising Taekwondo for 25+ years and has a 5th Dan Black Belt. He has trained and competed around the world as an elite athlete.

    You can find Nikon Gormley at NikonGormley.com and on YouTube @nikongormley.

    You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.

    Show Notes

    * Training as an Olympic taekwondo athlete

    * Searching for ways to be a better athlete

    * Growing a business at its own pace, rather than out of insecurity

    * When the habit of being discontented stops being interesting

    * How our feelings are always guiding us home

    * How ‘nobody gets stupid when they’re peaceful’

    * On the nature of worry and its origin in thought

    * Choosing what we pay attention to

    * How ambition can be insecurity in disguise

    Resources Mentioned in this Episode

    * Michael Neill’s book The Inside Out Revolution

    * Mavis Karn’s book It’s That Simple

    * Listen to my interview with Mavis

    Transcript of Interview with Nikon Gormley

    Alexandra: Nikon Gormley, welcome to Unbroken.

    Nikon: Thank you for having me, Alexandra. It’s pleasure to be here.

    Alexandra: It’s so nice to have you here.

    Tell us a little bit about your background and how you discovered the Three Principles.

    Nikon: My background started as a taekwondo athlete, as a young boy, as a martial art taken as a Korean martial art. And being called the athlete side of it, right, there’s a martial art side of it. And there’s an athlete side of it, because it was the Olympic sport in Thailand, it’s just very popular, we have it in our national Olympics, or we can get University scholarship scholarships for it.

    I started when I was 12. And I played for about 20 years. And being in a sport, you develop this thing where you just want to be better, you get obsessed with yourself not being good enough, and you get obsessed with wanting to be better. And apart from doing everything I physically could to be better and training, I knew I had to work on my mind.

    • 42 min
    Q&A 49 – Noise Vs. Signal In Weight Loss

    Q&A 49 – Noise Vs. Signal In Weight Loss

    When we’re looking to change an overeating habit we can innocently get caught up in the noise in our heads that talks about diet plans and strategies for mastering new habits and willpower. Alternatively, what creates real change – including dropping an unwanted habit – is learning to pay attention to the ‘signal’ that is available to all of us. That signal is universal intelligence and it’s built into us and it’s also built into our unwanted habits themselves.

    You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.

    Show Notes

    * Looking in a different place for answers to things like an unwanted habit

    * Paying less attention to the noise of our personal thinking

    * Relying on universal intelligence, wisdom and insight to help us change

    * Practising learning to listen to signal rather than noise

    * How our unwanted habits are feedback about the noise we’re listening to

    Resources Mentioned in this Episode

    * Michael Neil

    * Book: It’s Not About The Food

    * Q&A Episode 44

    Transcript of Episode

    Hello explorers, and welcome to Q&A Episode 49 of Unbroken. I’m Alexandra Amor. I’m here today with some comments, a discussion, an exploration about the signals that we receive versus the noise that’s going on within us, and how that this can affect an overeating habit and resolving that habit and weight loss and all those yummy things.

    I’ve been thinking about change a lot lately in my personal life, and I do, of course, all the time.

    Specifically, I’ve been thinking about change, because I’ve been feeling a little bit stuck.

    I think I might talk about that in more detail on a future Q&A episode. But it’s just this feeling of having resolved sort of 98% of my overeating habit. And the residue that’s left the sticky stuff at the bottom of a cup when you’re having – I don’t drink coffee, but I think sometimes if you’re drinking coffee, the sort of the sludge at the bottom is thicker than what you’ve been drinking. That happens for me when I drink hot chocolate. So the chocolate at the bottom of the cup is always a little thicker than everything else.

    I’ve been contemplating that. And because of that, I’ve been thinking a lot about what I’m going to share on today’s episode. This came up during a conversation with Nikon Gormley, and he’s going to be on the show next week, February 7, I think, or 8th or whatever the Thursday is. And he brought up this metaphor that Michael Neill talks about, which is a metaphor for change.

    It’s a metaphor for what’s happening within us.

    It’s a metaphor for paying attention to the spiritual nature of ourselves, rather than just paying attention to our personal thinking, all that kind of thing.

    I wanted to talk about this because I think it’s really important to see the differentiat...

    • 24 min
    The End of Self-Help with Gail Brenner

    The End of Self-Help with Gail Brenner

    Psychologist and author, Dr. Gail Brenner, shares about the healing power of being present and compassionate with whatever is going on within us. And how when we begin to recognize that there is no ‘out there’ in our lives – there is only our perception – that we begin to suffer less.

    Gail Brenner’s interest in suffering and the end of suffering is long standing. Like you, she just wanted to be happy. She put together a functional life of work and friends, but was continually plagued by anxiety, confusion, and relationship troubles. In her search for peace, she came across spiritual teachings about the nature of happiness. And she made some life-changing discoveries including that the more she became disinterested in thoughts—any thoughts—the happier she was.

    You can find Dr. Gail Brenner at GailBrenner.com.

    You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below. 

    Show Notes

    * How meditation can teach us to be with our experience

    * Having compassion for everything that arises within us

    * How believing what the mind tells us can be a source of suffering

    * Welcoming and relating to all the different parts of ourselves with out judging them

    * How we can get stuck on the path of healing

    * How happiness is our natural state

    * How peace never leaves us, we simply place our attention on other things that we believe cause us suffering

    * The feeling of separation that is at the root of trauma

    * How there is no life ‘out there’; there is only what we perceive

    Resources Mentioned in this Episode

    * Rumi poem: The Guest House

    Transcript of Interview with Dr. Gail Brenner

    Alexandra: Dr. Gail Brenner, welcome to Unbroken.

    Gail: Thank you. Very happy to be here.

    Alexandra: I’m happy to have you here.

    Why don’t you tell us a little bit about your background and how you came to realize you didn’t need self-help?

    Gail: My background, how far back should I go? I’ll just start professionally. I’m a psychologist, and I’ve been a psychologist for a long time. It’s a profession that drew me many years ago. We heal ourselves as therapists or practitioners, and as much as we help other people. So I think that was part of my motivation early on.

    My training was pretty conventional. And then things started really moving and shifting and changing for me, when I started meditating. This was about a little over 20 years ago at this point. I had been in therapy myself for a very long time, and didn’t at this point, I can say, I didn’t get a lot of change from that, that I was looking for. So I kept looking. I had this spirit in me of like, well, there’s got to be something else out there to help with the way that I my version of suffering.

    I started meditating. And that really started changing everything, because of the way meditation teaches us to be with our experience. So to be aware of what’s arising in us; sensations, emotions, whatever it is. And when I first started meditating,

    • 41 min
    Q&A 48 – What does being calm have to do with weight-loss?

    Q&A 48 – What does being calm have to do with weight-loss?

    In this excerpt from It’s Not About the Food I share a story about the surprising thing I learned at an Equus training and how it impacts the drive to overeat.

    Learn more about the book here.

    You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below. 

    Transcript of this episode

    It is early autumn 2014 and I’m standing in a covered outdoor riding arena. Beyond the open walls I can see the California sunshine warming the desert landscape. Here inside, it’s a bit chilly in the early morning, and I’m wishing I’d worn a light jacket.

    The arena is huge, probably nearly the length of a football field and almost as wide. The ground is covered in brown dirt, and where the sun comes past the walls into the building, I can see dust motes floating in the beams. Within the larger arena, there’s a temporary round pen that’s about 40 feet in diameter. I’m inside that pen and I’m not alone. With me is a brown and white horse, whose name I didn’t catch, and we’re going to spend the next few minutes bonding.

I’m here at ‘horsey camp,’ as I call it, in my latest attempt to try to heal the drive to overeat. I’ve flown from Vancouver, British Columbia, to very Southern California and spent money I don’t have in order to spend two days doing what’s called Equus training.

    I love horses and grew up around them. My dad started me taking riding lessons when I was about four years old. So this is a comfortable and happy place for me. However, we’re not doing any riding this weekend. I and the other ten or so women in the class will all be doing our work from the ground. Which is why I’m standing in the round pen with a paint horse.

    Over the next two days, we all take turns in the round pen with a variety of horses. The premise of the training is that we’re going to learn about ourselves by being in the pen with a horse, both by seeing how we react to different situations and also by seeing how the horses react to us. Horses are highly intuitive and sensitive creatures. Though they are large, they are prey animals, not predators, so they’ve evolved to be keenly sensitive to their environments and to changes in the energy around them. As such, they give immediate feedback about a person’s state of being, often pointing out patterns of behavior that we aren’t aware of.

    The objective of the first exercise we do is to get the horse to trot, or canter, around the outside edge of the round pen. Individual trainees like me stand in the very center of the pen and encourage the horse to move without shouting or running at it. You might have a coiled lead rope in one hand that you can gently slap against your leg, but that’s all the guidance you can give to the large animal looking at you with wary eyes. You’re essentially moving the horse with your energy. Letting it know what you want it to do by holding the intention in your mind and being clear and calm. (We’ll get to why calmness matters in a minute.)

I’ve traveled to this foreign land, crossed an international boundary, rented a car, and booked a hotel with the hope that this silent, brown and white animal with pointy ears and a soft muzzle will show me what’s wrong with me. I want to know why I feel so broken inside and why, no matter what I do,

    • 9 min

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Insightful and Engaging Conversations

Really enjoying the episodes so far and I believe it's helping me deal with some bad habits that have recently developed! Alexandra is easy to listen to and is open about her own experiences. I feel like she is meeting me where I am right now. Great guests -love the exchanges. Looking forward to future episodes!

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