YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton, MEd, LLC
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- Society & Culture
Listen in (or be a guest) as Jodi Carlton chats with people and other professionals about specific life challenges and solutions for neurodiverse relationships.
Jodi’s personal, but direct, style of educating and coaching is a favorite of both neurodiverse and neurotypical partners around the globe.
Her unique blend of personal experience in her own relationships, as well as her professional expertise, positions her to understand both autistic and non-autistic individuals.
She bridges the communication gap for couples with a blame-free mind-set, and a goal for creating connection through clarified meaning.
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BONUS: The Boxing Ring Leads to Divorce
Does your marriage have the common traits of couples that end up in divorce? In this video, Jodi Carlton, neurodiverse relationship expert, emphasizes how an antagonistic dynamic within a relationship, where one partner must win and the other lose, is a red flag. She stresses the importance of addressing underlying issues and misunderstandings, particularly in autism spectrum relationships. Jodi also discusses the problem of trying to control your partner or the relationship.
00:00 A Harsh Reality
00:21 Understanding Antagonism in Relationships
01:03 The Cycle of Conflict and Control
01:58 Navigating Autism Spectrum Relationships
02:20 Tools for Communication and Rebuilding
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton -
BONUS: Masking Isn’t an "Autistic" Thing
Everyone, whether neurodiverse or neurotypical, uses some form of masking or filter as a part of their social interactions. In this bonus episode, I share a personal story about my autistic daughter's masking strategy, called 'inside face and outside face', which she uses to manage her social interactions.
00:00 Introduction to Masking in Neurodiverse Relationships
00:45 Understanding Masking: A Personal Story
02:30 Masking as a Filter: A Deeper Dive
03:48 Masking in Different Contexts: Professional vs Personal
04:37 Unmasking at Home: The Safe Zone
08:15 The Impact of Masking on Relationships
08:33 The Role of Scripts in Masking
11:10 The Importance of Authenticity in Relationships
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
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BONUS: Conversations About Sex and Intimacy in Autism Relationships
Let’s talk about the significance of openly discussing sexuality and intimacy with our partners, particularly in neurodiverse relationships. In this video, I address common hurdles such as misunderstandings, unfounded assumptions, and the way past traumas can cloud our interactions. I stress the importance of reflective listening, nurturing curiosity, and recognizing our partner's unique perspective to foster a stronger connection and enhance sexual satisfaction.
00:00 Introduction to Intimacy Conversations
00:34 Understanding Personal Perspectives on Sexuality
01:33 Cultural and Social Influences on Sexuality
02:29 Challenges of Modern Sexuality and Media Influence
04:02 Navigating Expectations and Roles in Intimacy
06:07 The Importance of Communication and Understanding in Relationships
09:34 Addressing Personal Trauma and Misunderstandings
11:24 Taking Responsibility and Making Positive Changes
12:44 Clarifying Definitions and Expectations in Sexual Relationships
13:45 Conclusion: Hope for Improvement and Change
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton -
BONUS: My Autistic Partner Changes But It Doesn’t Last
This bonus clip highlights a personal story of someone struggling in their relationship with a boyfriend who has Asperger's. Despite receiving counseling, the relationship faces recurring issues such as explosive behavior and silent treatments from the autistic partner.
00:00 Introduction: Meet Jodi Carlton, Neuro Diverse Relationship Expert
00:08 A Viewer's Struggle: Reconnecting with an Asperger's Ex-Partner
00:31 The Cycle of Hope and Disappointment
01:09 Understanding Codependency in Relationships
02:15 The Challenge of Change and Communication
03:33 Educational Advice: Learning About Autism and Improving Communication
04:19 The Importance of Self-Reflection in Neurodiverse Relationships
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Now What? Deciding on a Path Forward in Your Neurodiverse Relationship
This is the final episode in a five-part series, Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships, where my co-host, Mona Kay, talks with me about steps for addressing relationship challenges to find a path forward. We share personal stories and insights into the challenges we faced in our own marriages.
In this episode, we specifically discuss how inappropriate hope is such a common problem for partners and couples, and how other obstacles like low self-worth and chasing dead-ends lead to increasing distress and antagonism in neurodiverse relationships.The final step navigating your neurodiverse relationship involves evaluating all of your choices and options and implementing changes for yourself. No more staying stuck.Let us help you get out of the quicksand to determine a real path forward!
00:00 Season 4:: Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships
00:28 The Five Key Step
01:37 The Final Episode: Step Five - Figuring Out a Path Forward
04:03 Inappropriate Hope
12:17 Healing and Moving Forward
20:52 Finding Happiness and Peace
26:12 Concluding Thoughts and Resources for Neurodiverse Couples
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton -
Exploring Unique Solutions for Unique Relationships
In the 5th episode or a 5-part series, Jodi Carlton and her co-host, Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, delve into the personal experiences and critical insights into Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships. They provide a retrospective look at their marriages, both of which ended after two decades, and clarify that their mission is not to advocate for divorce but to assist individuals in understanding their relationships and exploring options for moving forward. This episode covers various unconventional solutions they considered in their attempts to save their marriages. The episode underscores the importance of identifying and evaluating options within neurodiverse relationships and the necessity of making informed decisions that are best for all parties involved. Jodi and Mona share their processes of coming to terms with the reality of their situations and the steps they took towards healthier futures for themselves and their families.
00:00 Exploring Neurodiverse Relationships
01:06 Power of Personal Journeys
02:16 The Support Group: Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship
02:49 The Impact of Hearing from Different Neurotypes
06:54 Exploring Options in Neurodiverse Relationships
09:25 Discovering Creative Solutions
14:01 The Challenges of Traditional Marriage Expectations
18:46 The Role of External Changes in Relationship Dynamics
23:30 Understanding Individual and Collective Needs in a Relationship
25:20 Navigating External Pressures and Internal Choices
28:01 The Impact of Neurodiversity on Relationships
31:13 The Journey to Self-Discovery and Healing
36:03 Healing, Regulation, and Moving Forward
41:16 Reflecting on Parenting, Mistakes, and Growth
45:52 Concluding Thoughts on Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and cha