Aging in Style with Lori Williams Lori Williams Senior Services

There are an estimated 2.7 million LGBTQ people over the age of 50. With Alzheimer’s projected to affect 13 million people by 2050, we can anticipate this impacting many members of the LGBTQ population.
In honor of Pride Month, Megan Rowe joins me to explain how Alzheimer’s uniquely impacts this population. As the former Senior Program Manager for the Alzheimer’s Association Dallas and Northeast Texas Chapter, Megan provides statistics and tips on supporting LGBTQ seniors. Her expertise lends itself to educating and supporting families and individuals with the disease and caregivers alike.
With an average of one and a half people caring for one person with dementia, there are many unpaid loved ones helping assist this population. It’s important to note support systems look different for the LGBTQ population, and being an ally involves taking a different look at what a support system might look like and training ourselves with validating language and knowledge.
Topics discussed:
- LGBTQ community
- Supporting LGBTQ seniors
- LGBTQ and Alzheimer’s / dementia
- LGBTQ education resources
- Alzheimer’s Association and SAGE
- LGBTQ and senior living
- Representation
- Ageism
- Pronouns
Takeaways from this episode:
- Caregiving doesn’t always begin with age; it became a vital role of the LGBTQ community in the 1980s. “Caring for our own” is a common concept within the LGBTQ community.
- It’s important that intake processes discuss chosen family or important people in one’s life as opposed to biological family. Many LGBTQ don’t have a relationship with their family of origin and may not have children.
- If you don't collect information on sexual orientation and gender identity, you don't know who you're serving, whether there are gaps in services, and the differences among people’s needs.
- Publicize your commitment to welcoming people of diverse sexual orientations and gender identities. Then follow through by becoming LGBTQ competent, getting the right training, and welcoming the community through outreach.
- Sharing your pronouns is a way to show you’re validating, trustworthy, and support the LGBTQ community.
- LGBTQ people should complete advanced directives and record their wishes in legal documents - especially important for those who are isolated or don’t keep in touch with family.
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2022 Alzheimer's Disease Facts and Figures report
https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures
LGBTQ Community Resources for Dementia
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How can strokes be prevented?
Our beautiful brain hosts millions of cells, however, every minute that our brain goes without proper blood flow, 1.9 million brain cells die. This statistic is incredibly significant and brings home the importance of quick action when stroke symptoms appear. In this episode, I’m thrilled to have two exceptional guests from Medical City Lewisville, a top-notch hospital I can personally vouch for. Both guests are dedicated to stroke care and prevention:
Miranda Bik-Williams: A registered nurse and certified case manager with seven years at Medical City Lewisville, now serving as the stroke coordinator. Holli Thornhill: Also a registered nurse and the Director for Quality Resources with 19 years of nursing experience, 14 of which have been at Medical City Lewisville. Holly has seen the effects of stroke firsthand and is a staunch advocate for preventive medicine.
Recognizing Stroke Symptoms: BE FAST
One of the best ways to remember the signs of a stroke is with the acronym “BE FAST”:
Balance: Sudden loss of balance or coordination Eyes: Vision loss or blurred visionFace: Facial weakness or paralysis Arms: Inability to lift arms or a drifting arm Speech: Slurred speech or speaking incoherently Time: Time to call 911 immediately at the first signs
When I hear how quickly brain cells die during a stroke, it underscores the need to call 911 immediately. Time is of the essence to save a life and prevent severe brain damage.
Causes and Risk Factors for Stroke
There are several causes and risk factors for strokes, many of which are preventable:
High blood pressure: The top risk factor. Smoking: Nicotine constricts blood vessels. Diabetes: Increases risk. Diet: High cholesterol and fat intake contribute.Physical inactivity: Leads to other contributing factors like obesity. Underlying conditions: Atrial fibrillation, sleep apnea, peripheral artery disease, etc.
The Immediate Response to a Stroke
When 911 is called, EMS providers start treatment en route to the hospital, ensuring that vital, life-saving measures are begun even before arrival. This can make a significant difference in outcomes.
Quick hospital interventions include the administration of clot-busting medications, which must be given within a specific time frame and other procedures to physically remove clots. Knowing your last time of feeling normal is crucial to receive the appropriate treatment.
Understanding TIAs: A Warning Sign
Transient Ischemic Attacks (TIAs) or “mini-strokes” are significant warning signs. They should be treated with the same urgency as strokes. It’s critical to recognize them as yellow lights indicating a potential future stroke.
Prevention: Manage What You Can Control
Key factors:
Hypertension: Get it under control. Diabetes: Manage blood sugar levels. Quit Smoking: Reduces stroke risk. Diet and Exercise: Adopt a healthy lifestyle. Know Your Numbers: Cholesterol, blood pressure, etc.
The Impact of a Stroke and Recovery
Strokes create pathways for new neural pathways through rigorous and immediate rehabilitation, including physical, occupational, and speech therapy. Mark's journey highlighted the essential role rehab played in his recovery, and I’m thankful for the excellent rehab centers in the Dallas area.
Takeaways from this episode:Be FAST: Every minute without proper blood flow results in the death of approximately 1.9 million brain cells, emphasizing the need to call 911 immediately when stroke symptoms are present.High blood pressure,...

How can I cope when I’m grieving someone who is still alive?
You always hear about grief when someone has died – but what about if they’re still alive?
This is a scenario commonly experienced when a loved one suffers an accident or stroke, or has been given a life-changing diagnosis such as Parkinson’s or Alzheimer’s. You grieve who they were and the life you once had. The 5 stages of grief are the same as if someone died: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
For me, I was accustomed to counseling people whose loved one’s life changed – but living on the other side of it has been quite different. In this episode, I'll be sharing my experience with these stages in the months after my husband had a stroke on Christmas.
Instead of “checking” each stage off the list, I've cycled through some stages multiple times, with them lessening in intensity over time. I've even found myself missing the little things, like my husband’s quirks and “annoying” habits.
To manage grief, she suggests 3 tips:
1. Let it out: Talk to a therapist or trusted friend / family member. Scream in the car if you need to, or journal your feelings. Just don’t keep the feelings trapped inside.
2. Don’t get stuck: It’s okay to spend time in each stage of grief. The problem is when you can’t move past a stage and your body hangs on to the emotions. It’s not good for you. Life will look different moving forward, but you can’t dwell on the past and what “should have been.”
3. Find support: There are many support groups online, like on Facebook, along with resources such as the Alzheimer’s Association. Find what works best for you because you can’t do it alone. You’ll discover many people are living your same experiences.
It’s also important to remember you have to take care of yourself. Whether that’s a massage or taking a daily walk, find a way to give back to yourself and take a break. Plus, give yourself grace if you need additional support. You have to do what’s best and safest for all involved, and it’s okay to ask for help.
To manage grief, here are my 3 tips:
1. Let it out: Talk to a therapist or trusted friend / family member. Scream in the car if you need to, or journal your feelings. Just don’t keep the feelings trapped inside.
2. Don’t get stuck: It’s okay to spend time in each stage of grief. The problem is when you can’t move past a stage and your body hangs on to the emotions. It’s not good for you. Life will look different moving forward, but you can’t dwell on the past and what “should have been.”
3. Find support: There are many support groups online, like on Facebook, along with resources such as the Alzheimer’s Association. Find what works best for you because you can’t do it alone. You’ll discover many people are living your same experiences.
It’s also important to remember you have to take care of yourself. Whether that’s a massage or taking a daily walk, find a way to give back to yourself and take a break. Plus, give yourself grace if you need additional support. You have to do what’s best and safest for all involved, and it’s okay to ask for help.
Topics discussed:
The 5 stages of griefAlzheimer’sParkinson’sDementiaStrokesTraumatic brain injuriesCaregiver supportCoping with griefJournalingSelf-care
Takeaways from this episode:
It’s okay to grieve when a loved one’s life has changed for the worst. Give yourself time and grace to feel everything. Just make sure you’re processing those feelings so you don’t get stuck.You may not experience each stage of grief only

When talking to other caregivers, I found a striking similarity: Many of us felt ill-equipped after our loved ones were discharged from rehab. After my husband suffered a stroke on Christmas Day in 2022, I learned firsthand what many of my clients experience each day. Once he was released from rehab, I was given my husband’s medicine, told to install grab bars in the shower for safety, add a shower chair, and was sent on my way. My well-intentioned friends also advised me to make time for myself and to exercise. Easier said than done! When a loved one’s needs are significant, caregivers become overwhelmed and burnt out. Meeting our own needs feels less urgent and maybe even impossible.
The reality? I (and many caregivers) need a different type of support: realistic solutions for protecting our energy.
Here are my 6 tips for caregivers having a tough time:
Make sure you have knowledge of helpful resources to ease your burden. Examples include meal delivery services, tele-health visits, medication delivery, and more.Establish a routine. This helps you stay on target and keeps you organized. This is especially important when administering medication is involved.Get dependable help. Whether that’s a family member or a professional, it can better help you tend to your own needs (and those of your other family members).Find respite in an overnight (or longer) break. Maybe your loved one has a respite stay with an assisted living facility so you can get a full night’s rest. Maybe you take a weekend off while your other loved ones pitch in.Work out a flexible plan with your employer. They may allow you to work from home or offer employee assistance.Rely on your friends and family. Maybe it’s for venting or reinforcements, but you can’t do this alone. Let them be there for you.
Topics discussed:
Caregiver burnoutHow to support caregiversCaregiver resourcesSocial Security DisabilityRespiteEmployee assistanceProfessional caregivers
Takeaways from this episode:
- Burnout can look like many things. Maybe you’re exhausted, scatterbrained, stressed, or crying more than usual. This is a sign to find support.
- Allsup is a service that can help people get Social Security Disability (SSDI). When people file on their own, it can take years for approval. Using a service like this tends to have a higher success rate.
- Know your own limits. There’s no shame in hiring help, especially if it promotes safety for your loved one.
- There are many resources for the time-pressed caregiver: meal delivery, medication delivery, tele-health, home health and more.
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Mother's Day is a special occasion to honor and celebrate the remarkable women in our lives who have lovingly served in the role of a mother figure. However, when your loved one is navigating the journey of dementia, finding the perfect gift that resonates with their unique needs and preferences becomes a heartfelt challenge.
In this episode of Aging in Style, you'll learn what to consider when selecting Mother's Day gifts tailored for moms, grandmothers, or any mother figure facing dementia.
These seven thoughtful categories of gifts are designed to bring joy, comfort, and meaningful connections to individuals with dementia:
Sensory gifts: From cozy blankets to scented lotions and fidget blankets, these gifts aim to provide tactile stimulation and comfort to your loved one. Digital Photo Albums: The idea of creating a personalized photo album or digital frame filled with cherished memories serves as a poignant gift that can evoke familiar emotions and spark conversations, offering a sense of connection and recognition for individuals with dementia. Nature-inspired gifts: nature walks and bird feeders, are meaningful ways to foster a connection to the natural world, providing a calming and therapeutic experience for individuals with dementia. Simple crafts and activities: adult coloring books, puzzles, and craft projects, offer engaging and creative outlets for self-expression and cognitive stimulation, fostering a sense of accomplishment and joy in the process. Music: creating a customized music playlist filled with familiar tunes that can evoke cherished memories and emotions, offers a profound way to connect with individuals with dementia through the universal language of music. Dementia therapy dolls: a unique and increasingly popular gift option, provides individuals with dementia a sense of purpose, comfort, and companionship, and create a significant positive impact on their emotional well-being and quality of life.
Ultimately, the most precious gift one can offer to a loved one with dementia is the gift of time. Whether engaging in shared activities, reminiscing about the past, or simply spending quality time together, the act of being present and creating meaningful memories holds immeasurable value and brings profound joy to both the caregiver and the individual with dementia.
As we approach Mother's Day, let us embrace the opportunity to celebrate and cherish the incredible women in our lives with thoughtful and meaningful gifts that cater to their unique needs and bring moments of joy, connection, and love.
Topics discussed:
Mother's Day gifts for loved ones with dementia Sensory gifts for dementia patients Personalized photo albums and digital frames for seniorsNature-inspired gifts for moms with dementia Crafting activities and puzzles for moms with dementia Dementia therapy dolls for emotional well-being Mother's Day gifts for grandmothers
Takeaways:
Just because a mother figure is experiencing dementia, it doesn't mean that you can't make Mother's Day special: intentional and safe gifts can still provide beautiful moments.Sensory gifts provide exceptional opportunities to engage and activate different sides of the brain.Digital or physical photo albums can provide hours of distraction and conversation with caregivers. More tech-advanced albums allow you to update the photo selection by simply uploading photos to proprietary apps on your phone. Walks in nature and taking time to bake together are intentional, experiential gifts that provide the most important gift of all: intentional time together.
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How can I avoid family drama when an elderly loved one needs care?Every family has its own conflicts and drama. This truth becomes more obvious when aging parents or loved ones need care due to dementia, Alzheimer’s, or other diagnoses where they require constant care. Old fights and hurt feelings resurface, siblings butt heads, and the stress of the situation can make it all worse!
Author Leah Stanley joins me to share her experiences with caregiving and how family dynamics can complicate the situation. She began caring for her grandparents when she was only 29 and wrote about the experience in Goodnight, Sweet: A Caregiver's Long Goodbye. She also shares 3 of her tips she wished she'd known to help avoid family conflict. They are:
Prepare and communicate: It’s best when a parent has a plan in place for their future care needs and to discuss this plan with their adult children. This includes decisions about financial matters, healthcare preferences, and end-of-life care. Having these conversations in advance can help reduce stress and confusion later on.Work together despite our differences: Family members need to be willing to set aside personal differences and work together for the well-being of their loved one who needs care. If they don’t get along, it only negatively impacts the parent.Seek family mediation: If family members find it challenging to come to an agreement, try using a family mediator. They can help everyone find common ground and work toward the best outcome.
Caregiving can unfortunately take a huge emotional toll, and the last thing anyone needs is fighting. The best thing we can do is discuss ahead of time and prevent fights before they arise, and a plan is essential to that. If fights arise, nip them in the bud or use any resources you can to minimize the damage.
 
Topics discussed:
Preparation and communication for caregivingWorking together with familyFamily mediationLegal documents and end-of-life planningSelf-care and caregiver stress
 
Takeaways from this episode:
-There’s no clear reason why families fight when an elderly loved one needs care. Sometimes it’s not about the situation at hand – childhood trauma or sibling rivalries may resurface.
-Make sure you know which family member is tasked with what if an emergency arises.
-Being proactive means having legal documents in place, such as wills, powers of attorney, and advance directives. This gives families clarity and guidance in caregiving situations.
-Caregiving is often emotionally and physically demanding, so prioritizing self-care is essential.
-If you’re having family conflicts, you’re not alone. Family mediators are available for a reason. Try having a neutral third-party help.
Resources mentioned in this episode:To suggest a topic, be a guest or support the podcast, please email Lori@Loriwilliams-seniorservices.com
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