Heart To Heart with Ray Mardia Ray Mardia

Ray speaks with Charlotte Schinckel-Brown, artist and coach, about how to navigate the human experience as a sensitive person, the fallacy of comparison, some wisdom from nature about taking responsibility, embracing our light and dark as leaders/teachers ... and much more.

Enjoy and thank you so much for watching! I love you, yes I do :D

😂 PSA: I included some of our pre-show riffs but PLEASE note there's some unfettered swearing in it lol.

✅ The actual podcast starts around 4:50.

RESOURCES:

Charlotte: https://www.facebook.com/charvsb​

https://www.instagram.com/charvsb/

FIND ME HERE: https://www.raymardia.com​

https://www.facebook.com/raymardia​

https://www.instagram.com/raymardia​

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00:00​ - Pre-Show Musings (Warning: Some Swearing lol)

00:01:56 - Do You Know Who The Fuck You Are?

00:03:50 - Masculine Energy in Nature

00:04:10​ - Stop Being Dependent On Me, Moon

00:04:50​ - Podcast Begins - Welcome, Charlotte :)

00:06:30​ - Question: What is the value of making room for our Humanity as leaders?

00:08:45​ - Question: Where have you learned to integrate creativity, dance and growth?

00:10:30​ - Ray: Art and Nature Taught Me the Most about Life, For They Accept The Totality of Experience. All Of You Is Welcome.

00:11:00​ - Question: What role has dancing played in who you are and how you show up?

00:13:30​ - The Creative, Physical, Social and Spiritual Meanings of Movement.

00:14:30​ - Meditations on Sensitivity. Question: Is sensitivity a double-edged sword? A curse or a gift?

00:17:00​ - Charlotte Describes Sensitivity as 'Worthy Opponent'

00:18:30​ - Accept and Honour Support On Your Journey. Let Others Add To The Stories You Tell Yourself.

00:20:00​ - Strategy: Create Boundaries through Language and Meaning To Take Care of Yourself and Navigate Your Sensitivity

00:23:00​ - The Limitations of being the Light all the time.

00:24:30 - Welcoming the Darkness: Bringing Curiosity and the Spirit of Play

00:25:19 - Suppression is the Most Harmful Thing You Can Do for Yourself

00:26:00​ - If There's Room for the Darkness and Hypersensitivity to Exist, You'll Find the next layer of yourself

00:26:50​ - Question: How do you help women express themselves?

00:30:00​ - What actually creates transformation in people? Hint: it's not your skills or the modalities you use. It is the depth of your attention, love, feeling deeply seen, heard and understood.

00:32:47​ - Not a fan of the term ‘Fix’ (you are not broken)

00:33:50​ - Question: what would you say to women who say they have too much or not enough?

00:37:40​ - Question: what practices help you value yourself vs. fearing the loss of love and approval?

00:42:20​ - Question: what question are you delving into?

00:43:00​ - ‘What Now’?

00:44:00​ - Be aware of the tone in which we speak with ourselves; You can very quickly shift to a state of gratitude and purpose by shifting the energy of how you ask questions.

00:45:00​ - Question: What’s your why, Charlotte? What lights you up?

00:45:30​ - Love seeing people in their element (‘doing their Thing’)

00:46:40​ - You are the artist of you life.

00:48:15​ - Question: What would you to tell your younger self?

00:49:00​ - ‘There’s nothing wrong with you'

00:51:15​ - Ray on Creating wholeness within and around us

00:52:30​ - Gratitude and farewells

00:53:15​ - Post-show laughs :D

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Ray has a heart to heart with one of her clients: a courageous manager, coach and writer, Linden Vazey. 

They discuss why it's crucial for leaders to do deep inner work themselves to truly serve others; how to navigate being in the corporate sector to living authentically, as well as the personal and collective benefits of heart-centred leadership in today's world.  

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Thank you so much for watching! I love you, yes I do :D   

RESOURCES:   Linden: https://www.linkedin.com/in/linden-va... 

FIND ME HERE: https://www.raymardia.com 

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Ray gets real with Hakeem Brookes, who has worked with some of the biggest names in personal development, about the personal development journey, understanding our why, embracing the art of not knowing answers all the time, and the importance of finding beauty in the process.   If you enjoyed this video, subscribe to join in on uplifting, heart-centred conversations :)   Thank you for watching :)

Video: https://youtu.be/DPfIe3wwyII

00:00:30 - Welcome, Hakeem! 

00:01:00 - Question: What Does Facing Your Past Look Like For You? 

00:01:40 - Question: What Is The Value Of Connecting With Your Why? 

00:03:20 - Why ‘Being The Best’ Is To Be Informed By Love, Not Need 

00:05:12 - Nurturing A Love Of Learning From A Young Age 

00:07:20 - Hakeem’s Insights From Tony Robbin’s Platinum Program 

00:09:10 - Pausing To Implement Lessons Is Important (Rather Than Constant Input) 

00:09:38 - The Dangers Of ‘Personal Development Addiction’ 

00:11:47 - The Importance Of Including Loved Ones/Your Past In Your Transformation Path 

00:13:45 - Adversity Happens For Growth 

00:15:35 - How To Navigate Your Growth Vs The Role You Play In Other’s Growth 

00:18:00 - Being the ‘Unsolicited Saviour’ in Other's Journeys 

00:20:00 - The Traps And Conventions Of The Personal Development Industry 

00:21:00 - The Best Coaches Are The Ones Who Are Ready To Be Your Friend 

00:21:20 - Hakeem Discusses His Values 

00:23:25 - The Fallacy Of Needing To Conquer All Our Fears  

00:23:40 - The Myth of Arrival and "Getting There" 

00:25:15 - You Can’t Get Anything Done If You’re Beating Yourself Up 

00:28:05 - The Perils Of Undirected Ambition  

00:30:05 - It Boils Down To The Search For Love And Connection 

00:32:00 - Beware Of Seeking Others To Feel Like Yourself 

00:34:00 - The Butterfly Becoming Itself (Surrender To The Process Of Your Own Becoming) 

00:36:15 - None Of Us Can Do This Alone 

00:38:20 - Heroes, The Alchemist, Will Smith, and ‘Laying This Brick Perfectly’  

00:40:15 - You Are Being Moved By The Universe, Supported On Your Path 

00:42:20 - The Illusion Of Polarity (It's Both, And) 

00:44:29 - Sun Tzu, The Art Of War - The Middle Is Where You Make Decisions That Work  

00:47:11 - There’s Always An Abundance Of Opportunity (Scarcity Kills Creativity) 

00:49:00 - Approaching Fears With Inquisitiveness And Play 

00:49:30 - Question: How Do You Experience Beauty Day-To-Day? 

00:51:00 - Letting Fear Fade Because You’re One With It, Not Because You’ve Fought It 

00:52:00 - Question: How Can Creativity Help Us Find Out Who We Are? 

00:54:11 - When Creativity Becomes Boundary-Breaking Innovation 

00:56:15 - An Openness To Testing New Thresholds To Find Out Who We’re Here To Be 

00:56:50 - Question: What Do You See For Yourself In The Future? 

00:57:10 - Taking A Moment To Not Know 

00:58:00 - Not Linking Your Identity To An Activity  

00:59:40 - Committing Ourselves To Knowing Who We Are 

01:00:00 - Socially Distant Hugs! 

01:00:40 - Hakeem: How This Chat Helped Me Inform Myself 

01:01:55 - Farewells



RESOURCES: 



Hakeem: https://www.instagram.com/hakeembrookes/



FIND ME HERE: https://www.raymardia.com 

https://www.facebook.com/raymardia

https://www.instagram.com/raymardia



Music provided by The Sound

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Ray has a heart to heart with humanities teacher and poet Anita Patel about nourishing our hearts with words and ordinary moments - especially during uncertain times. They discuss the spirituality of poetry, the many lives of readers, as well as the role of privilege and perspective during the current pandemic.  

If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe to join in on uplifting, heart-centred conversations! Thank you for listening :)   

Video: https://youtu.be/qwplHHAFGKE  

RESOURCES:   

Anita's Blog 

A Common Garment by Anita Patel

Heart Stitched, Annie Franklin and Anita Patel 

FIND ME HERE: 

Website: https://www.raymardia.com  

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/raymardia 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raymardia  

Music provided by The Sound: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UImwn5BkSt8


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On this episode, Ray has a heart to heart with Visionary Empath coach, speaker and poet Ber-Henda Williams. Set against the backdrop of the historic BLM protests after George Floyd's murder, they discuss the task ahead for all of us; the inner work it takes to engage in conscious, sustainable and heart-centred activism in 2020 and beyond. Enjoy! [Time stamps and audio below]



Video: https://youtu.be/_eqB51gk-Ls



00:01:00 Q: How are you doing, Ber-henda?

00:02:10 The dangers of glossing over pain

00:02:25 The only way to heal is to tell the truth

00:03:00 Q: Advice for those separating the conversation? 

00:03:45 The dark origins of America’s police (slave-catchers) 

00:04:45 Why is it difficult for some to accept the truth of #BLM?

00:05:25 Sitting with your discomfort

00:06:25 Q: What is your personal journey and your process?

00:06:55 B’s tumour analogy (racism, sexism, colourism)

00:07:45 I never want to become the thing I say I am opposed to 

00:08:15 A society built on stolen land (Atonement is needed)

00:08:30 Ber-henda’s heroes (MLK, others)

00:09:10 Venting Vs. Honouring and Expressing our emotions

00:09:30 The perils of emotional bypassing

00:09:55 The importance of moving towards a resolve

00:10:15 The dance between acknowledging/empowering victims

00:11:45 The need for radical honesty

00:12:45 Why its damaging to say ‘I don’t see colour

00:13:00 The lack of basics (water, places to by groceries)

00:14:25 The disconnection between reality and statistics (1873)

00:16:00 Ber-henda’s body metaphor (rest the wound)

00:18:00 Ray’s caution for those diverting their focus from #BLM 

00:21:00 The role of the centrist

00:23:00 How neutrality impedes progress

00:26:00 The perils of politicising human rights

00:28:00 Our lived experiences each vary

00:30:00 The black community’s lack of unifying practices

00:32:00 Why change shouldn’t take longer than 5 years

00:33:30 Every human being has the right to live their purpose

00:35:00 Ray’s body analogy (the whole body is on board)

00:37:00 How in nature there is no debate when healing’s needed

00:39:00 The importance of articulating specific needs (#BLM)

00:41:00 Q: What can people do to help #BLM? (Their own skills)

00:43:00 Being of service and acting on shared humanity

00:45:00 Why empaths are suited for helping create change

00:46:00 Q: What is Ber-henda’s Why?

00:48:00 Embodying the beliefs we hold, farewells

00:49:00 Post-show



You can find more of Ber-Henda at:



https://www.ber-hendawilliams.com



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On this episode, Ray has a heart to heart with coach and entrepreneur Kat Millar. They discuss friendship, love, personal values, faith and the deeper questions of life. Enjoy!

Video: https://bit.ly/2XAWjVs

Chapters

00:00:25 What I love most about Kat

00:01:25 Kat discusses the importance of values

00:02:25 Kat discusses limiting beliefs

00:03:25 Q: What are some lessons from family?

00:04:25 The importance of playfulness

00:05:25 Making time for your staff

00:06:25 Being busy as a badge of honour

00:07:25 The mind is not physical

00:08:25 The percentage we spend in the present

00:09:25 Kat’s intentional mornings

00:10:25 The importance of balancing phone use

00:11:25 How social media robs us of our time

00:12:05 Q: What is important to have in relationships?

00:13:20 The healing power of forgiveness

00:14:20 The dangers of transactional friendships

00:15:20 The importance of shedding expectations

00:17:20 Balancing unconditional love with boundaries 

00:18:20 The importance of tonality & body language

00:20:30 Seeing conflict as a growth experience

00:21:10 Kat’s love languages

00:22:10 Ray’s love languages 

00:23:00 Q: How did creativity become a value for you?

00:24:10 Kat’s gothic poetry (teen years)

00:26:25 Q: What brings you joy?

00:27:10 Giving yourself to be creative at work

00:28:20 Removing the barriers to receiving love

00:29:20 Q: What do you love about your work?

00:30:15 Q: We filter good from bad based on our beliefs

00:31:10 How ugly feelings can bring beauty

00:33:55 All suffering comes from wanting what is to be different

00:34:40 What if we just felt the thing that’s happening

00:35:25 Q: When did you decide to begin you transformational journey?

00:37:35 There’s more to what we see

00:38:20 Q: What role does faith play in your life?

00:40:10 Trust in faith and the unseen

00:41:20 Seeking solace in the divine

00:42:10 Be close to yourself in tough times

00:43:35 Q: What’s a question you’re navigating right now?

00:44:50 Q: What’s a time you surrendered to faith?

00:45:40 It’s okay to have sad and uncertain moments

00:46:00 Kat’s London story

00:47:00 Uncertainty is an old friend

00:47:20 What we’ve been through is for us and others too

00:48:10 Q: What can you share for those realising dreams?

00:49:25 The what leads to the how (and be patient)

00:50:30 Q: What future do you want to create?

00:51:25 Do business where people feel cared about

00:51:45 Ray shares her goals

00:52:20 Living our values

00:53:35 Farewells

00:54:10 Post-Show Shenanigans & Goofs

Resources

How to Break Up with Your Phone, by Catherine Price 

https://www.amazon.com/How-Break-Up-Your-Phone/dp/039958112X

Conversations With God, by Neale Donald Walsch 

https://www.booktopia.com.au/conversations-with-god-neale-donald-walsch/book/9780733611957.html

One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are by Ann Voskamp

https://www.koorong.com/product/one-thousand-gifts-ann-voskamp_9780310321910

You can find more of Kat at 

https://www.katmillar.com 

https://www.raymardia.com 

https://www.facebook.com/raymardia

https://www.instagram.com/raymardia

Music provided by The Sound

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