Divorce Matters Michael Alexander and Mark Fidelman

Ginger Gentile. I'm the Erase child whisperer and I discuss parental alienation 
 
Mark Fidelman and Ginger discussed strategies for dealing with parental alienation, including understanding love languages and acknowledging past trauma.
Ginger shared her personal experience of estrangement from their father and the impact it had on their life. The group also discussed the prevalence of narcissistic abuse and alienation in divorce cases, emphasizing the importance of identifying narcissistic traits early on and taking steps to protect oneself.
Ginger also highlighted the importance of learning how to communicate effectively with high conflict people in personal and professional settings, including identifying triggers, healing inner child wounds, and developing a new skill set for communicating with empathy, firmness, and informativeness.


Outline Parental alienation and high conflict divorce with a personal story. Ginger Gentile shares her experience with parental alienation and high conflict divorce. Speaker estranged from father after parents' divorce and subsequent parental alienation.

Intergenerational trauma and alienation in families. Ginger revealed that their parents had 50/50 custody, but their mother accused their father of domestic violence and sought more child support. Ginger believes that their parents' behavior was informed by their own love languages, with abuse being one of them. Reconciling with estranged parents can be challenging, but it's possible with effort and support.

Parental alienation and its impact on children. Ginger reflects on their parents' divorce and alienation, recognizing the nuanced complexity of the situation. Ginger made a film about parental alienation, realizing it was about their own life after hanging up on their dad multiple times during filmmaking. Ginger researched the topic by talking to parents and kids, including those on social media, to understand the impact of alienation on families.

Parental alienation documentary and its impact on kids. Ginger raised half a million dollars for their documentary by changing their fundraising pitch from "thank you for coming" to "give me money or the film won't happen and you'll never see your kids again." Mark Fidelman and Ginger agree that the documentary has raised awareness about parental alienation and its impact on children. They suggest strategically showing the film to judges, lawyers, and psychologists to bring about change.

How to reconnect with alienated children without court involvement. Ginger jokes about doing anything to see their kids, including hosting a free screening of a film in a library, but acknowledges that parents who are serious about reunification may not be willing to take such actions. Ginger and Mark Fidelman discuss the challenges of getting back into a child's life when the child has been alienated by a parent, with Ginger emphasizing the importance of taking a proactive approach to reunification. Ginger worked with a father to approach a court case non-confrontationally, resulting in overnights with his daughter without going to court. Ginger helped the father see an opportunity to connect with his daughter instead of viewing it as a right, leading to a peaceful resolution.

Strategies for dealing with parental alienation in court. Mark Fidelman suggests detaching from the alienator's reactions and using new communication methods to address the issue. Ginger advises parents to act quickly if they suspect alienation, as courts can take years to resolve the issue. Ginger warns that lawyers may give false odds of winning, and some outcomes may be impossible to achieve in family court.

Strategies for coping with alienation in children. Ginger suggests that instead of trying to change the alienator, parents should focus on changing their own behavior to stop the alienation. The speaker advises parents to use sweet talking and

David Segui, Former MLB baseball player, discusses his nightmare with the family courts and family bridges 
David Segui discussed the challenges and misconceptions surrounding family court, particularly in cases of alleged child abuse, and the need for a different approach to better protect children. They also shared personal experiences and ongoing legal cases, highlighting the financial drain and manipulation of the system, and the importance of holding individuals accountable for their actions. The conversation concluded with a commitment to stop a certain issue from escalating and a pledge to remove judicial immunity, particularly in cases of flagrant lawbreaking.

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Podcast Summary
Family Court Misconceptions and Reform
Mark and David Segui discussed the misconceptions and issues surrounding family court, particularly in cases of alleged child abuse. They argued that the current system often does more harm than good, with the industry's main goal being to reunify the child with the abusive parent, rather than protecting the child. The discussion highlighted the need for a different approach and better support for children who have experienced abuse.

Family Law, Child Custody, and Advocacy
Mark and an anonymous David Segui discussed issues related to family law, with a focus on child custody and parental alienation. They discussed the challenges faced by families without financial means, and how the legal system can exacerbate existing problems. The conversation touched on the perception of power dynamics in family court, and the lack of understanding among the general public regarding the daily realities of those going through a divorce. Mark announced his return to advocacy work for children's rights, signaling a renewed commitment to the cause.

Discussing Abuse in Family Court System
Mark and David Sege discussed the challenges faced by victims of abuse in the Family Court system. David, a former Major League Baseball player, introduced himself as a father involved in a Family Court case after escaping an abusive household environment. He shared how the court system operates through coercion and control, similar to abusive relationships, threatening consequences like losing child custody or facing sanctions for speaking out or reporting abuse. David mentioned guiding other "Momma Bears" through the process of reporting abuse while navigating the court system's challenges.

Navigating Family Court Challenges and Strategies
The speakers discussed the challenges and strategies involved in navigating the family court system. They recognized that the system can be exploitative and compared it to a game, where certain parties have an advantage. David expressed concern about the financial drain that the system can cause and the difficulty in getting out of it once involved. They also discussed the need to remove judicial immunity to facilitate exit. The conversation then shifted to specific cases, with the speaker indicating that they would continue the discussion in this area.

Child Alienation Case and Custody Dispute
The attorneys agreed on proceeding with the case, which involves allegations of child alienation. The main speaker described a situation where their children were taken away due to an emergency order, despite the children being found to be in good health and happy in California. The speaker claimed their ex-partner made false allegations of abuse and used threats to maintain control over the children. The case has been ongoing for over three months, and the speaker is seeking to regain custody of their children.


False Allegations and Child Abuse Discussion
The discussion centered around allegations of abuse made by David's sons against their mother and her boyfriend, who was a former teammate of David's. The boys had reported these allegations after attending religious camps. David c

Mark and Sherry Lund discussed the creation of a podcast focused on court reform and family issues, with Sherry sharing her personal experiences and advocating for better safeguards and accountability in the legal system. 
They also criticized the criminal activities of the legal mafia, the lack of due process, and the impunity of judges and lawyers, emphasizing the need for significant changes in the system. The discussion also touched on the injustices caused by the legal system, the importance of legislative action to remove judicial immunity, and the challenges they faced in trying to expose and address these issues.

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Episode Summary
Sherry's Personal Experience With Court Reform
Mark and Sherry discussed their plans to create a podcast focused on court reform and family issues. Sherry shared her personal experiences as an advocate for family court victims, including her own legal battles with probate courts.
She described an emotionally charged situation where her stepdaughter fell ill, leading to a lengthy and contentious legal battle over her inheritance and accusations of misconduct against her family.
Sherry recounted how her family, with her husband's involvement, fought against a well-connected legal team and the accusations made against them. The legal team repeatedly served legal papers on her family, even on holidays, as part of their tactics to keep the case going.


Improving Estate Management and Conservatorships
Sherry shared her family's experience with the mismanagement of a loved one's estate and their subsequent legal struggles. She highlighted the need for better safeguards and advocated for a new bill that guarantees the right to an accounting of the estate and access for interested parties.
She also discussed her involvement with the Free Britney movement in California, highlighting the violations committed against Britney and the need for conservators to appoint their own attorneys. Sherry emphasized the importance of due process and the rights of the person of interest, even in probate cases involving minors' trusts. Mark agreed with Sherry's perspective, pointing out the potential for abuse when attorneys are appointed to take over trusts for minors.


Legal Mafia and Systemic Issues
Sherry and Mark discussed the criminal activities of the legal mafia, a highly organized crime syndicate operating under the color of law. They identified a significant issue within the legal system, where state court judges and actors do not always acknowledge federal law, leading to a lack of accountability.
Sherry also shared her family's experiences with the legal system, where her relative, Michelle, has been wrongfully accused and denied visitation, causing emotional distress. Sherry urged individuals not to use the court system to settle personal scores, as the innocent party is often the one who suffers most.


Judicial System Accountability and Impunity
Sherry and Mark discussed the issue of judges and lawyers acting with impunity and violating the rights of others. Sherry expressed her concern about the judicial system's inability to hold judges accountable for their actions, even when they break the law. They both criticized the system for its lack of due process and the complicity of certain individuals in maintaining a problematic situation.
They highlighted the double standard in the legal system where attorneys could lie in court but others had to prove the truth of their statements. They both agreed on the need for significant changes in the system and noted that any false statements made in court were protected activity.


Addressing Judges' Law Violations and Accountability
Sherry and Mark discussed the issue of judges violating the law and the lack of accountability for their actions. Sherry shared her efforts to address this issue, including reaching out to Senator Cavanaugh and working on a petition t

Welcome to Divorce Matters, a podcast where we delve into the intricate and often misunderstood world of divorce, custody battles, and the legal system that navigates these turbulent waters. Today, we're unpacking a case that has captured national attention and sparked a significant conversation about the integrity of the family court system, the impact of false allegations in custody disputes, and the profound emotional toll these battles take on families. Our focus is on a landmark $21.3 million jury verdict awarded in a disputed Colorado custody case, a verdict that calls into question the actions of an ex-husband, the decisions of family court evaluators, and the rulings of a judge that led to a mother being barred from any contact with her children based on allegations now deemed to be falsely manipulated.
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This case, stemming from Routt County, Colorado, involves Cynthia Hayek, a mother who lost all contact with her children due to her ex-husband Steven Herron's allegations that her new fiancé sexually abused one of their children. These allegations, which were later found to be part of a "false narrative" cultivated by Herron, led to a series of legal and child protective actions that isolated Hayek from her children and ultimately resulted in a jury finding Herron liable for defamation, conspiracy, outrageous conduct, abuse of process, and malicious prosecution. As we dive into the details of this case, we'll explore the implications of the jury's verdict, the systemic issues it highlights within the family court system, and the path forward for those seeking justice and reform in similar disputes. Join us as we navigate the complex, heart-wrenching, and ultimately hopeful journey of Cynthia Hayek and the broader lessons this case teaches us about the power of perseverance, the importance of truth, and the need for systemic change in our family courts.
 
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Plaintiff/Counterclaim Defendant:
Cynthia Hayek, an individual
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Defendants/Counterclaimant/Third Party
Plaintiff:
Steven Herron, an individual; and Christine
Herron, an individual,
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Third Party Defendant:
Kenneth Wayne Hamp, an individual.
 
This case revolves around a deeply contentious and complex legal battle stemming from the divorce and subsequent disputes between Cynthia Hayek and Steven Herron, involving allegations of child abuse, manipulation, and emotional distress. After their divorce, Herron and Hayek became embroiled in a series of legal confrontations, with Herron accusing Hayek and her boyfriend, Kenneth Wayne Hamp, of various forms of abuse towards their children, leading to a series of investigations and legal claims. These allegations, which Hayek contends are entirely fabricated and part of a "False Narrative" created by Herron to gain an advantage in custody and parenting disputes, have led to a multifaceted legal battle involving claims of intentional infliction of emotional distress, abuse of process, conspiracy, malicious prosecution, and negligent infliction of emotional distress. The case highlights the severe personal and legal ramifications of such disputes, touching on the emotional toll on all parties involved, the impact on the children at the center of the allegations, and the broader implications for the legal and community systems navigating such deeply personal and contentious issues.
 
In light of the resolution of this contentious custody case, where a jury awarded $21.3 million in damages after finding that the ex-husband corruptly manipulated proceedings to gain full custody by falsely alleging abuse, here are revised questions reflecting the allegations and the jury award:
Legal and Ethical Implications: "With a $21.3 million verdict against Steven Herron for defamation, conspiracy, outrageous conduct, abuse o

Join us as we delve into the harrowing story of a 61-year-old woman who fell victim to the corrupt family courts in San Diego, California. With two judges admitting to the falsification of a court judgment by her ex-husband, a CPA and forensic accountant who specializes in fraud, the courts have yet to take action and fix their error. Our podcast seeks to uncover the truth behind the injustice faced by countless families in the San Diego family court system and shed light on the need for change. 

About Karie Mcewen
I am a 61-year-old woman who is the victim of the family courts in   San Diego CA. Two judges, one being the Presiding Judge Michal T. Smyth have admitted that the court took a fake judgment that my  ex-husband who is a CPA, a Forensic accountant specializing in fraud had submitted to the court and got a clerk to stamp it to make it appear real with the court's stamp on it.  This Judgment did not show in the register of action.  The Judge whose name is on the fake Judgment and the two attorneys whose names are on the fake Judgement have all said
  it never happened . 
My ex-husband has walked away with all my retirement and has left me and my autistic son penniless. My question to the court is when the courts make a mistake who fixes it?
The court media person Emily Cox said Judge Michael T. Smyth sent this to the D.A.’s Office to be investigated in August 10, 2022 three days later the D.A.’s office said they did not have enough to prove my ex-husband who has worked with the DA's office on many cases and has been exonerated.
The DA's office also ignored Judge Ratekin in 2019 who also sent this fake document and a fake wage assignment to have the D.A. to only be ignored.
   The courts have enough evidence to prove it did not happen. Two judges now have been sent the judgment and fake wage assignment to the D.A. 's office.  To date 5 years have passed and the court still has not fixed the error. 
There is no dispute of the validity that the Judgment was a fake and was never heard in front of a Judge and was never a court ruling. The courts have admitted in open court that the Judgment was fake, and the court clerk should not have stamped it.
I have the tape recording of the Judge saying it in court in 2019. I have spent thousands of dollars to have the court fix their error.
 
Who fixes a court error in Family court in San Diego? I still have not had one judge fix the court error and to date still am being held to this fake Judgment. The courts have delayed this case until October of 2024.
Due process is not a real thing in family court in San Diego.

In this podcast episode of "Divorce Matters," host Mark welcomes guest Ira Paskowitz, a law enforcement officer in South Florida, to discuss parental alienation and parental interference. Ira shares his personal experience dealing with family court and custody issues with his ex-girlfriend, who engaged in relentless parental alienation towards him and his family. Despite paying $1,100 a month in child support, he was denied visitation with his daughter. The conversation highlights the financial and emotional toll of these legal battles and the impact on children caught in the middle.