Engineer Your Success Dr. James Bryant

Have you ever left a meeting feeling like your contributions went unnoticed, even though you had valuable insights to share?
 
In episode 150, Dr. James Bryant shares five practical tips to transform the way you express yourself and ensure your message is heard loud and clear. From active listening to adapting your communication style, these actionable strategies will help you break free from the frustration of feeling unheard and step into your full potential as a communicator. Dr. Bryant emphasizes the importance of being fully present in conversations, using simple language, paying attention to nonverbal cues, and seeking connections through empathy and emotional intelligence. By implementing these tips, you can significantly improve your communication skills and build stronger relationships both at work and in your personal life.
 
[00:00 - 03:47] Introduction 
Why is it important to enhance your communication skills?  Celebration of a milestone: 3 years of posting weekly episodes.  Greetings to the community for sharing support.   
[03:48 - 05:32] Mastering the Art of Active Listening
Be fully present and engaged in conversations Paraphrase what your colleague said to show understanding Active listening transforms relationships and communication effectiveness  
[05:33 - 06:23] Crafting Clear and Concise Messages
Structure your message logically using simple language Use easily understood wording Clarity ensures your message is understood and acted upon  
[06:24 - 06:59] Nonverbal Communication and Tone
Pay attention to your body language, facial expressions, and tone Open posture and a genuine smile build rapport Aim for a respectful, calm, and confident delivery  
[07:00 - 07:53] Cultivating Empathy and Emotional Intelligence
Put yourself in the listener's shoes and consider their perspective Recognize and manage your own emotions and those of others Seek to make a connection instead of looking for challenges or resistance  
[07:54 - 11:36] Adapting Your Communication Style and Packaging Your Message
Tailor your communication style to fit the audience and environment Package your message in a way that your audience can receive and understand Flexing your communication style is crucial for building strong relationships  
Key quotes:
 
"Active listening means being fully present, showing engagement, clarifying, understanding." - Dr. James Bryant
 
"Clarity ensures that your message is understood and acted upon with minimal confusion." - Dr. James Bryant
 
"Nonverbal cues and tone can make or break your message." - Dr. James Bryant
 
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How can celebrating your wins and acknowledging your accomplishments lead to greater success?
 
In episode 149, Dr. James Bryant explores the importance of celebrating your wins and amplifying your accomplishments. Many people struggle with accepting praise and downplaying their successes, but Dr. James teaches you how this self-sabotaging behavior can block your personal growth and recognition. He discusses the benefits of acknowledging your achievements, such as improved relationships, enhanced career growth, increased resilience, and greater overall well-being. Dr. James also talks about common obstacles that prevent people from celebrating their wins, such as the fear of bragging, minimizing successes, and perfectionism. He provides practical strategies using the GLOW framework (Gratitude journaling, Lifting others up, Open sharing, and Well-deserved rewards) to help you cultivate a strong sense of self-worth and maintain motivation.
 
[00:00 - 02:28] - Breaking Free from the Self-Sabotaging Cycle
Hiding your wins can hold you back from success and recognition
Amplifying your accomplishments is a non-negotiable skill for self-advocacy
Practical strategies can help you overcome barriers to owning your wins
 
[02:29 - 05:37] - The Power of Graciously Accepting Compliments
Examples of not accepting accomplishments 
Acknowledging your role in success
Sharing accomplishments leads to higher motivation and confidence
 
[05:38 - 11:12] - The Power of Owning your Wins 
Sharing your successes inspires others to recognize their own achievements
Benefits: improved relationships, enhanced career growth, increased resilience, and greater well-being
Celebrating wins as an essential component of self-care 
 
[11:13 - 19:03] - Strategies for Authentic Celebration: The GLOW Framework 
Gratitude journaling helps shift focus to positive aspects of life
Lift others up by genuinely acknowledging the successes of those around you
Open sharing of achievements with authenticity and intentionality
Reward yourself for your wins. 



Key Quotes: 
 
"Embracing and sharing your accomplishments is not only nurturing your own well-being, but you're also inspiring others to do the same." - Dr. James Bryant 
 
“Celebrating your wins is crucial to fueling your success.” - Dr. James Bryant 
 
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You have the strength of a hero within you. Check out my website, www.engineeryoursuccessnow.com, and learn how to unlock your potential and achieve success both in business and in life.
 
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Have you ever found yourself struggling to express your thoughts, feelings, and needs confidently and respectfully?
 
In episode 148, Dr. James Bryant explores the power of assertive communication and how it can help bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. He debunks common myths about assertiveness and explains how it is a crucial tool for clear, respectful communication. Dr. Bryant shares practical steps to start communicating more assertively using the RISE framework: Relay the situation, use I statements for thoughts and feelings, Specify your needs, and Explore solutions together. He emphasizes the importance of practicing self-compassion and setting boundaries proactively. By embodying assertive communication, you not only advocate for yourself but also contribute to a culture of respect, empathy, and accountability.
 
[01:00 - 03:03] Crossing the Bridge to Confidence and Success
How assertive communication leads to a confident, respected, and thriving life.
Embrace assertiveness to achieve higher goals and boost self-esteem.
Learn and benefit from assertive communication skills, no matter who you are.
 
[03:04 - 06:50] Debunking the Myths of Assertiveness
Understand that assertiveness is about honest self-expression and respecting others, not aggression or rudeness.
Unlock the power of assertive communication for confident self-expression, boundary-setting, and guilt-free requests.
Advocate for yourself effectively and respectfully through assertiveness.
 
[06:51 - 11:19] The RISE Framework for Assertive Communication
Utilize the RISE framework to promote clear, respectful expression and collaboration.
Remember RISE: Relay the situation, use I statements, Specify needs, Explore solutions.
Apply the adaptable RISE framework to enhance communication in various situations.
 
[11:20 - 17:02] Practicing Assertive Communication in Daily Life
Begin with small steps and gradually progress to more challenging conversations.
Cultivate self-compassion and celebrate progress in mastering assertiveness.
Set yourself up for success by preparing, rehearsing, and setting boundaries proactively.



Key Quotes: 
 
 "Assertive communication is a powerful tool for self-advocacy, but it's also a catalyst for positive change in the world around you." - Dr. James Bryant
 
"When you model assertive communication, you give others permission to do the same." - Dr. James Bryant
 
"Each assertive communication is a step towards becoming your own best advocate." - Dr. James Bryant
 
Engineer Your Success On-Ramp: If you're ready to break free from the cycle of stress, frustration, and unfulfillment, this On-Ramp session is your catalyst for change. Take the first step towards dominating your career and home life by securing your spot today.
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Let's connect! Find me on my LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram. I'd love to hear from you.
 
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You have the strength of a hero within you. Check out my website, www.engineeryoursuccessnow.com, and learn how to unlock your potential and achieve success both in business and in life.
 
Listen to the guided meditation here: 
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Why do we often become our own worst enemy, and how can we transform into our own best advocate?
 
In episode 147, Dr. James Bryant talks about the concept of being one's own worst enemy and the impact it can have on both personal and professional life. He explores the reasons behind negative self-talk, such as imposter syndrome and the fear of appearing arrogant, and how these thoughts can lead to missed opportunities and living an unfulfilled life. Dr. James shares the importance of self-awareness as the first step toward change and gives actionable strategies for cultivating a more empowering inner dialogue. By learning to advocate for oneself and one's ideals, you can unlock a transformative journey to have better mental health, stronger relationships, and a life filled with purpose and fulfillment.
 
[00:00 - 03:40] The Sabotaging Inner Critic
How the inner critic can undermine confidence and lead to weak responses in important situations How negative self-talk can cause hesitation and missed opportunities Borrowed belief and the importance of reaffirming one's worth through a belief bank  
[03:41 - 00:06:33] Self-Doubt: Imposter Syndrome and Societal Expectations
Imposter syndrome and how it can make you feel inadequate  Childhood experiences and overly critical feedback on self-perception The fear of appearing arrogant and how it can lead to downplaying one's strengths and ideals  
[06:34 - 09:22] - The Consequences of Being Your Own Worst Enemy
Identify common patterns, such as procrastination and decision paralysis, that may indicate negative self-talk How constant negativity can lead to missed opportunities and self-sabotage Self-awareness is the first step to break free from the cycle of negative self-fulfilling prophecies  
[09:23 - 13:12] - Transforming into Your Own Best Advocate
Cultivating self-awareness through reflection, journaling, and working with a coach The transformation from being one's own worst enemy to the best advocate takes effort Embrace the power to change one's story and unlock a life filled with confidence, fulfillment, and stronger relationships  
Key Quotes:
 
"When you don't speak up and share your ideals, you rob the world of a valuable treasure. You rob the world of you." - Dr. James Bryant
 
"Self-awareness is the greatest level of awareness because you cannot change things that you are not aware of, or at least you can't be intentional about that change." - Dr. James Bryant
 
Engineer Your Success On-Ramp: If you're ready to break free from the cycle of stress, frustration, and unfulfillment, this On-Ramp session is your catalyst for change. Take the first step towards dominating your career and home life by securing your spot today.
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Let's connect! Find me on my LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram. I'd love to hear from you.
 
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You have the strength of a hero within you. Check out my website, www.engineeryoursuccessnow.com, and learn how to unlock your potential and achieve success both in business and in life.
 
Listen to the guided meditation here: 
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How borrowing belief from others can help you to overcome self-doubt and achieve your dreams?
 
In episode 146 we go deeper into the concept of borrowed belief and its practical applications. Dr. James Bryant teaches you how to lean on the beliefs of others, and explains how this technique can serve you as a powerful tool to navigate challenging times and boost your confidence. Dr. Bryant shares strategies for integrating borrowed belief into your daily routine, balancing it with intrinsic motivation, and applying it in professional settings. He also shares the potential misconceptions surrounding borrowed belief. Throughout this episode, Dr. Bryant emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, celebrating small victories, and lending belief to others in need.
 
[00:00 - 04:25] The Power of Borrowed Belief
Borrowed belief can help you overcome self-doubt and believe in your potential On-ramp sessions are back: How to dominate both your career and your home life Dr. Bryant invites listeners to borrow his belief in their abilities and worthiness  
[04:26 - 07:45] Practical Steps to Integrate Borrowed Belief
Create a "belief bank" filled with positive affirmations and supportive statements. Set aside time for daily reflection and visualization exercises to reinforce positive affirmations. Celebrate small steps and successes to develop a growth mindset and internalize self-confidence.  
[07:46 - 10:04] Applying Borrowed Belief in Professional Settings
Seek out mentors, colleagues, or friends who believe in your leadership capabilities and potential when facing promotional opportunities. Draw on past successes and positive feedback as a source of belief in your abilities. Lend your belief to colleagues and team members to build a supportive community.  
[10:05 - 13:18] Misconceptions of Borrowed Belief
Avoid becoming overly dependent on external validation. Discern between healthy and unhealthy sources of belief, focusing on supportive individuals. Understand that borrowed belief is a tool to be used in conjunction with other strategies for personal growth.  
[13:19 - 17:16] Maintaining a Positive Mindset and Staying Connected to Belief
Apply relief techniques like deep breathing or positive self-talk during times of stress. Cultivate a strong support network and reach out for help when needed. Practice self-compassion and treat yourself with kindness during challenging times.  
Key quotes:
 
"Small steps are still progress towards your goals. So celebrate each one along the way and understand that the more you look for how you are winning, the more that you will see yourself winning because we see what we look for." - Dr. James Bryant
 
"Remember, you have the strength, skills, and resilience to overcome any obstacle in your path. Borrow belief when you need it and generously lend it to others when they need it the most." - Dr. James Bryant
 
Engineer Your Success On-Ramp: If you're ready to break free from the cycle of stress, frustration, and unfulfillment, this On-Ramp session is your catalyst for change. Take the first step towards dominating your career and home life by securing your spot today.
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Let's connect! Find me on my LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram. I'd love to hear from you.
 
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You have the strength of a hero within you. Check out my website, www.engineeryoursuccessnow.com, and learn how to unlock your potential and achieve success both in business and in life.
 
Listen to the guided meditation here: 
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How can you overcome self-doubt and achieve your full potential as a leader?
 
In episode 145, Dr. James Bryant explores the concept of borrowing belief as a powerful tool for overcoming self-doubt and achieving success. He shares a personal story about his son's struggle with self-criticism and how he encouraged him to view himself through the lens of a supportive friend. Dr. Bryant also shares the importance of positive affirmations in reshaping thought patterns and building resilience. He emphasizes that borrowing belief from others who see your potential can provide a source of motivation and confidence when you need it most.
 
[00:00 - 06:14] Conquering the Inner Critic and Self-doubt 
High-achieving professionals often put immense pressure on themselves to excel Even the most successful leaders face moments of uncertainty and self-doubt You have the power to overcome challenges and achieve the success you deserve  
[06:15 - 09:58] Positive Self-Talk: Rewiring Your Mind for Success
Positive affirmations are statements that promote positive thinking and boost self-confidence Key characteristics of positive affirmations The purpose of positive affirmations is to counteract negative self-talk and limiting beliefs  
[09:59 - 15:31] Borrowed Belief: The Strength of Your Support System
Intellectually agreeing with something but struggling to believe it  Borrowing belief leverages the power of social influence and positive reinforcement Seeing yourself through the eyes of those who believe in you   
Key quotes: 
 
"When we're struggling to believe in ourselves, we can lean on the unwavering faith that others have in us." - Dr. James Bryant
 
"Borrow belief really allows us to see ourselves through the eyes of those who believe in us." - Dr. James Bryant
 
"You are capable, you are worthy, and you have the power to create the success that you envision." - Dr. James Bryant
 
Engineer Your Success On-Ramp: If you're ready to break free from the cycle of stress, frustration, and unfulfillment, this On-Ramp session is your catalyst for change. Take the first step towards dominating your career and home life by securing your spot today.
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Let's connect! Find me on my LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram. I'd love to hear from you.
 
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You have the strength of a hero within you. Check out my website, www.engineeryoursuccessnow.com, and learn how to unlock your potential and achieve success both in business and in life.