Self-Love Is Never Selfish with Chardeja Relaford (009‪)‬ Way To Greatness

You may be in a situation that's very sad, traumatic and stressful right now. But you will get through it. And once you did, it will make you even better and stronger than before. Never let your current situation dictate what the future has for you. Keep on improving yourself and show the world that you deserve that "ONE GREAT LIFE".


Show Highlights

04:35 - Ari: I want to just touch back into your life a little bit. You did mention to me before the show that you've had life experiences where you've suffered from depression and you also mentioned the environment that you grew up with. Can you tell us a little bit about those?


4:58 - Chardeja: I grew up in a poor neighborhood moving from house to house transferring for a whole bunch of schools, trying to make new friends...


5:18 -Chardeja: I just had to tell myself what you want to be that person that everybody can go to do when they're feeling down.


6:00 -Ari: What I love is that you literally just told us that you make a conscious decision on a daily basis on a minute-by-minute basis to be happy and that you've developed this ability to make that choice always based on your own personal self work. How did that journey work? How did you get from from depression? Like what was your moment of epiphany? What was the moment where you said this has got to change I got to do something about this?


6:39- Chardeja: I didn't want to be on the type of business prescription just a not benefit me at all. I have siblings too and if I want to be a role model for my siblings I have to change myself for the better not just for myself


7:58- Ari: The bad is not gonna last in the good's gonna come back. And so I should just be focused on being happy.


8:25- Ari: So you have recognized at a very young age that you are a role model to younger siblings that you're a role model to the kids around your to your peer group even and and then you've gone a step further and you take an action based on that realization. Can you bring us into this journey that you took?


9:36- Chardeja: I turn that negative into positive


10:14- Chardeja: It all starts with you..


10:33- Ari: The loudest voice in the room that's the one you're gonna listen to.


11:55- Ari: You practice gratitude in the morning when you wake up..


13:15- Chardeja: I can't give advice to people if I'm feeling down...


15:38- Ari: You mentioned before that you've had some traumatic childhood experiences. Would you be comfortable sharing any of those or no?


16:08- Chardeja: He is a drug-addict sadly and no matter how many times we try to help him....


17:33- Chardeja: I cant't help somebody that doesn't want help.


18:39- Ari: The problem is when somebody is so hooked into that situation, when somebody is so involved in that world, it becomes so normal for them, So mind-altering. It's so changes attitude.


19:59- Chardeja: My dad, he did give good advice good motivational speeches, even my old dad, he looks up to me that really touched my heart.


20:39- Chardeja: It is sad to see the whole different person. That's a whole different person when drugs take over. It's a whole different person not the same person. But I did, take the time to forgive them.


21: 01- Ari: You also mentioned bullying. Do you mind if we touch upon that?


21: 08- Chardeja: I've been bullied majority of my school experience. Middle School, Elementary Schoo, High School.


21:33- Ari: How did that affect you and how did it make you feel? What did you do after?


21:50- Chardeja: Well, I'm going to touch upon where I've been bullied majority of my middle school high school.Every time the teachers they will help a little bit, but they can't control.


22: 40- Chardeja: But I still managed to make friends.


23:55- Ari: Basically bullies don't need a reason, They'll find a reason so it's not like it's not like well if I just get the right shoes, they'll start accepting me.


24:00- Chardeja: It's gotten to the point where I used to go