34 min
224 - Being The Good Girl Always Leads to Resentment - How to Break the Pattern Be You Podcast
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- Spiritualité
Too few of us are willing to be true to ourselves and risk disappointing or (GASP!) offending others.
We rarely speak our truth or ask for what we want.
We shrink, hide and politely accept and agree to terms we don’t want in order to be accepted and liked.
What if we didn’t?
Show Notes: [3:10] - We need to be willing to get uncomfortable and potentially make others uncomfortable by asking for the things we want.
[4:21] - We’ve been taught to be “the good girl.” We wind up saying yes to everything to be nice and not be “too much.”
[7:07] - It’s hard to stand up for ourselves and it takes practice.
[8:50] - When will you allow yourself to have the things you want to your satisfaction?
[10:27] - With more practice it becomes harder to not follow your true north.
[14:29] - Don’t apologize for your decisions. You can apologize for taking someone’s time or inconveniencing them, but not for your decision.
[17:40] - Many times life is going to put us in situations that are so extreme to show us how bad it feels to abandon ourselves so we can really make the decision to choose ourselves.
[19:14] - Think of a situation where you spoke up for yourself and how it showed up in your body. Now think of a time when you didn’t.
[21:08] - You don’t have to abandon yourself and your needs to fulfill the needs of someone else.
[23:36] - It will eventually feel so natural to stand up for yourselves.
[29:03] - Jill gives an example of how “the flavor can change.” What feels right to you and when are you willing to compromise?
[31:10] - What are your rules? What are your boundaries?
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Too few of us are willing to be true to ourselves and risk disappointing or (GASP!) offending others.
We rarely speak our truth or ask for what we want.
We shrink, hide and politely accept and agree to terms we don’t want in order to be accepted and liked.
What if we didn’t?
Show Notes: [3:10] - We need to be willing to get uncomfortable and potentially make others uncomfortable by asking for the things we want.
[4:21] - We’ve been taught to be “the good girl.” We wind up saying yes to everything to be nice and not be “too much.”
[7:07] - It’s hard to stand up for ourselves and it takes practice.
[8:50] - When will you allow yourself to have the things you want to your satisfaction?
[10:27] - With more practice it becomes harder to not follow your true north.
[14:29] - Don’t apologize for your decisions. You can apologize for taking someone’s time or inconveniencing them, but not for your decision.
[17:40] - Many times life is going to put us in situations that are so extreme to show us how bad it feels to abandon ourselves so we can really make the decision to choose ourselves.
[19:14] - Think of a situation where you spoke up for yourself and how it showed up in your body. Now think of a time when you didn’t.
[21:08] - You don’t have to abandon yourself and your needs to fulfill the needs of someone else.
[23:36] - It will eventually feel so natural to stand up for yourselves.
[29:03] - Jill gives an example of how “the flavor can change.” What feels right to you and when are you willing to compromise?
[31:10] - What are your rules? What are your boundaries?
Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts “I love Be You Podcast!” ← If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps the podcast reach more people just like you. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” I know there was something in this episode that you were meant to hear. Let me know what that is!
Also, if you haven’t done so already, follow Be You Podcast. There is a new episode every single week, and if you’re not following, there’s a good chance you’ll miss out.
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