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Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing Choose Recovery Services - Alana Gordon and Amie Woolsey
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Choose To Be is focused on women healing from infidelity, and betrayal trauma. We are committed to helping women heal. Be a part of the conversation as we interview experts and others who have gone through this journey and gain tools to help you move forward.
Alana and Amie bring their own experiences to the conversation, and their individual expertise makes for a unique and valuable resource.
Alana Gordon-MFTI, CCPS, CSAT candidate, Betrayal Coach
Amie Woolsey-Betrayal Coach, CPC, ELI-MP, APSATS trainee
For more information: ChooseRecoveryServices.com | info@chooserecoveryservices.com
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Stepping Into Authenticity - with Luke Gordon
We all wear masks at times, but hiding your true self is exhausting and inauthentic. In this week’s episode we welcome back Luke Gordon. Luke opens up about his personal battles with hiding behind false versions of himself. He describes how he was finally able to deepen relationships when he stepped into vulnerability, integrity, and authenticity.
Listen to learn:
What true authenticity is and isn’t
How authenticity is “earned and learned”
The reward in choosing short-term pain for long-term gains
How to reach sustainable growth and peace within yourself
Referenced in this episode:
Connect with Luke Gordon and book a session with him HERE.
Exciting Resources Coming Soon!
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Subscribe to this new podcast by Luke Gordon. Learn more about authenticity and the struggle to be real with ourselves and others as you build meaningful relationships. Subscribe now and watch for the first episode in May!
In-person Intensive: Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held May 16-18, 2024 in Spanish Fork, UT. Learn more and register HERE.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. New group beginning soon!
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or -
What Does "Get In Your Body" Mean?
Your body is keeping secrets - traumatic memories and intense emotions locked away at a cellular level. In this episode, Amie and Alana dive into the science of how the body “keeps the score,” storing experiences that your conscious mind has disconnected from. Learn how to unlock your body’s innate wisdom to truly heal.
Listen to learn:
How emotions and memories are stored in the body, not just the brain
The science behind why the body “keeps the score” on traumatic events
Practical ways to get back in touch with your body’s signals
The value of having supportive people for regulating the nervous system
Referenced in this episode:
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
Quit Moralizing Your Emotions! - past podcast episode
Is Ketamine Right For Me? - past podcast episode
Should I Stay or Go? - Amie’s self-paced guide for helping you explore what choice is right for you
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
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Is Ketamine Right For Me?
Imagine being able to rewire your brain to heal from the devastation of betrayal trauma and PTSD. Many who have tried ketamine say they have done just that. On this episode, Alana explains what ketamine is and how it can help receptors in your brain work together to promote healing from the pain of trauma. Listen in as Alana shares her experience with ketamine and the insight and healing she gained from this treatment.
Listen to learn:
What ketamine is and how it’s used to treat PTSD
How ketamine can increase your brain’s neuroplasticity
The potential benefits of using ketamine as a tool for healing
The importance of utilizing multiple tools and modalities during recovery
Starting Soon!
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Learn practical tools and skills in a caring environment that fosters relational growth. Group begins April 3rd. Learn more and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group led by Hali Roderick is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C -
Quit Moralizing Your Emotions!
Are you constantly judging your emotions as good or bad? Do you feel guilty for experiencing “negative” feelings? In this episode, Amie dives deep into the tendency we often have of moralizing our emotions. Learn why it’s important to notice and name your feelings, to become aware of when you might be suppressing emotions, and how to embrace all of your emotions with self-compassion.
Listen to learn:
Why moralizing emotions is unhealthy
Practical tips to increase awareness of when you’re moralizing your feelings
How to separate your self-worth from your emotional experiences
Techniques for making peace with the full range of human emotions
Referenced in this episode:
Feelings Wheel
Amie’s Offerings: Believing In You; Intimacy Within; Should I Stay or Go?; or book a consultation HERE
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group led by Hali Roderick is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APSATS Trainee
Choose Recovery Services -
Why Addicts Need To Do Their Work Part II; Helping Children Heal with Luke Gordon
Have you ever felt so overwhelmed by the damage caused by your addiction that giving up seemed like the only option? In this episode, Luke Gordon, cofounder and coach at Choose Recovery Services, as well as a father in recovery, opens up about grappling with feelings of hopelessness when facing attachment wounds inflicted on his children because of his addictive behaviors.
Amie, Alana, and Luke discuss the crucial work of healing your own attachment trauma while simultaneously repairing the parent-child bond.
Listen to learn:
Why addicts must examine their own attachment wounds and heal from them
How to balance doing inner work while also parenting authentically
The important role that repair plays in relationships
How to overcome hopelessness, feelings of failure, and perfectionism so you can heal yourself and your relationships
Referenced in this episode:
Now, Discover Your Strengths - book
A.R.E. You There For Me? - past podcast episode
Attachment Assessment - find out your attachment style
Divorce 101 - Amie’s self-paced guide to learn the next wise steps for you
Intimacy From Within - Amie’s self-paced course that leads couples through the seven levels of intimacy
Starting Soon!
Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first! This workshop will help you know if you are ready to date again, understand how you’re showing up in relationships, tips and tricks for dating, and what a healthy relationship looks like. The next workshop is March 28th-30th. Register HERE.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Learn practical tools and skills in a caring environment that fosters relational growth. Group begins April 3rd. Learn more and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Support for women for women who have recently experienced betrayal. First four weeks are free!.
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn how to move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal.
Help. Her. Heal - This program helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Support group led by Hali Roderick for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and need support navigating their own experience.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Hali Roderick teaches this free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon - MFTIntern, CCPS-C
Amie Woolsey - Life Coach CPC, ICF, ELI-MP, CLDS, APS -
Why the Addict Needs to Do Their Own Attachment Work - with Luke Gordon
This week we are excited to welcome Luke Gordon to the podcast! Luke is an emotional health coach and cofounder of Choose Recovery Services who specializes in helping men overcome unwanted sexual compulsive behaviors.
Luke shares how disruptions in our earliest childhood attachments form the foundation for later challenges like addiction, unhealthy coping mechanisms, and struggles with emotional intimacy. With raw vulnerability, Luke shares his own journey and provides insight into the harrowing yet rewarding work of exploring attachment wounds and family dynamics.
Listen to learn:
How early childhood wounds can manifest in relationships at all stages of life
How generational patterns can be linked to current behaviors
Techniques for exploring your attachment story honestly without blaming or villainizing your caregivers
The role of professional support in providing a safe space to do this vulnerable work
Referenced in this episode:
It Didn’t Start WIth You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn
Learn more about Luke and book a session with him HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma Support for Women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and need help coping. First four weeks are free!.
Believing in You - Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn to move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This 15-week couples course is a comprehensive program designed for early-recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction.
Help. Her. Heal - This program helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills needed to begin healing a broken relationship.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationsh
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