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Have you ever wanted X-ray specs into human behaviour? Then this is the podcast for you. Listen to ‘brilliant, insightful and wise’ agony aunt and journalist Annalisa Barbieri, as she releases exclusive conversations between her and the trusted specialists she’s consulted over the years, who put a life time’s learning into each conversation. Every week you can learn more about yourself and the people around you. Series 6 launched autumn 2023. Series 7 due in the new year 2024.
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Conversations with Annalisa Barbieri Annalisa Barbieri

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.8 • 276 Ratings

Have you ever wanted X-ray specs into human behaviour? Then this is the podcast for you. Listen to ‘brilliant, insightful and wise’ agony aunt and journalist Annalisa Barbieri, as she releases exclusive conversations between her and the trusted specialists she’s consulted over the years, who put a life time’s learning into each conversation. Every week you can learn more about yourself and the people around you. Series 6 launched autumn 2023. Series 7 due in the new year 2024.
Make a one off donation: https://supporter.acast.com/conversations-with-annalisa-barbieri
Want this podcast ad free? Head over to my Patreon page: www.patreon.com/annalisabarbieri
Insta: @annalisabarbieri
Twitter: AnnalisaB
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    Envy with psychotherapist Ryan Bennett-Clarke

    Envy with psychotherapist Ryan Bennett-Clarke

    Interviewing Ryan Bennett-Clarke for my Guardian column - about something else entirely - we got talking about envy. And what he had to say fair blew my mind.
    What is envy? How does it differ from jealously? Where does it come from and how does it manifest? If you've ever left a person feeling like little bits of you have been taken away, well envy may be the answer. We talk about how envy feels, why people get jealous or envious, how it's on the rise with social media; and we also talk about some nifty ways to 'interrupt' envy. How to answer back to those barbs. I found this one of the most thought-provoking episodes I've ever done and I have to admit I looked at certain people in a different way. Dare I say this is life-changing? I think it might be.
    Ryan Bennett-Clarke, né Marjoram is a UKCP accredited psychotherapist. He has written two papers for The Journal of Psychodynamic Practice:
    The Insidious Dance of Love and Hate: An examination of Envy and Greed in the Stalker-Victim Dynamic: Part One - Theory
    https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14753634.2022.2039880 
    The Insidious Dance of Love and Hate: An examination of Envy and Greed in the Stalker-Victim Dynamic: Part Two - Clinical Application
    https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/14753634.2022.2039881  
    and you can read more about Ryan here:

    Let us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.com

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    Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.
    The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.
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    • 56 min
    Unresolved Grief (adults bereaved in childhood) with psychotherapist Mandy Gosling

    Unresolved Grief (adults bereaved in childhood) with psychotherapist Mandy Gosling

    Although unresolved grief can hit us at any stage in our lives, this episode specifically talks about childhood bereavement and the impact it can have on adulthood. My guest is UKCP and BACP registered psychotherapist and researcher Mandy Gosling who, as we shall hear, has personal experience of early bereavement.
    An early bereavement can lodge - if not processed - and be carried into adult hood, manifesting as inability to hold down jobs or relationships, feelings of loneliness or depression (of course you can feel all these things without having been bereaved). Mandy talks about her personal experiences, how they impacted and how we can help children process grief and if that's now you as an adult, what you might consider doing to lighten your psychological load.
    You can learn more about Mandy and her work here: www.abcgrief.co.uk or www.mandygosling.co.uk 
    Some useful bereavement websites:
    https://www.winstonswish.org
    https://www.childbereavementuk.org
    https://www.cruse.org.uk

    Let us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.com
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    Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.
    The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.
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    • 48 min
    Shame with clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Dr Stephen Blumenthal

    Shame with clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst Dr Stephen Blumenthal

    Dr Stephen Blumenthal returns (catch him in Series 2 talking about Intimacy and Trust in Series 5) and this time we're talking about shame. What it is, how it differs to humiliation and embarrassment or even guilt. Shame can make people act differently - either because they are avoiding shame or trying to cover up the shame they already feel. Where does shame come from? And why is some shame useful to society?
    If you’d like to learn more about Dr Blumenthal and his work you can do so at https://stephenblumenthal.com.

    Let us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.com
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    Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.
    The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.
    IG: @annalisabarbieri
    All links to pretty much everything else I do: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieri
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    • 44 min
    Why You Can Never Plan Too Much with Professor Lucy Easthope

    Why You Can Never Plan Too Much with Professor Lucy Easthope

    Professor Lucy Easthope is a UK expert and advisor on emergency planning and disaster recover. A world authority on recovery and disaster planning and its aftermath. She’s Professor of Practice of Risk and Hazard at the university of Durham and a professor in Mass Fatalities at the university of Bath.
    Lucy studied law at university and has a masters in disaster management and a pHD in medicine.
    In 2022 Lucy published a best selling book that talks a lot about her work and a little about her life called When the Dust Settles, Searching for Hope after disaster. It’s a must read and one that I recommend to all who will listen. If anyone knows about planning it’s Lucy and in this episode we talk about how she takes her incredible experience into every day life. Can we ever plan too much? Why is planning a good idea but how we should also leave a little room for spontaneity. Perhaps. And one of the most important take aways for me - look after the planner in the family
    You can find her website here: http://whatevernext.info/

    Let us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.com
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    Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.
    The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.
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    All links to pretty much everything else I do: linktr.ee/annalisabarbieri
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    • 59 min
    Where to Die (Home, Hospice, Care Home or Hospital) with Dr Kathryn Mannix

    Where to Die (Home, Hospice, Care Home or Hospital) with Dr Kathryn Mannix

    Where to die? Not everyone gets that choice but you or a loved one might and that choice may be to go home from a hospice or hospital or care home, or go into one. In this sensitively handled but hugely informative episode, I talk again to Dr Kathryn Mannix, palliative care doctor and author of two excellent books: With the End in Mind and Listen. We talk about what to think about: care, equipment, environment, all things that need to be carefully considered and weighed up. When my own mother was dying and she wanted to go home, I was tortured by what to do and doing the Right Thing. Dr Kathryn Mannix held my hand through this process and lessened some of the pain. Despite the subject matter we end the episode on a really poetic, positive takeaway from Kathryn which should soothe even the most troubled of souls.
    A few links we refer to and which you may find useful:
    https://eol-doula.uk/
    https://www.kathrynmannix.com/

    Let us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.com
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    Thanks so much for listening and please remember to share with friends and if you feel able to, leave a review, it really helps.
    The producer is Hester Cant, the music is Toby Dunham and our artwork is by Lo Cole.
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    • 1 hr 13 min
    What makes a 'real' relationship with psychotherapist Joanna Harrison

    What makes a 'real' relationship with psychotherapist Joanna Harrison

    Not what makes a relationship real vs fantasy or made up, but the nubbins of relationships, the reality. Many people seem unprepared for what a real relationship looks and feels like, and this might be because of how they are portrayed on TV and on social media where many times it's only the polar opposites which are show: either people talking about how fantastic their relationship is or how terrible. Real relationships are quite ordinary. But what should they be like? Is it okay to argue? When do you know if your relationship has tipped from 'real' to dysfunctional or even abusive? If relationships are such hard work why do we even bother to have them?
    Joanna Harrison is the author of an excellent book called Five Arguments All Couples Need To Have, but she was also a divorce lawyer in a former life, and is now a senior clinician at Tavistock Relationships and a consultant to parents and separating couples at the law firm Family Law in Partnership.
    You can read more about her and her work at joannaharrison.co.uk. She's on Instagram as @joannaharrisoncoupletherapy.
    Let us know if you feel this episode has brought up any thoughts, or if you have ideas for other episodes: conversationswithannalisa@gmail.com
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    • 43 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
276 Ratings

276 Ratings

imnotquitesureyet ,

A great resource

I’m thoroughly enjoying these episodes with interesting professionals and Annalisa’s pertinent questions. Recommended

Jen24105 ,

Interesting and insightful.

I really like the variety of this podcast and the different topics it covers. Annalisa also has a clever way of getting the most out of the guests and asking them questions in a way that is really probing. The only episode that this doesn’t apply to is the one about Narcissists. Nothing wrong with Annalisa’s interview here but I’m not sure why the psychotherapist is so sympathetic towards them (and I don’t mean people who have a few traits but those who have Narcissistic personality disorder.) He seems to seriously downplay the huge damage people with this personality disorder can do to others and it’s very frustrating…

Happydoc77 ,

Please make more programmes

Esp now your Guardian column is ending. Practical and wise.

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