Couples Therapy In Seven Words Dr. Bruce Chalmer

The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/can-you-forgive-rape/ .
What are the limits of forgiveness? Can you forgive even the worst sort of violations? I (Bruce) have worked with many people who are struggling with this question. In part, it depends on what you mean by “forgive.” Does forgiveness have to imply that you’ll try to restore your relationship? Or might you forgive someone, but still not trust them? Could you see forgiveness as getting the poison out of you? Ann Lamott famously noted that not forgiving someone is like drinking rat poison and waiting for the rat to die.
Along the way, we also talk about people getting canceled, trigger warnings, microaggressions—basically, a lot of stuff that might generate angry emails. Try to be kind, don’t panic, and have faith (our seven words) as you respond.
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The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness-its-almost-here/.
Bruce’s book, Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again, is getting closer to its release. In this episode we talk more about various kinds of betrayal Bruce encounters in his work with couples. It’s often infidelity, but there are other sorts of betrayal as well.
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The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/betrayal-and-forgiveness/.
 
What is betrayal? Why is it so painful? And how do you recover from the shock, get past the anger, and figure out how to move on? In this episode we talk about the kinds of betrayal Bruce encounters in his work with couples. It’s often infidelity, but there are other sorts of betrayal as well. We touch on secret cross-dressing, porn and masturbation, financial malfeasance, and other examples. And we put in a plug for Bruce’s forthcoming book, to be called Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again.
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The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/marisa-flood/.
How can you turn conflict into connection? Our guest in this episode, Marisa Flood, is a relationship coach who specializes in helping couples learn the skills they need to thrive.
Marisa’s website is https://conflict2connection.com/.
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The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/dene-logan/.
How can we reclaim the healthy masculine and feminine aspects we each have within us? And how does reclaiming those aspects help couples? Our guest in this episode, Dené Logan, uses her understanding of depth psychology, informed by her own experience, to help couples along the path to more fulfilling relationships.
Dené’s website is https://denelogan.com/, and her forthcoming book is Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within.
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The video of this episode is at https://brucechalmer.com/artemisia-de-vine/.
Our guest in this episode, Artemisia De Vine, is an expert on sexual fantasies, an expertise she developed through her work as a professional dominatrix. We talk about the meaning of sexual fantasies, and how understanding them can unlock deeper connection and spiritual growth. Her forthcoming book is The Spirituality of Smut: The Surprising Wisdom of Sexual Fantasies.
Artemisia’s website is https://www.artemisiadevine.com/.
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Our sponsor is The Blue Tent: Erotic Tales from the Bible by Laria Zylber. Find out more at https://lariazylber.com.