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Let’s talk about sex baby! Tina and Jarlath chat about the "We Consent" campaign that they helped to launch this week. They are both on a mission to help parents get conversations going that on the surface appear to be difficult. So rather than one big chat, they argue for a series of on-going small chats where nothing off limits.

Is your teenager out of control? Do you feel like you don’t understand or recognise the person they are becoming? Is there a way to reach them. Are you afraid of your own child? Listen in and give them your thoughts as Tina and Jarlath give two very worn down parents a bit of a steer.

Toilet training is exhausting, but to get through it and then see your child regress is heartbreaking to watch. What do you do when your child doesn’t care about pooping in their pants. Is there a way to get that poop to go back in the toilet? Tina and Jarlath try and help this mum get her child to start caring about using the toilet again.

Biting is never good. If you have a biter you know the stress of never being fully able to relax when your little vampire is socialising. Tina arms the listeners with the tools and well researched methods to stop kids biting.

And there's more for our members over on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad you can hear what happened to last week's stage fright email and a deeper conversation on building toughness and confidence in your kids.

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(Trigger Warning - The third and final question on today’s episode relates to the issue of suicide and how to speak to our children about the subject.)
Question 1: No Dramas
Stage fright is no fun at any point but when you’re five it’s a hard feeling to understand and push through. How do you arm your child with the confidence they need to be able to enjoy performing again.
Question 2: Motivation
How can you motivate a child who has lost their drive. Is there any reaching them? Can reward charts work with older kids? Not wanting to study for your leaving cert or care about having to repeat is alarming. How can you get your child back on track and get them excited about their future. Tina helps this mother find a way to ignite her child’s interests and get her to enjoy investing in her future again.
Question 3: Life & Death
This week Tina and Jarlath deal with their toughest question yet. A Mom gets in touch, extremely concerned for her 16 year old son who has recently lost a friend to suicide. Tina and Jarlath try their best to navigate this extremely sensitive subject while helping the mother become aware of the signs to watch out for, the places and resources available to help her through this time. If you have any advice that would also be helpful please get in touch by emailing honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com.

If you've ever felt sleep deprived and narky Tina and Jarlath are right there with you this week. A week of vomiting bugs, sinus infections, sleep deprivation and flight delays, beat them down this week. But Honey, You’re Ruining Our kid must go on because parenting never stops!

Question 1:
It’s hard to raise a gracious winner, realising your child is a sore loser can be a hard pill to swallow. Is there any way back? Are they reachable? Tina has a range of strategies to help your child both win with grace and lose with dignity (without throwing the toys out of the pram!).

Question 2:
Let’s talk about sex baby. When your child starts asking questions what is the best way to respond. Firstly, always start with what is comfortable for you. Secondly here at Honey You’re Ruining Our Kid we believe that the children deserve facts and truth. Greet their questions as honestly and age appropriately as you can.

Question 3:
Screen time! A subject that is making life difficult for teachers and parents alike all over the world. Tina goes off on this one. She has seen the desperate consequences too much iPad is having on today's children. Her insights on this will have your jaw on the floor. But is there a way back once you've started giving you kid a screen while you're out and about. Of course there is, no kid is ever ruined!

Email honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com to submit your questions and issues for TIna. She replies to every single email personally.

Trying to raise your kids not to be gobshites is flipping hard. Thankfully we have our in-house expert, Tina, on hand to answer some of the toughest parenting situations imaginable. With more than 20 years of experience in the business of child behaviour, her advice has helped so many people to find the joy in having kids again.
We also hear back from a mother who applied a "Tina strategy" and had major breakthrough this week (Patreon bonus content). Did you ever have an imaginary friend? This week Tina helps a mom whose little boy is using his imaginary friend to engineer some pretty funny stories. How do you get your child to reign it in when you know they're not telling the truth.
Independent little ladies are our favourite kind of people but what do you do when they just won’t listen and their behaviour is upsetting the whole house. Listen in and hear how Tina helps a very busy mom get her mornings back on track.
What do you do if your child still isn’t talking? When should you start to worry. What tools can you use to help. Can you frighten your child into talking? Does this sound ridiculous? Desperation will take you to strange places as a parent. There are some great language techniques that may help any parent out there who is going through this.
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Messy kids, anxious kids and kids that won't sleep in their own bed! This week we go around the world answering emails from people peppered all over the globe. Do you adore your children? Of course we all do - most of the time. But is there something that they are doing that is driving you around the twist. This week Tina helps a lovely mum organise her kids' messy habits. Children flipping love rules and boundaries - right? Surprisingly yes, they do! Nothing is more calming to a child than knowing what is expected of them. Realising your child hasn’t just been complaining and is actually struggling with anxiety is a tough pill to swallow. Lucky is the child whose parents realised this when listening to an episode of Honey You’re Ruining Our Kid. Getting in touch, reaching out for help is the right thing to do. This podcast is here to help. The Colour Monster gets another shout out. An incredible book that helps children understand their feelings. Helping our children know that all feelings are valid is important. Normalising all feelings is imperative to our kids' development. Does your child refuse to stay in their own bed? This is a common problem for all sleep deprived parents. Tina helps a listener feel empowered to get their sleep back on track in their house. Extra juicy bit - A follow up with the shoe dilemma child (the kid that refused to wear shoes) is up on Patreon this week. Join us on An Irishman abroad Patreon platform to listen to the bonus Honey You’re Ruining Our Kid content. www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad

The triple whammy this week - refusal, breastfeeding and bedwetting. Midterm is over but before the reality of school lunches and school runs kicks in, join us for this fun chat about some very serious problems and Jarlath getting it all wrong again on Valentine's Day! Episode 21 of Honey You’re Ruining Our Kid is a belter. On this week's episode we deal with perhaps the cutest (while head melting) question yet. Tina devises a plan to get a tiny early walker wearing her shoes. Are you ready to stop breastfeeding? Is the don’t offer, don’t refuse technique not working? What can you do? Well listen in and hear what methods Tina has to convince your child to drop their addiction to the boob.
Are you living with a chronic bedwetter? What is fair to expect if your child seems to lack any control of their bladder. Is there ever a situation where toilet training is a waste of time? Tina has seen it all but this one might need your help. Email honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com to contact the show or pose a question to Tina. Find us on Patreon to support the show or follow us on Instagram for updates and fun posts that can help you find the laughter in parenting these little darlings.