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The first ever zero judgement parenting podcast from the team behind An Irishman Abroad. Join funny man Jarlath and child behaviouralist Tina Regan as they tackle the questions, the worries and the day-to-day hilarity that comes with modern parenting.

Jarlath collects anonymous questions from frazzled and exhausted parents, while Tina shares more than 20 years of experience working in early childhood intellectual, behavioural and social development. With genuine problems from real parents it’s anyone’s guess what the questions will be but the pair will gamely tackle anything that’s thrown their way. Expect all manner of queries including:

- "My young lad eats like a caveman and is mortifying me everywhere we go"
- "If I ask my kid to come off her iPad she acts like her world is caving in"
- "My toddler refuses to wear clothes”
- “My kid won’t poo at school”
- “My kid refuses to let me leave the house, what should I do?

No problem is too big or small. Tina promises to help parents help themselves, with zero judgement. Raising kids is so fecking hard we all need help to do it.

Honey You're Ruining Our Kid GoLoud

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.9 • 14 Ratings

The first ever zero judgement parenting podcast from the team behind An Irishman Abroad. Join funny man Jarlath and child behaviouralist Tina Regan as they tackle the questions, the worries and the day-to-day hilarity that comes with modern parenting.

Jarlath collects anonymous questions from frazzled and exhausted parents, while Tina shares more than 20 years of experience working in early childhood intellectual, behavioural and social development. With genuine problems from real parents it’s anyone’s guess what the questions will be but the pair will gamely tackle anything that’s thrown their way. Expect all manner of queries including:

- "My young lad eats like a caveman and is mortifying me everywhere we go"
- "If I ask my kid to come off her iPad she acts like her world is caving in"
- "My toddler refuses to wear clothes”
- “My kid won’t poo at school”
- “My kid refuses to let me leave the house, what should I do?

No problem is too big or small. Tina promises to help parents help themselves, with zero judgement. Raising kids is so fecking hard we all need help to do it.

    My Kid Fancies My New Partner, Toxic Friends & Parental Alienation - S2EP26

    My Kid Fancies My New Partner, Toxic Friends & Parental Alienation - S2EP26

    Is your husband trying to turn the kids against you? Is your kid in a toxic friendship and needs your help to get out of it? Does your kid have an unhealthy obsession with your new partner? Yes? No? What the hell? Either way today's HYROK episode is a scandalously good listen with Tina on form answering some of the toughest questions we have ever received.
    Question 1- 
    A single mum gets in touch wondering how she can best protect her children while coping with her ex husband’s negative behaviour towards her. 
    Parental alienation is thankfully a recognised crime now. Are there enough supports out there when it happens at a very early age and hard to pin point what’s actually happening. Who can you ask for help? How do you survive and maintain your mental health. Moms tend to only care about the welfare of their children but sometimes putting yourself first really matters too. 
    Question 2
    Friendship issues are a daily worry for most kids. A lot of the time it is agonising to observe as a parent. What is the best approach? Shut down the friendship? Go to the parent? Or get the school involved? An incredibly hard one to navigate but arming our children to stand up for themselves and to be happy in their own company is equally important. 
    Question 3
    What do you do if your child think he’s in love with your new partner? For this listener the crush might have developed into an infatuation and their child's entire behaviour is changing. How do you get them back on track? How do you curb their new obsession while teaching them boundaries and respect? This week a stressed out dad gets in touch with this exact problem.
    Easter break is in the books. Maybe you got a rest. Maybe your kids ran you ragged and their return to school is your first chance to breathe out. According to the recently published Aldi Mammies and Daddies Report into the lives of Irish parents the later is probably the case if your're the Mammy. Jarlath was invited onto Jen Hogan's "Mamia And Me" podcast panel to discuss the findings to see if they match up to what we are seeing here on Honey! You're Ruining Our Kid. Along with our 3 brilliant questions from the listeners, this week we dive into those findings and the disproportionate impact parenting has on women rather than men. How important is it for us to change the old school views that form the seed of these problems. Shout out to the amazing little toddler who brought the entertainment on the day of the live recording. She won the room.  You can listen to the episode very soon here.
    There's a big extra chunk over on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad - why not come over and join us in a few clicks. It's how we support the show and it's the place where you can here "what happened next" when the listeners apply Tina's advice.

    • 50 min
    Cursing Kids, Hair We Go & Restoring Your Good Dad Name - S2E25

    Cursing Kids, Hair We Go & Restoring Your Good Dad Name - S2E25

    This parenting lark isn’t getting any easier this week we have a host of questions from our lovely listeners. Ranging from hair problems to potty mouths. There's a heap of great recommendations and big laughs in this fantastic episode.
    Question 1-
    A single dad gets in touch looking for advice on how best to care for his little girl's hair. Luckily we have the best solution for this particular question. Braid Maidens! An online or in person braiding tutorial to suit all parents including the ones who have never brushed long here before. It's allrun and created by the lovely Annis. Her success rate is 100 percent. https://www.braidmaidens.com/
    Question 2- 
    How do you clear your name if your reputation in your home is "Evil Step Dad"? Can the relationship with your step kids be saved if they’ve already decided their new dad is a big ogre. Does the problem stop with you or them? Who needs to take action? Can it be fixed? 
    Question 3- 
    For whatever reason when children curse we find it adorable. Obviously a potty mouth toddler isn't ideal but who can you stop the habit before it's too late. Is it ever too late?
    Are you in a situation with your kids? Drop us an email honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com
    Every week the extended cut of our episode is available on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad - this week we hear from a Dad who is simply not enjoying fatherhood. That sense that being parent is not what was advertised can leave you feeling very low. You are not alone if you're feeling this way.

    • 41 min
    My Kid Won't Poo! Help For Anxious kids & The Bedwetter - S2E24

    My Kid Won't Poo! Help For Anxious kids & The Bedwetter - S2E24

    Welcome back to another episode of Honey You’re Ruining Our kid. Slightly delayed episode this week but totally worth the wait. We have a new segment as Jarlath starts this week's episode with some of the weirdest shit of the week. From being Papped to children on planes to saving a kid from drowning - this episode is great craic and has heaps of helpful information regardless of what relationship you have with the kids in your life.
    Question 1- 
    If you have a kid who is struggling with anxiety don't worry an all too common problem for our children these days. A wonderfully generous mother has gotten in touch with a portfolio of help for us all. How do we help our kids push through? Should we make our kids push through? Are we actually building resilience by forcing our kids to take part or are we adding to the problem. All of us are flying blind when it comes to equipping our children for this modern world so it’s so incredibly helpful when parents come together to pool their resources. 
    Question 2-
    Bed wetting is everyone’s nightmare problem. Nothing makes a morning more stressful than additional showers, more laundry and mattresses hanging out windows in an effort to get them dry for round 2, later that night. How can we help our kids get through the night without having an accident? I believe a consistent plan is key, but how can an already very tired parent push through with a consistent plan? Is the return of some sleep motivation enough? 
    Question 3- 
    Everybody poops but goodness is it stressful when your kid starts refusing to. Holding onto their poos is a very common early childhood problem. How can we help our kids navigate this uncomfortable phase.  When they are teeney tiny we absolutely encourage you to bring them to the GP. Is there anything else that can help?
    Thank you for tuning in to this weeks episode of Honey You’re Ruining Our kid. Pop on over to Patreon for the extra bits. www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad to join up in a few clicks - help us continue the podcast and get bonus episodes on American and fitness.

    Email us anytime at honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com. 

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    https://www.ispcc.ie/how-space-from-anxiety-can-help-children-teens-and-parents/

    • 44 min
    Is My Kid Being Bullied? Skin Issues & Low Confidence Little Ones - S2E23

    Is My Kid Being Bullied? Skin Issues & Low Confidence Little Ones - S2E23

    Kids can be very mean - even tiny little ones! What do you do when you find out your kid is being isolated by her "new best friend". Flying into a fit of rage is one option but Tina has a few other approaches that won't land you in front of a Judge. Today on HYROK a lot of the conversation is around confidence and how to build it in a child. Don't let anyone tell you that self-belief is organic or just in their DNA. It is a learned behaviour and a quality we can help grow in the younglings! Having a fungal infection sure won't help. One Mom gets in touch with a very tricky skin situation. As a very sweaty man, Jarlath knows the pants this kid should be wearing and as a child behaviour expert with 20 years of experience in the business, Tina knows what steps to take to help this kid through this.
    Over in the extended cut on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad you can hear Tina's ultimate life hack for parents with kids that won't sleep. Come on over and join us. Come see Jarlath live on tour - his new show is all about growing up and coping with the world. www.jigser.com/gigs is where you can find all his tour dates. Move fast they are all selling out - he's added two more dates at Dublin's 3Olympia!

    • 37 min
    How To Talk To Your Kid About Death, Eating Disorders In Small Kids & Pittakionophobia - S2E22

    How To Talk To Your Kid About Death, Eating Disorders In Small Kids & Pittakionophobia - S2E22

    Boy do we have a banger of an episode for you. Not only have we three great questions, we also have advice on what questions you should ask your kids to get them to reflect and open up to you.
    Question 1.
    Phobias, we all have one - don't we? If you don’t, well well done on your mental health and/or living in denial. This week a mother gets in touch about her daughter’s phobia of stickers. Tina knows only too well the hell of pittakionophobia. She has suffered with it for years. Maybe you are dealing with it too. Listen and maybe get in touch with your ideas to how to move through a phobia with a small child.
    Question 2.
    Eating disorders are so scary and as parents we all have the responsibility of feeding our kids but also keeping a watchful eye for any dysfunctional thinking around food. How do we teach our kids about fuelling? How do we help our children to be happy and at home in their miraculous individual bodies? Where do we go for help if and when we need it? We absolutely recommend going to your doctor and seeking a referral if you feel like you need that.
    Question 3.
    When a loved one suddenly passes how do you help your kids cope with their grief while you manage your own? What do you share, how do you share? We think you just try and be as open and honest as possible. Find your comfort level. Allow them to be part of the funeral celebration, try not to exclude them from the mourning, instead help them feel part of the goodbye.
    If you have questions ping them into honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com.
    There's even more of this episode and all our episodes on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad - pop over and see what you're missing. This week Tina follows up on a previous email and we get to hear the most imporatant question you will ever ask your child.

    • 55 min
    My Kid Flipped - My Kid Refuses To Help Me - My Kid Won't Eat! S2E21

    My Kid Flipped - My Kid Refuses To Help Me - My Kid Won't Eat! S2E21

    Does your kid refuse to do any chores around the house and if they do, it's a HUGE deal? Was your kid an angel last week but now won't listen to a word you say? Take a deep breathe. The kids back at school. Now it's time to examine what the hell happened over the midterm. Jarlath and I have a banger episode to help you make sense of it all.
    Question 1- 
    No matter how much they might want you to believe it, getting your child to pull their weight around the house is not a violation of child labour laws. If you’re raising your children on a farm how do you get them to be stake holders in the farming process? Motivating our kids to be active participants in how the family runs it’s day to day is a major issue in almost every house. Have we unwittingly raised entitled kids who don’t think they have to help out in the home? Children who don’t even consider that to be one of their responsibilities? How can we get that them involved and get everything back on track. 
    Questions 2- 
    The Terrible Threes are a real thing. This week we hear from a mom whose behaviour has flipped upside down. She’s gone from being overly obedient toddler to a completely independent young woman toddler who can’t be reached. Tantrums for days and a mom struggling to cope. How can we help her and get her three year old to be reasonable and approachable again? 
    Question 3- 
    Picky eating kids are a dime a dozen but that doesn't have ot be a reality we accept. Today we hear from another exhausted mom who is worried about how little her kid eats. Tune in to hear how Tina’s Tapas technique can change your life! No exaggeration this technique works every single time. 
    Thank you for listening in, subscribing and spreading the word. If you need to email our show get your emails over to honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com.
    To hear the full XL episode each week and gain access to the back catalog of our podcasts including interviews with Sharon Horgan, Mary Robinson, Marian Keyes, Cecelia Ahern and Imelda May pop on over to www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad

    • 45 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
14 Ratings

14 Ratings

Kareem123456 ,

Chuckle along regularly

I love this podcast. Humorous yet thought provoking and real practical advice. I tune in weekly and me and the Mrs like to listen together and chuckle along. Look forward to every episode . Well done Tina and Jarlath

L Yianni ,

Fresh and funny take on parenting!

Love love love this podcast. Perfect pairing and covering some really unique aspects of parenting. Non judgmental but firm and fair. And funny too.

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