025: How to stay true to yourself when you're being challenged by a boundary you've been too afraid to make‪.‬ Inside Out Theory

Lately, I’ve been challenged with feeling like I owe people time, which is one of my biggest triggers that lead me to overwhelm and anxiety.

I allow people to make me feel like I owe them my time.

How do you tell someone you don’t want to give them your time?

"I don’t have time," isn’t an excuse. It simply means that I’m not prioritising you.

I want the freedom to make my own choices… but without controversy, which is not possible.

So here was the breakthrough: This particular friend was challenging a boundary I was too afraid to make.

It’s become excruciating to spend time doing things I don’t want to do.

I’m so hyper aware (from a place of abundance) how much my time is so precious.

Spending time doing things you don’t want to do is Self Sabotage 101.

I've accessed Self Accountability on this subject, which means I'm not going to do things I don't want to do, but I still feel bad about it, which means I haven't quite accessed Self Reliability, which would be choosing to spend my time guilt free.

Where I'm at: I’m prioritising myself, but I’m feeling guilty about it. So my new mantra is, "I am choosing how to spend my time guilt free."

You can’t choose their reaction, you can only choose your action. If you’re proud of your choice, your action, how you choose to communicate, stand by your intention, and listen to the needs of your soul. 

Don’t allow people to trick you into thinking that you’re that important. You’re not (immediate family and romantic relationships aside). 

Just because my love languages within friendships are different, doesn’t mean I have to change.

Boundaries are a beautiful thing; they are made to honour the upmost respect of both parties involved.

This episode experienced some technical difficulties, but it was too organic to recreate - I hope you enjoy it!

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