25 episodes

Inside Out Theory ignites a new way of living. It’s a guide towards recovering your true self while providing you with the tools to achieve your own definition of success.

Christie Lee Manning is the director of two theatre companies, three full length productions, and a four week artist development program in London, UK. After 20+ years in the entertainment industry, Christie's hunger for self evolution exploded into podcast form. Christie created the Inside Out Theory to teach us how to disconnect from external validation, freeing us all to become the most powerful versions of ourselves.

Inside Out Theory Christie Lee Manning

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Inside Out Theory ignites a new way of living. It’s a guide towards recovering your true self while providing you with the tools to achieve your own definition of success.

Christie Lee Manning is the director of two theatre companies, three full length productions, and a four week artist development program in London, UK. After 20+ years in the entertainment industry, Christie's hunger for self evolution exploded into podcast form. Christie created the Inside Out Theory to teach us how to disconnect from external validation, freeing us all to become the most powerful versions of ourselves.

    025: How to stay true to yourself when you're being challenged by a boundary you've been too afraid to make.

    025: How to stay true to yourself when you're being challenged by a boundary you've been too afraid to make.

    Lately, I’ve been challenged with feeling like I owe people time, which is one of my biggest triggers that lead me to overwhelm and anxiety.

    I allow people to make me feel like I owe them my time.

    How do you tell someone you don’t want to give them your time?

    "I don’t have time," isn’t an excuse. It simply means that I’m not prioritising you.

    I want the freedom to make my own choices… but without controversy, which is not possible.

    So here was the breakthrough: This particular friend was challenging a boundary I was too afraid to make.

    It’s become excruciating to spend time doing things I don’t want to do.

    I’m so hyper aware (from a place of abundance) how much my time is so precious.

    Spending time doing things you don’t want to do is Self Sabotage 101.

    I've accessed Self Accountability on this subject, which means I'm not going to do things I don't want to do, but I still feel bad about it, which means I haven't quite accessed Self Reliability, which would be choosing to spend my time guilt free.

    Where I'm at: I’m prioritising myself, but I’m feeling guilty about it. So my new mantra is, "I am choosing how to spend my time guilt free."

    You can’t choose their reaction, you can only choose your action. If you’re proud of your choice, your action, how you choose to communicate, stand by your intention, and listen to the needs of your soul. 

    Don’t allow people to trick you into thinking that you’re that important. You’re not (immediate family and romantic relationships aside). 

    Just because my love languages within friendships are different, doesn’t mean I have to change.

    Boundaries are a beautiful thing; they are made to honour the upmost respect of both parties involved.

    This episode experienced some technical difficulties, but it was too organic to recreate - I hope you enjoy it!

    What do you think?

    • 20 min
    024: How the practice of the 'is' vs 'should world' breaks bad habits and offers lasting forgiveness.

    024: How the practice of the 'is' vs 'should world' breaks bad habits and offers lasting forgiveness.

    Let's talk about self-.forgiveness. 

    What started out as a definition of the practice of self-forgiveness quickly evolved (as it does here at the Inside Out Theory) to so many other things. Let's take lying as our example. When you’re trying to break a negative habit, you want to practice healthy self-forgiveness when you observe yourself caught in the act. The act of self-forgiveness is in the middle of what we call 'unnecessary suffering' and 'denial'. Practicing acceptance of what is negates the need to create unnecessary suffering (what it should be instead of what it is). Let's explain this a different way...

    Living in the 'is world' is practising acceptance (internal peace).

    Living in the 'should world' is practicing denial (internal suffering).

    When you’re practicing self-forgiveness in its truest form, you are accepting your actions for what they are ('is world').

    This doesn’t mean you have to be ok with it.

    This is now where the self-forgiveness practice begins.

    Allow yourself to feel the pain that you made that choice (strength). That pain is so much more real than the unnecessary suffering created from living in the 'should world'. It’s fully accepting that you made a choice that you didn’t want to make, and allowing yourself to feel the repercussions of making that choice, the pain from the choice, not from ego (unnecessary suffering) or denial. 

    If I were to draw a diagram, straight to the left of self-forgiveness is self-denial, i.e the 'isn’t world' (neither 'is' or 'should world'). Straight to the right is the should world, i.e taking the pain and amplifying it to unnecessary suffering because you feel like you deserve it.

    Self-forgiveness sounds like this: "I’m not proud of this choice. I feel the pain from making this choice. I don’t want to feel this way again. I am going to practice self-acceptance and self-compassion, understanding that I’m on a journey to break a habit and that doesn’t happen overnight. If I can fully accept that I chose poorly today, I can choose wisely tomorrow."

    If you’re addicted to the suffering of the 'should world', you won’t be able to ever make a different choice. When you practice self-forgiveness, you’re re-teaching yourself how to be self-accountable. If you transition into the 'should world', you’re putting yourself back in self-recovery. Practicing self-reliability comes from practicing self-accountability (wait for it) consistently. 

    What do you think?

    • 24 min
    023: How to survive rejection of all forms by understanding this simple shift in perception.

    023: How to survive rejection of all forms by understanding this simple shift in perception.

    It's not the thing. It's what the thing means about us.

    We’re not afraid of professional rejection, we’re afraid of what the rejection means about us, i.e: we're not good enough.

    We're not afraid of romantic rejection, we’re afraid of what the rejection means about us, i.e: we're not loveable.

    We're so busy trying to escape rejection because of how much it hurts (because we don't understand why it hurts so much), that we're holding ourselves back and robbing ourselves daily of constant opportunity. 

    We’re trying to change the wrong thing!

    Don’t not go to that audition. Change what rejection means about you and free yourself from the fear of rejection itself. 

    The next time you feel that pain of rejection, ask yourself this: What does this experience 'mean' about me? Then you take that belief, and you throw it in the trash. 

    • 26 min
    022: How to use your inner defence attorney to combat overthinking.

    022: How to use your inner defence attorney to combat overthinking.

    In this second revelation on overthinking, Christie opens up about her relationship with men. Because of childhood trauma situated around her father and the lack of his presence in her upbringing, she finds herself often being triggered into an overthinking spiral based on the adopted belief that she is unlovable. However, this time she was able to discover something new. She discovered that a mindset tool she already had could be used two different ways. 

    Your ego likes to use fear as a tool, and your mind will always give you a list of all the reasons why something won’t work when you entertain acting outside of your comfort zone. It's during this time that we forget to show up for our soul, and remind ourselves of all the things that could go right. To shift this mindset, Christie challenges herself (and you) to build a loving relationship with your mind, fear, and most importantly, your ego. Using an impulsive metaphor of a prosecuting attorney vs a defence attorney, she guides us through a new way of combating overthinking. 

    • 21 min
    021: Conversations with Lauren Richie (The Dance Podcast)

    021: Conversations with Lauren Richie (The Dance Podcast)

    In this episode, Christie speaks with one of her favourite women and entrepreneurs, Ms. Lauren Richie. Lauren is a mental skills trainer, dance educator, adjudicator, writer, and unshakable optimist dedicated to helping dancers and athletes become their best, and it’s always an honour to share virtual time and space with her.

    Our episode begins with us discussing the definition of the word ‘proud’, to which Lauren responds with her first of many sensational quotes, “game recognizes game.” We spend the first part of our conversation recognizing the greatness in each other and our dedication to what we call, ‘doing the work’. Lauren speaks with such a phenomenal level of self-awareness, shares a generous definition of love (to be seen, heard, and taken seriously), and speaks about how to sit with the compliments when we are so much more comfortable discounting those verbal gifts yet blindly accept criticism.

    Lauren shares parts of her self-evolutionary journey, using the metaphor of unravelling a ball of yarn that is her past. I ask her how we ever get triggered in to adopting the belief that we’re not good enough, and how easily we can learn that without even the presence of a conversation, but through the lack of words or by action. We go on to discuss the difference between a beginner and a master’s mindset, and the danger of being in between, leading us on to recognizing how infinite learning truly is.

    One of our favourite parts of this conversation is when Lauren brings forth the idea of giving yourself the permission slip, to be you, to practice what you practice, to teach what you teach, to do what you do. Christie shares her fears of living up to external expectations, which opens up both women to share how their egos have raised their ugly heads and what they’ve done to overcome that.

    We finish with challenging our perceptions of ourselves vs the perception of others, and recognize how both perceptions are outside-in. Christie ends the riveting conversation with asking Lauren her new favourite question, what is your why?

    We couldn’t recommend Lauren more as an artist, educator, or leader. To learn more about Lauren, visit https://withlauren.ca and listen to her podcast, The Dance Podcast, on Apple Podcast or Spotify.

    • 1 hr 25 min
    020: What we can learn by diving head first into our subconscious (the birthplace of self sabotage).

    020: What we can learn by diving head first into our subconscious (the birthplace of self sabotage).

    In this episode, Christie shares the lessons she learned from her most recent subconscious 'cracking'. We dive in to the subconscious beliefs surrounding the fear of showing off, the fear of leading by example, and the fear of trying too hard. 

    Christie goes on to discuss why we all need to stop trying (so hard), and why this particular habit or addiction keeps us stuck and continues to feed the "I’m not good enough" belief. We then discuss the difference between training from a place of lack or abundance, and how we can build trust in ourselves simply by showing up. 

    Christie explains why we need to have an inside-out reason for showing up, or we will quit (or won’t even start). Training from a place of lack makes us forget who we are. Therefor, Christie encourages us to stop trying, and just do. With this practice, we can actually learn how to control how we feel when we leave a training environment. The key is to consciously choose between practicing mastery or pushing our capacity. 

    Christie reminds us that there's a big difference between thinking you’re the best and knowing that you’re good. Those that can build an unshakeable level of self-confidence without external validation and praise are what we classify as (our new favourite word): unfuckwithable. And you can be too! 

    We hope you enjoy this episode. Connect with us at @insideouttheory and let us know what you think! 

    • 59 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
19 Ratings

19 Ratings

DASIYWT ,

Insightful listen

Insightful start to season two. Especially loved the thought of your mind creating problems for you to solve.. Thankyou Christie ! Excited for the new episodes ❤️

Stu Winter ,

CLM is a badass

Interesting, invigorating, empowering. Unlock! Remove those padlocks!
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Dance Studio Owner ,

The most relatable podcast I have found

I am an ex performer and now dance studio owner for the past 13 years and I have never listened to a podcast that is so relatable. I stumbled across this on Instagram and I am already hooked and craving the next episode. Thank you to the creator.

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