Inside Out Theory Christie Lee Manning

One of the best pieces of advice that I ever got was, 'They always hire the right person for the job, not necessarily the best person for the job."

Nothing outside of us can heal something that was created on the inside. If it was created on the inside, it has to be healed from the inside. Therefor, nothing outside of us will ever make us feel like we’re good enough.

How can I have ownership over what I already do really well? Is fulfilment a simple matter of knowing you’re the only person who could do it? Not to everyone... but I think it is to me.

Your superpower is the one thing that, if discovered and practiced with ownership, will lead you to the people places and things that will provide you with the sense of fulfilment you’ve been searching for. 

We often discount our superpower(s) because we’re too busy wanting something else that, at the end of the day, isn’t actually a superpower, it’s a skill. We also discount and downplay our superpowers because a superpower is natural. But because it’s so natural and easy, we don’t feel like it’s anything special because we didn’t spend out blood sweat and tears cultivating it.  

Perhaps the path to fulfilment is honing your superpower. 

There is a lot of reflection in this episode. This is the episode I most needed to hear, so maybe it will be similar for you too. I think fulfilment comes from being fully YOU.

Your thoughts are always welcome...

C x

In this episode, we speak about a new way of approaching your relationship with the thought or belief ‘I’m not good enough’. We offer a new perspective, a new way of combating this belief, which is, to simply not allow it into your thoughts at all. Completely minimise it from your thought process at all. Confused? Too good to be true? Have a listen, because I think we’ve been sold a ‘solution’ that kind of feels like fighting fire with fire…

This may be my most vulnerable episode yet.

I won't say much here. Just, have a listen.

A passage I wrote in NYC in March 2023...

"In order to fail, you must fully commit and invest in what you're doing. I don't think it's possible to 'fail' at something you don't care about, because if you care, in theory, you're fully invested and committed to it. And if you're afraid of failing, you will be default avoid failing by not fully investing or committing. Therefor, it's impossible to 'fail' at something you don't truly care about, because the sheer act of avoiding failure makes it impossible to fail. In order to fail, you must fully commit and invest in what you're doing, and by doing that, any sort of failure should be celebrated as a bi-product of fully commitment and investment.

You can't be 'the best' because we're artists, and art is subjective. Therefor, people's opinions of 'the best's is also subjective, which makes you chasing to be 'the best' futile and pointless.

My acting teacher has told me time and time again to not be a transportation system. What I've realised is, the reason why it's so much easier for me to champion and cheer you on and not myself is because there's no risk. I don't run the risk of failure, you do. But I know you will succeed. It's very easy for me to know that. And what's even better (and worse) is when you do succeed, as you inevitably will, I get to feel successful, because my work helped, or rather my help worked."

C x

After another rant about Imposter Syndrome, "The one thing that makes you 'think' you’re an imposter is the one thing that fundamentally makes you not," we continue on with our discussion on jealousy and how it comes to rear its ugly head. 

I believe that we’re only jealous of the things that deep down we don’t believe we can do, achieve, or deserve to have. Because of this, jealousy is a gift. It’s a flashing light, an arrow, a sign that's trying to make you aware of something that you’re not believing in within yourself, or you’re not giving yourself permission to want because you don’t believe you’re good enough to have it. It’s highlighting a blind spot in your subconscious mind.

Jealousy is only created when we think that we can’t have what 'they' have.

The truth is, you can have all the things you want, you just have to be willing to change the way you think. 

You change the way you think, you change your life.

In this episode, I speak about and share why I feel it's necessary to normalise celebrating our f*cking wins.



I've made a ten point list as to why I believe it's important for us all to celebrate our wins.



1) We don’t do it enough.

You’ve been taught to downplay your wins in order to make others feel better and it doesn’t work.

You’ve now shrunk and they still feel like shit. 



2) Lead proudly by example and own your fucking wins.

Show people what is possible when they show up.



3) You give others permission to do the same.

Even better, you remind others to give themselves permission.

They don’t need your permission, they just need their own. 



4) You fought through resistance, worked your ass off, and didn’t give up.

Yeah, I’ll celebrate that. 



5) You remind people what’s possible with belief, implementation, and consistency. 



6) You normalise self-honour, self-mastery, and self-respect.

You break the perception of arrogance vs confidence.

You practice self-validation instead of external-validation. 



7) You break the habit of playing small to protect others, which is the worst kind of protection of all.



8) You remind people that jealousy is a gift.

If they’re jealous of what you have, that feeling of jealousy has just gifted them with the clarity of knowing what they want and what is standing in their way, which is their own beliefs. 



9) We all want to feel seen.

Celebrate your wins and make yourself feel seen. 



10) If I can’t be happy for your wins, that’s on me.

I’ve got some work to do. 

In this episode, we talk about our definition of ‘talented’ and how our educational upbringing can either help us excel or shrink when it comes to working on our natural abilities alongside all other skills. 

Christie says, "I wish I was championed for the natural talents that I did have, and empowered to work hard at the things that didn't come as naturally. Instead, I was shamed for the things I wasn’t naturally good at, because I wasn’t good at the same things that ‘everyone else’ in my class or group was."

Just because you’re not talented at the same thing as everyone else in your classroom, doesn’t mean you’re not talented. If we were to be celebrated for the things we are good at and inspired to invest in the things we aren't as naturally good at, imagine where that could take us. Imagine the type of mindset we could have, the things we could do, and the person we could be. We’re not naturally gifted at everything. I was never taught that it could be safe to not be good at something. 'Not good' always equalled rejection of some form. But we are all good at many (different) things, and we need to make every natural skill or ability of equal importance. Every skill and talent you have is of equal importance to the talent and skills of another. They are of equal value, and you are of equal value.

Educators: Please understand the responsibility that comes with leading a room. People are paying you to receive an education. They are investing in you, and because of the subconscious belief that comes from the separation of 'teacher vs student' mentality, they are all by default already assuming that everything you say is 'correct'. Challenge their minds yes, but encourage them to think for themselves. When you speak, they are listening. You are holding people’s minds in the palm of your hands, and people’s minds dictate everything. Do not fuck with people’s minds… please.

Moral: Every type of talent is of equal value. My god are you fucking talented. It’s time you own that.