It Takes Tits It Takes Tits

Welcome to part two of Bethanie Lunn’s conversation with holistic relationship coach, Ali Hendry. In this episode, Beth discusses ‘the relationship after’, when you try to love again post breakup and how frikkin hard it is!

At the same time as trying to fall in love - this time, perhaps in a different way to the way it didn't work out, you're also full of trying.  Trying to heal, trying to trust, trying to enjoy, trying to unlearn all the behaviours that were moulded in the last relationship. There's a lot of propaganda out there carrying messages such as, 'if it is true love, it won't be hard. It will just happen', but I'm calling BS on that.

Starting with Ali’s story on being twice divorced and ripping up the rule book when it comes to love, in this episode we discuss:


The impact of going through divorce “You are exactly where you need to be”
Getting support “I’m not an island” , “having those difficult conversations will help you”
Making relationships work “every relationship worth having takes work”
Attachment styles “different partners may bring out different attachment styles”

Follow Beth on Instagram: @bethanielunn

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Featured guests:

Ali Hendry

Resources for this episode:

RELATIONSHIP RESOURCES


Couples Therapy Workbook for Healing: emotionally focused therapy techniques to restore your relationship. Lori Cluff Schade
The Attachment Theory Workbook: powerful tools to promote understanding, increase stability and build lasting relationships. Annie Chen.
The Abandonment Recovery Workbook: guidance through the 5 stages of healing from abandonment, heartbreak and loss. Susan Anderson.
Daring to Trust: opening ourselves to real love and intimacy. David Richo.
Mating In Captivity: unlocking erotic intelligence. Esther Perel.
Tongue Tied: untangling communication in sex, kink, and relationships. Stella Harris.
The surprising truth about desire everyone needs to know | Dr Karen Gurney | TEDxRoyalTunbridgeWells - YouTube
RADAR — Multiamory
Podcasts | Esther Perel

Ali is offering listeners a free 30-minute relationship coaching taster. Book here: https://calendly.com/alihendrycoaching/initial-meeting

Beth talks to holistic relationship coach, Ali Hendry - one of our favourite guests from series one (and yours so the data and the feedback tells us)!

Ali and Beth discuss labels, pronouns and gender fluidity. Beth can see movement in people starting to look at gender and preferences as fluid; unearthing a wave of authentic self-expression.

If you support gender, Ali shares how you can further educate yourself and support communities.

We discuss having fear of what you don’t understand, the power of self-awareness, compassion and curiosity.

In this episode, we discuss:


Supporting the community “It all comes down to not assuming”
Why we need to use the correct pronouns “their pronouns are their identity”
Doing your own research “I’m part of the problem which means I can be part of the solution”
Discomfort in business and fear of getting it wrong “you’re going to get it wrong, so focus on compassion”
Gender as a social construct “I don’t get to tell somebody else’s story’

It’s the ultimate It Takes Tits power roundup to help you get your own show on the road and remember to continue to conversation in episode 1B (available now).

Follow Beth on Instagram: @bethanielunn

https://www.bethanielunn.com

Featured guests:

Ali Hendry

Resources for this episode:


@thejeffreymarsh Instagram/TikTok: non-binary explanations
@zoestoller Instagram: great definitions
Genderbread.org
Gender as a Performance | Ali Hannon | TEDxKingstonUponThames - YouTube
Natives: race and class in the ruins of empire. Akala.
Why I’m no longer talking to white people about race. Reni Eddo-Lodge.

Ali is offering listeners a free 30-minute relationship coaching taster. Book here: https://calendly.com/alihendrycoaching/initial-meeting

In this episode, Beth talks to Dating Coach and Matchmaker, Jade Bianca - owner of the agency Dating After Divorce. Beth discovered Jade on instagram and her free advice and helpful resources, empathic insights and her hilarious spoof scenarios made her instantly relate to her and feel comforted.

They discuss everything from honesty and authenticity to profile no-no’s, dating tips that build meaningful connections and how to use grief to help you design a life you love, as well as a whole host of gems such as:


Reframing patterns “I like to think of it as a mental health break”
Waiting for the perfect time “You shouldn’t put your life on hold”
Dating as a professional “It’s hard to mentally change that [boardroom] mode”
Adapting to new ways of dating “We need to stop being so narrow minded in our dating online”
Choosing dating profile photos “Just embrace it”
How to stay safe online “I felt like I had a lucky escape”
Life after divorce “You do not need tp be a passenger in your own life”
Comparison culture “Comparison is the thief of joy”

Follow Beth on Instagram: @bethanielunn

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Featured guests:

Jade Bianca https://instagram.com/dating_after_div?utm_medium=copy_link

Beth talks to Sabre, artist and owner and creative director of Bad Gal Salon. They discuss Sabre’s career change, why she took the leap into becoming her own boss (and how), her story on being neurodiverse and managing not just her anxiety, depression and ADHD but others perceptions of it too, plus many, MANY golden nuggets.

This episode also discusses topics such as:


Taking opportunities “If you get the vibe of things in life - that’s going to carry you to different things”
ADHD diagnosis and the power of identifying your feelings “something i’m very thankful for (being diagnosed in your 20’s)”
Finding a supportive network of likeminded people “It helps you become the real you”
Comfort zones “Imposter syndrome is a dangerous thing”
Harnessing fear “When you use it to your own benefit and potential, it can be a really enlightening thing”
Finding yourself “People can’t put me in a box”
Facing life over faking it “Face it til you make it!”

Finishing with the ultimate It Takes Tits power roundup to help you get your own show on the road.

Follow Beth on Instagram: @bethanielunn

https://www.bethanielunn.com

Featured guests:

Sabre https://instagram.com/thebadgalsalon?utm_medium=copy_link

As we near the end of the year, Beth is feeling reflective, grateful, a little overwhelmed and exhausted, a lot skint (ah, the joys of Christmas), BUT…bloody happy.

What a great time then to wrap up series one of It Takes Tits with this finale episode.

It has been the most amazing experience and shaped up to be THE listen for challenging taboo subjects, and reaching over 250k ears!

Beth started with a solo episode and wanted to end with one too, and in this episode, she closes with the power roundups of all power roundups - looking back at topics from the season, what she took personally from each talk with the amazing guests, how it has all influenced her life, and where she’s at now so she can pass the learnings and laughter onto you.

In this episode Beth look’s back at key takeaways from the series such as:


Speaking out
Being honest with yourself
Self-care
Celebrating your wins

It’s the ultimate It Takes Tits power roundup to help you get your own show on the road and we’ll see you in 2022.

JOIN BETHANIE LUNN & SOCIALITE FOR THEIR FIRST AUDIENCE WITH…IT TAKES TITS LIVE EVENT:

Discussing taboo subjects with guests from her hit podcast series

Thursday 27th January 2022

Arrivals at 6.30pm

Interviews start at 7.30pm

Follow Beth on Instagram: @bethanielunn

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Featured guests:

Ali Hendry

Calandra Balfour

Liz McColluch

Sarah Rudder

Emma Fullwood

In this episode, Beth speak’s to a panel of women sharing their experiences, thoughts, feelings, facts and knowledge on menopause. We hear from Liz McCulloch, a GP with a specialist interest in Aesthetic Medicine, PMS and Menopause health, she is also the Medical Director mSkin with her own practice as well as practicing at The Montefiore Hospital and as an Associate at the International Centre for Hormone Health in Harley Street, London. We’re joined by Emma Fullwood, a middle age awakening coach - helping busy, worn out women go from just “fine” to blooming marvellous. And Sarah Rudder, Coach, facilitator and author who is changing lives with her work in mental toughness. 

Alongside these incredible women, Beth delves into the language used around menopause, in how we frame it in society, education, with our networks and indeed to ourselves. Why so many of us seem to enter into menopause without eyes wide shut, and what strides are happening to improve this as well as discussions on: 


Choosing the right path for you “It really is about weighing what the quality of life is right now” 
Defining symptoms “was it menopause or was it something else” Taking control of your health “I’ve re-educated myself - I’m not a robot I’m a woman” 
Reaching out for help “you don’t have to put up and deal with it” 
Pressure on society and ourselves “superwoman complex” 
Difficult journeys “In the last 8 years i’ve seen 4 specialists” 
Success stories “They’ve got a little bit of the old version of themselves back” 

Plus there’s your It Takes Tits power roundup at the end to help you get your own show on the road… 

“I hope you’ve found this episode useful and enjoy listening to it as much as I do making it (which is enormously). Series 2 launches in February 2022 with an exciting live event on the cards in January, so listen to this space to find out more. Until then, whether it’s your day, your to do list, the glass ceiling or the patriarchy...go smash it.” - Beth 

Today’s Guests: 

DR. LIZ MCCULLOCH // MRCGP // DFSRH // liz.mcculloch@mskin.co.uk // www.mskin.co.uk // https://twitter.com/mskintmt // https://www.facebook.com/mskintmt // 

Resources: 

A great resource to bust myths and provide much-needed insight, truths, facts and further reading: https://hormonehealth.co.uk/blog/menopause-myths/ 

Free training courses for women and for men: https://www.menopauseexpertstraining.com/ https://www.womens-health-concern.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/WHC-UnderstandingRisksofBreastCancer-MARCH2017.pdf https://thebms.org.uk/2019/08/bms-response-to-lancet-paper-on-the-link-between-different-forms-of-hrt-and-breast-cancer-incidence/ 

Michelle Lyons - Hysterectomy - http://celebratemuliebrity.com/tag/hysterectomy / 

Books: 

Maisie hill - period power 

Mokita - Shirley weir 

Natural solutions to menopause - Marylyn Glenville phd 

It must be my hormones - Dr Marion Gluck and Vicki Edgson 

Outsmart Endometriosis - Dr Jessica Drummond 



It Takes Tits series two will begin in January 2022 for your dose of bravery talk to help you kickstart the week off right. Subscribe wherever you get your podcasts.