1 hr 7 min

It’s Okay That You’re Not Okay: Coping with Grief and Loss with Megan Devine The Mark Groves Podcast

    • Relationships

Themes: Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Pain, Mental Health
Summary: 
Join me for a thoughtful conversation with Megan Devine: best-selling author, psychotherapist, and grief advocate. With over 20 years in the field - and deep personal experience of grief - she is the go-to authority for grievers, supporters, and industry professionals. Her pioneering work provides a professional, inclusive, and realistic approach to grief, one that goes beyond pathology-based, reductive models. If you’re currently feeling the deep pain of loss or are looking for ways to support someone who is, this episode is for you.
Megan’s book It’s OK that You’re Not OK has sold over 250K copies and is available in 16 languages. New York magazine’s The Strategist named the book in their “Top 16 Grief Books Recommended by Psychologists in 2021.” Her animated short, “How to Help a Grieving Friend,” has been viewed over 70 million times and is used in training programs worldwide. She’s been published in Psychology Today, The New York Times, and The Washington Post and has served as a grief expert for major media outlets, including NPR, iHeartRadio, and the PBS documentary, Speaking Grief.
Discover:

Megan’s personal experience with grief

What not to say to someone who is grieving and how to be truly supportive instead

The problematic way society responds to pain and grief and how this contributes to rising loneliness, substance abuse and suicide rates

Why looking for the silver lining in a painful experience, while well-intentioned, isn’t helpful

00:00 Intro 
01:20 Megan’s story
07:09 How society responds to grief 
09:11 You don’t need to find the silver lining
13:03 Movies modeling the happy ending
15:17 The fallacy of suffering as punishment
20:25 The “nobility” of suffering
24:33 The history of dealing with pain
31:21 How medicine handles grief
36:43 Timeline of grief
38:16 Why do we avoid sadness?
43:54 How to actually support someone who’s grieving
47:46 Expanding your idea of what grief is
Links:

Website | refugeingrief.com & megandevine.co


Instagram | @refugeingrief


Facebook | @refugeingrief


Book | It’s OK That You’re Not OK


Podcast | Here After with Megan Devine 


Sponsors:


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Themes: Grief, Loss, Bereavement, Pain, Mental Health
Summary: 
Join me for a thoughtful conversation with Megan Devine: best-selling author, psychotherapist, and grief advocate. With over 20 years in the field - and deep personal experience of grief - she is the go-to authority for grievers, supporters, and industry professionals. Her pioneering work provides a professional, inclusive, and realistic approach to grief, one that goes beyond pathology-based, reductive models. If you’re currently feeling the deep pain of loss or are looking for ways to support someone who is, this episode is for you.
Megan’s book It’s OK that You’re Not OK has sold over 250K copies and is available in 16 languages. New York magazine’s The Strategist named the book in their “Top 16 Grief Books Recommended by Psychologists in 2021.” Her animated short, “How to Help a Grieving Friend,” has been viewed over 70 million times and is used in training programs worldwide. She’s been published in Psychology Today, The New York Times, and The Washington Post and has served as a grief expert for major media outlets, including NPR, iHeartRadio, and the PBS documentary, Speaking Grief.
Discover:

Megan’s personal experience with grief

What not to say to someone who is grieving and how to be truly supportive instead

The problematic way society responds to pain and grief and how this contributes to rising loneliness, substance abuse and suicide rates

Why looking for the silver lining in a painful experience, while well-intentioned, isn’t helpful

00:00 Intro 
01:20 Megan’s story
07:09 How society responds to grief 
09:11 You don’t need to find the silver lining
13:03 Movies modeling the happy ending
15:17 The fallacy of suffering as punishment
20:25 The “nobility” of suffering
24:33 The history of dealing with pain
31:21 How medicine handles grief
36:43 Timeline of grief
38:16 Why do we avoid sadness?
43:54 How to actually support someone who’s grieving
47:46 Expanding your idea of what grief is
Links:

Website | refugeingrief.com & megandevine.co


Instagram | @refugeingrief


Facebook | @refugeingrief


Book | It’s OK That You’re Not OK


Podcast | Here After with Megan Devine 


Sponsors:


LMNT | Get a FREE LMNT sample pack with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/createthelove



Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards


See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1 hr 7 min