P 14: How men grieve over miscarriages? w/|Martin Nifty Conversations

It is rare to hear from men who have experienced miscarriages, about how they grieve, and what they continue to go through. After experiencing four miscarriages, Martin shares his story and talks about the expectations, the pain, the dashing of hopes and the emotional roller coaster. He speaks movingly about how the emotions that come afterwards are unrehearsed and unapologetic. They don’t even ask for your permission before they hit you anywhere at any time.

Touching on the sense of loss and disappointment that comes with the experience. It is interesting to hear Martin speak about the internalisation of the issue to the point that you live with these invisible accusations based on how you think society sees and portrays you. What is clear from this conversation is that men going through miscarriages also require support.

He has been able to cope with his grief because of his faith and support from his wife. Now with three boys, he speaks of the unconfined joy of holding his first son for the first time. His advice to others going through this is not to blame yourself and never to look at yourself as a victim.