Speak Your Truth Andrew Sillitoe Show

How many lies have you told today? Depending on what time of the day you’re joining us the number could be extremely high. I don’t want to rustle too many feathers so early into the episode either so rest assured they don’t have to be big lies. I’m not out and out calling you a liar…But chances are unless you’re living an exhausting and time consuming double life or have been a successful secret agent, the lies won’t be big ones but you will have told some. But how many?.. Roughly?.. I would be surprised if your answer is zero. In fact, if your answer is zero, I think I will call you a liar…
 
A recent study conducted by the University of Massachusetts found that in a 10 minute conversation 60% of people told on average 2-3 lies. So depending on how long you’ve been awake today, chances are you are racking up mis-truths into at least double figures… But don’t feel bad. It’s not just you doing it. People are lied to between 10-200 hundred times a day. It seems we’re all at it.
 
So is honesty really the best policy? Or are we being lied to about that, as well? 
 
This is The Andrew Sillitoe Show where we talk about balancing living in a complex world. Thanks so much for tuning in. I’m really glad you could join us. Honestly. 
 
Today on my Show we are going to be talking about speaking the truth. As you heard from my introduction, truth telling may not be as commonplace as we think it is. However this idea does prove that telling the truth can be difficult. If it was easy, surely more of us would do it more often. 
 
There is science to the lies we tell. For example studies show that about 25% of lies are told for the benefit of others, to protect them, support them and assure them that no one would have noticed how drunk they were at the staff party and they really have nothing to worry about on Monday morning…
 
This means, however, that the rest of the lies, the 75% of the lies we tell, are to benefit ourselves. The thing is though, they might not be benefiting us as much as we think. 
 
If I ask you to think of what you want, what would your answer be? Unless this question is at the forefront of you mind daily, it might be hard to answer, but I am going to encourage you to have a think…What do you want?… 
 
I want to be really clear that I want you to search for an honest answer. Today we are going to start getting to the truth. This question was probably easier to answer when we were younger.
 
I think the reason we as adults like asking children “what do you want to be when you grow up” is because the answers are often hilarious. If you asked me what I wanted to be when I was 6 I would have said a HOCKEY PLAYER*. I said it with confidence, honesty and determination. If you’d have asked my friend Katie when she was 6 years old she would have told you she wanted to be a Dinosaur. When I asked my son, he said hockey player. My daughter wanted to be a police. 
 
All of these dreams were clear, honest answers to the question “What do you want to be?” 
As we get older and have more regular visits to “the real world” not only, often, does our passion go, but also our honesty. I am going to invite you to have a quick think about what you want and I want you to answer honestly. Only when we know what we are seeking will we know when we find it. Being honest about what you want is the first step towards achieving it. So be honest. What do you want? 
 
Once you’ve worked out what you want, the next challenge is of course, how do we make it happen? This question is another where lying to yourself and others will not serve you no matter how much you think it will. 
 
Let me give you an example. I, as many of you know by now, play hockey. I love playing hockey and I am motivated to keep playing and improving as much as possible. I want to be the best player and team mate I can possibly be. If I want to achieve this, I need to be realistic about how to do that. It