The Grief Gang Amber Jeffrey

Welcome to episode 1, season 4 of The Grief Gang podcast.
Harry Corin, our guest today, lost his dad Will to Suicide at the age of 12. In today’s episode, you’ll hear harry take us back to that day and what those immediate days after his dads death were like. How harry and his family were treated in their town, how their local media treated his dads death and how it was depicted, most importantly, how detrimental that was to them all and their grieving process. 
Language around bereavement by suicide is so important. We can all learn and do better. Whether we’ve been immediately effected by suicide or not. Harry and I discuss today certain phrases or terminology that is used both culturally and professionally that needs to be reassessed. We answer and discuss some of the questions and feedback that you, TGG audience so kindly shared. Things that grind your gears and things that comfort you. Harry gives such an open and honest account about how and why this conversation and learning needs to be had. So much so, I’ve verbally signed myself up for one of his courses!
I really, really enjoyed this interview with Harry and walked away learning so much more than I already did. And I hope you do too!  It’s important to note here, as Harry and I do, that even if there are things that we’ve said in this episode that we think aren't appropriate to say, and you yourself have said them, it’s okay. You’re not a bad person. You, we, can all learn from each other and these conversations!
Find Harry and get involved with global mental health training and consultancy business by visiting his website: https://www.corinandco.com/
Or pop over and say hi to him on IG! Tell him I sent you...https://www.instagram.com/harry.corin/?hl=en
If you or someone you love is being affected by bereavement by suicide, I thoroughly implore you check out Suicide&Co: https://www.suicideandco.org/
Big love,
Amber x
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Welcome to the gang…the one you never asked to be part of! You are listening to the grief gang podcast, the show dedicated to breaking down the taboo’s of grief, one conversation at a time, with me your host, Amber Jeffrey!
Have I got a corker for you this week grief gang. It’s short but very very sweet. And when I say sweet, I mean sweet comedic gold. 
Back in may, I put a call out on the grief gang instagram page, another reason you should be following us over there so you don't miss out on these call outs. Anyway, back in may, I asked you what is the darkest joke or response you've ever made in relation to grief/death and my god did you DELIVER.
I cannot tell you the sheer amount of belly laughs we were all having on ig stories when I was sharing them all. The community were just as shocked as I was at some of them. 
Some of the entries don't hold back at ALL, it's bloody brilliant. I received well over 100 responses and had to whittle this episode down to a few favourites. Some great story ones and some even more delicious one liners that pack a punch. 
I hope this episode brings you a little lift to your week. It’s short and you can pack it into your lunch break or on a drive to the shops. Short and snappy! We all cope with grief and death differently, and humour is a mechanism I think many of us can relate and confide to.
So buckle in, prepare yourself and have a good old laugh…ps…sorry for my literal squeals and snorting throughout…
Big love,
Amber x
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Guys, today is Grief Gang's 3rd birthday. I officially own a toddler! Time goes fast when you're grieving hey…no actually, it really doesn't.
To celebrate this milestone, because to be honest I'm totally extra and will create any excuse for a celebration or party, I wanted to dedicate this weeks episode to the journey of TGG! It’s actually a bit mad, at the time this episode will be released, I’m going to be in Denmark at the first international grief conference as a speaker! Now that is something that if you told me 3 years ago I would have said get fucked!!
Therefore, my lovely friend Ben May, 1 half of The new normal charity who I’m sure you’ve heard me time and time again talk about on here and the instagram, kindly interviewed me. Thats right, I took to guest seat! You, the Grief Gang, audience so kindly wrote in some questions for Ben to ask me and they are VARIED. You’ll get a flavour for where this episode is going purely by the first question that is asked….SPICY let me tell you that.
I share on this episode what it’s really been like for me over these 3 years to run and host this show and have such a wonderful community. What my hopes and dreams are for it and how its affected and helped my own grief journey. We go all round the houses.
So Grief gang, honestly and truly, thank you for the most fulfilling and soul nurturing 3 years. You’ve mended my broken grieving heart in more ways than one and allow me to do something I love every single day. I get to share my mum with the thousands and in turn I get to know and honour your people too. It is forever the greatest gift out of something so terrible.
So on this special day and across this weekend, because I'm extra and dragging my friends out to celebrate all things me, we’ll also be celebrating you and all your people too. Because you all make Grief Gang what it is today.
Big love..thank you.. And happy listening,
Amber x
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This weeks guest is Rabbi Steve Leder. Steve is the senior rabbi of Wilshire Boulevard Temple and author of five books! His most recent book, For You When I Am Gone, was my summer read on holiday this year. I could NOT put it down, and you’re about to find out why in this episode.
Steve’s latest book tackles one of the most requested topics from the last book: writing an ethical will, or a meaningful letter about your life. (Are you now thinking what on earth is an ethical will? Keep put!) He shares 12 questions in this book and prompts to help readers explore their values, beliefs, hopes, and dreams, and includes examples of ethical wills from a broad range of voices and faiths – old and young, with and without children, famous and unknown – as well as his own. It is Filled with ancient wisdom and wit., For You When I Am Gone is a moving, hopeful, and inspiring book that will encourage us to think about the legacy we leave behind.
Whether you follow a faith or religion or not, I think this episode can appeal to all. Writing or thinking about an ethical will is not subjective to following faith. It’s drilled into us that we should have our ducks in a row for when we die….who gets the house? Who gets this piece of jewellery? How much money goes to this person?...but at the end of the day, these things are all just…things. What do we really want to leave behind for those we love?...and also, what do you think your person might have written in their ethical will if they had the chance to write one?!
I’ve got you thinking now haven’t i? Get your pen and paper at the ready…
You can find and connect with Steve on instagram by searching steve_leder. Visit his website at www.steveleder.com where you can buy and read his latest book For you when I am gone. It will massively help and guide you if you're thinking about writing your ethical will! Even if your'e not, it is such a life changing read, honestly!
Happy listening…and writing!
Big love,
Amber x
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The body does in fact, keep the score!
This week, I'm talking all about how grief might impact our bodies. A few months ago, I asked The Grief Gang community how they know grief has affected their physical wellbeing. Let me tell you, they came with RECEIPTS.
In this episode, I share how grief has affected me and my body over the years. What I noticed in those very early stages of loss, and the things that have had a longer impact. Later in the episode, I share some facts I found on t'internet that gave me a little insight as to why this may happen. Check me out with my GP hat on (Full disclaimer..I am absolutely NOT a GP nor should you take any medical advice from me lol)
I hope this episode is really insightful and shows that you're not alone. Those weird aches and pains that came out of nowhere in your 20's maybe aren't you just becoming a dodgery old dear, maybe it's your grief?! There is actual science behind this shit. We're not mad!!!!
If I haven't already mentioned it in this ep, do let me know how grief impacts your body by sliding into my DM's!
Big love & happy listening,
Amber xxx
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This week, I’m talking with author, journalist & presenter, Pippa Vosper. Pippa is most noted for her written features in British Vogue and as of recently, her first book “ Beyond Grief”
Pippa and I found one another well over a year ago online and immediately connected. Though both coming from two extremely different bereavements, I value and resonate with so many of pippas words and anecdotes. 
In todays episode, Pippa takes us back to the day her son Axel died when she was 5 months pregnant. The instinctive moment she knew her baby was going to die that night. The moments she spent with Axel alone, soaking in every moment of and with him. The shock of it all. 
I’m not going to sugar coat Grief Gang, this episode is tough. But it is real. So, so real. Pippa is not and will not be the last parent to experience this. The loss of a child that didn’t reach full term is so silenced. So swept under the rug because the outer world didn't have a relation or lay their eyes on this baby. But does that make this loss any less to the likes of Pippa and many other mothers and fathers? 
Baby loss, from my 3 years of doing grief gang, is one of those areas that many outside of that loss community shy away from. Maybe because it’s too unfathomable? Yeah, you’re right, it is. It’s utterly heartbreaking. But it happens and is happening, and it’s about time we get a bit more geared up to talk about it.
Pippa’s book Beyond Grief is doing exactly that. It covers every aspect of pregnancy and baby loss at any stage, from the practical to the emotional, with advice from experts and stories from women who have been through it themselves, such as ……
God I could go on for ages talking about Pippa and how much admiration I have for her. I am so proud to call her a friend. Her support, love and frankness is unmatched! We need more Pippa’s!!
To the mums and dads listening, my heart is with you during this baby loss awareness week. Your baby matters, always has and always will.
Find Pippa here and purchase her incredible book here !
Big love,
Amber xxx
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