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Welcome to The Hard Part with Alex Holmes.
The Hard Part is a podcast on the intersection of books, mental health, and therapy for modern men, dedicated to exploring mental health and masculinity.
Hosted by Alex Holmes, a London-based therapist, the podcast explores the complexities of mental wellness with a special focus on men's mental health.
This podcast blends interviews, book reviews, and personal stories to help men read more, seek help, and become better versions of themselves.
Each episode aims to shed light on different recovery pathways, offering guidance, support, and understanding to listeners navigating their mental health journeys. 
Read the book: Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging, and Connection.
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Welcome to The Hard Part with Alex Holmes.
The Hard Part is a podcast on the intersection of books, mental health, and therapy for modern men, dedicated to exploring mental health and masculinity.
Hosted by Alex Holmes, a London-based therapist, the podcast explores the complexities of mental wellness with a special focus on men's mental health.
This podcast blends interviews, book reviews, and personal stories to help men read more, seek help, and become better versions of themselves.
Each episode aims to shed light on different recovery pathways, offering guidance, support, and understanding to listeners navigating their mental health journeys. 
Read the book: Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging, and Connection.
Reading List
Join the newsletter for more.
Website: alexholmes.co

    Session 005 | Book. Therapy.

    Session 005 | Book. Therapy.

    In this episode, Alex discusses the goals of bibliotherapy and how it can be used as a tool for therapy and personal growth.
    The four goals of bibliotherapy are: improving how you respond to the world, increasing self-understanding, clarifying personal relationships, and dealing with reality as is.
    He explains each goal in detail and provides examples of how bibliotherapy can help achieve them. The episode also mentions upcoming topics and guests for future episodes.

    Takeaways

    Bibliotherapy is a complementary approach that combines the love for books with the passion to help people.

    The four goals of bibliotherapy are: improving how you respond to the world, increasing self-understanding, clarifying personal relationships, and dealing with reality as is.

    Bibliotherapy can help enhance self-awareness, empathy, and understanding of others.

    Reading books can provide a focus, improve concentration, and help clarify personal responses and feelings.

    Bibliotherapy can assist in recognizing and dealing with negative emotions, as well as addressing existential issues.

    Engaging with literature can help reduce feelings of isolation and loneliness.

    Bibliotherapy encourages personal growth, self-reflection, and the exploration of different perspectives.

    Future episodes will include book breakdowns and discussions with authors and experts in the field of mental health.


    Chapters
    00:00 Improving How You Respond to the World
    15:30 Increasing Self-Understanding
    29:49 Dealing with Reality as Is
    36:08 Upcoming Topics and Guests

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    • 42 min
    Session 004 | Books Can Transform Men's Mental Health

    Session 004 | Books Can Transform Men's Mental Health

    In this episode, Alex explores the concept of bibliotherapy and its impact on men's mental health. He discusses the power of books to provide guidance, support, and inspiration, and shares his personal experiences with books that have influenced his journey.
    The host also addresses the challenges men face in developing a relationship with reading and offers a reading list for men interested in exploring bibliotherapy. He emphasises the importance of engaging with books actively and discusses techniques such as reflective writing and guided sessions.
    The episode concludes with an invitation for listeners to embark on a journey of self-discovery and personal growth through the power of books and therapy.

    Takeaways

    Bibliotherapy is the use of books for therapeutic purposes and has been used for centuries to support mental health and personal growth.

    Books have the power to shift perspectives, challenge beliefs, and provide insights and coping strategies for various mental health conditions.

    Men often have a complicated relationship with reading due to past experiences and societal expectations, but engaging with books can be a powerful tool for personal development and self-reflection.

    Bibliotherapy involves actively engaging with books through techniques such as reflective writing and guided sessions to translate insights into real-life actions.

    A curated reading list can serve as a gateway for men to explore bibliotherapy and find books that resonate with their experiences and support their mental well-being.


    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction: Exploring the Intersection of Therapy, Men's Mental Health, and Books

    05:18 Understanding Bibliotherapy: The Power of Books to Transform Men's Mental Health

    15:00 Challenges Men Face in Developing a Relationship with Reading

    25:03 Curated Reading List for Men's Mental Health and Well-being


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    • 26 min
    What Men Want From Therapy

    What Men Want From Therapy

    In this episode, Alex discusses the importance of a male-friendly approach to psychotherapy and provides tips for men seeking therapy. He emphasizes the need for therapists to understand male communication styles and experiences, and create a non-judgmental environment.
    Alex also highlights the importance of focusing on strengths, setting clear goals, and being open to being challenged in therapy. He explores what men want from therapy, including a quick fix, feeling understood, and addressing relevant topics such as relationships and life transitions.
    Alex encourages men to seek help and become the architects of their own lives.

    Takeaways

    Therapists should have a male-friendly approach that understands male communication styles and experiences.

    Creating a non-judgmental environment is crucial for men to feel safe and express their emotions and vulnerabilities.

    Men should focus on their strengths, set clear goals, and be open to being challenged in therapy.

    Therapy can address relevant topics such as relationships, fatherhood, friendships, and life transitions.

    Seeking help is not a sign of weakness, but a brave step towards improving mental health and becoming the architect of one's own life.


    Chapters

    00:00 The Male-Friendly Therapeutic Environment
    09:13 Creating a Non-Judgmental Environment
    13:59 Focusing on Strengths and Goals
    20:38 Addressing Relevant Topics in Therapy
    23:29 Seeking Help: A Brave Step Towards Mental Health

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    • 23 min
    Session 002 | Breaking The Stigma of Men's Mental Health

    Session 002 | Breaking The Stigma of Men's Mental Health

    Summary

    Mental health struggles do not discriminate, but our societal response to them does. Men face a stigma around seeking help, which is damaging and perpetuated by traditional notions of masculinity. This episode explores the importance of breaking the stigma and creating a culture of openness and support for men's mental health.
    The story of Carl and Drew highlights the consequences of silence and the transformative power of seeking help. Strategies for breaking the stigma include creating open dialogues, educating oneself and others, seeking professional help, and advocating for better mental health resources. Taking responsibility for one's mental health is crucial for personal growth and effective leadership.

    Takeaways


    The stigma around men's mental health is damaging and perpetuated by traditional notions of masculinity.

    Seeking help for mental health struggles is an act of bravery and not a sign of weakness.

    Open dialogues, education, professional help, and advocacy are key strategies for breaking the stigma.

    Taking responsibility for one's mental health is crucial for personal growth and effective leadership.


    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction
    03:12 The Stigma Around Men's Mental Health
    09:14 Breaking the Stigma
    14:17 Story of Carl and Drew
    24:48 Taking Responsibility for Mental Health
    27:06 Challenging the Status Quo
    27:57 Conclusion


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    • 28 min
    Session 001 | Why Men's Mental Health? Why Now?

    Session 001 | Why Men's Mental Health? Why Now?

    In this episode, Alex Holmes introduces himself as the host of the Hard Part podcast, which focuses on the intersection of masculinity and mental health. He explains that the podcast aims to explore men's mental health, masculinity, and personal growth.
    Alex shares his background as a coach and therapist, as well as his journey in the field of men's mental health. He discusses the challenges he faced in understanding what it means to be a man today and the harmful ideas around masculinity.
    Alex emphasises the importance of having compassionate and authentic conversations about mental health.

    Takeaways

    The Hard Part podcast explores men's mental health, masculinity, and personal growth.

    Men's mental health is often overlooked, and harmful ideas around masculinity can be challenging to navigate.

    Therapy and coaching are valuable tools for men's mental health, and finding the right approach and practitioner is important.

    Men's health and well-being have a significant impact on society, and it's crucial to address issues such as loneliness and gender disparities.


    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast
    06:07 Alex's Background and Journey
    16:13 Overview of the Book 'Time to Talk'
    22:19 Men's Relationship to Therapy and Coaching
    25:15 Men's Health and Wellbeing
    26:14 Challenges in Men's Relationships and Connections
    28:22 Becoming the Best Version of Yourself
    29:19 Creating an Interactive and Inclusive Space
    30:08 The Importance of Men's Health

    Connect:
    Book: https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/time-to-talk-how-men-think-about-love-belonging-and-connection-alex-holmes/5009612
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    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@byalexholmes
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    Email: alex@alexholmes.co

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    • 34 min
    Introducing...The Hard Part with Alex Holmes

    Introducing...The Hard Part with Alex Holmes

    Summary
    The Hard Part Podcast aims to explore men's mental health in the context of therapy, coaching, and leadership.
    Alex Holmes, emphasises that the podcast is not another platform promoting misogynistic ideals but rather a resource for personal growth and self-improvement.
    The podcast will cover various topics, including therapy for men, mindful communication, nonviolent communication, and inner work. The host encourages healthy and safe conversations about hard topics and invites listeners to engage with the podcast and seek support if needed.
    Takeaways

    The podcast focuses on men's mental health and personal growth.

    It explores topics such as therapy for men, mindful communication, and inner work.

    The host emphasises the importance of creating a safe space for conversation.

    Listeners are encouraged to engage with the podcast and seek support if needed.


    Chapters
    00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast
    02:01 Exploring Masculinity and Mental Health
    03:03 Core Areas of Focus: Therapy for Men
    03:32 Core Areas of Focus: Mindful Communication and Nonviolent Communication
    03:59 Core Areas of Focus: Inner Work and Men's Work
    04:28 Creating a Safe Space for Conversation
    04:56 Release of the Podcast and Invitation to Work with the Host
    05:23 Call to Action: Support the Podcast
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    • 8 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
70 Ratings

70 Ratings

Capt caos ,

Such a wonderful podcast host!

It is humbling to hear Alex speak with such sensitivity and compassion about men and mindfulness. This is a really good podcast coming to the world just at the right time! Thank you Alex 🎤🙏🏼

airsemon ,

Top podcast with great conversations

Great host and great guests

Patrick.O ,

Added to the weekly queue

🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆

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