My Path to Purpose with Lynette Le Roux Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol free life!

 
My guest this week is very special member of our Tribe Sober Team
I first met Lynette LeRoux when she came to one of our workshops more than 5 years ago
She was in a dark place back then but the workshop was the catalyst she needed to change everything
Lynette has been transforming and enriching her life for the last 5 years – she’s found her passion and qualified as a Coach and for the last 3 years she has been working for Tribe Sober as a Coach
In this episode
Lynette first tasted alcohol at the tender age of 9 – she’d got hold of some tiny bottles of whisky and brandy which she kept near her bed.  She would take a sip when she went to bed as it comforted her
Going off to boarding school at the age of 5 left her with lingering feelings of isolation – a feeling that those little sips chased away.
As she reflects back she realises it was a way to feel nurtured and held
She didn’t drink much in her teens but in her 20’s she met a guy who loved his whisky and she began to drink regularly
Lynette had never really felt comfortable in her own skin so alcohol helped her to socialise
Her relationship deteriorated due to her partners drunken rages and he left her when she was pregnant
She coped well over the next few years and began to develop her career
The usual after work drinks culture prevailed and Lynette fell back into her old patterns
She would drink excessively at the weekends as well as after work sometimes
Like many of us she would resolve to stop or cut down but nothing really changed
Then she met her current husband who hardly drinks at all
He thought she drank too much so she tried hard to make a change
She managed some sober stretches but as she got into her 40’s the alcohol came back into her life
Even though she was drinking Lynette tried a lot self development programs during this period
Looking back she realises that she never tried to integrate her learnings into her daily life
If we don’t apply the learnings then the courses are really a waste of time and nothing will change
As she moved into her 50’s Lynette became more dependent on alcohol
She felt she was losing connection with her husband and her friends
Always looking for the quick fix she decided to study plant medicine
As part of Lynette’s ongoing odyssey for a quick cure for her problems she came across our one day workshop
She attended the workshop but true to form she never really engaged
After the workshop she didn’t apply the tools or connect via the chatgroups
So nothing really changed and three months after the workshop she hit her rock bottom
Driving to work and struggling with an awful hangover she had a “not this” moment
Followed by a “if not this then what?” moment
Out of desperation she looked at her Tribe Sober workshop notes and decided to reconnect
Lynette went to the coffee meetup and engaged on the WhatsApp group
After reading other peoples messages for a while she decided to reach out
She posted a message that she felt really low
Another member explained that she felt that way because her brain was recalibrating and healing
This really resonated with Lynette and became her mantra
She began to study coaching and started to see that a different way of life was possible
As Lynette has been coached herself and has coached many people I asked her to explain why coaching is so valuable
She explained that coaching helps us to get perspective on our life and our mind
Coaching enables a growth mindset as we move towards our future self
We talked about the benefits she has gained from 5 years of sobriety
The biggest benefit for Lynette was reconnecting with herself and then developing her passion for coaching
She’s learned so much about her beautiful brain and she’s learned how to feel
She’s learned that emotional pain is a sign of growth and she must learn to get comfortable with being uncomfortable
That's a lesson she’s taught us all here at Tribe Sober
We agreed that there is so much more to recovery