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The Universal Needs
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Join Claire & Serena as they take you through a journey to discover more about your Universal Needs, WHY they aren't currently being well met, HOW to meet them in ways that work for you and how to CONSISTENTLY do so in quick, easy and simple ways that fit seamlessly into your life. A combination of personal development & entertainment, this podcast shows you how meeting your Universal Needs is VITAL to all the most important areas of your life including relationships, mental health, self worth, business, parenting, boundaries, emotional wellbeing and more...with plenty of fun along the way. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. Episode 198 - How to acknowledge someone

    23 HR AGO

    Episode 198 - How to acknowledge someone

    Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 198 - "How to acknowledge someone" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide It's natural to want to be seen, heard and understood by those we are in relationship with however, that is not always the case. We've recently discovered that acknowledgement (and doing so effectively) is not as self explanatory as we once thought. On today's episode we're going to discuss why acknowledgement is important, how to acknowledge in ways that are effective and we'll break down the Acknowledgement Blueprint to find out what steps are needed to make deeper, more effective and meaningful acknowledgements and which will help create deeper and more meaningful connections. In this episode we cover: What is an emojency?Buzz phrases that lead to superficial acknowledgementThe many meanings of "I hear you"The role gremlins can play in acknowledgementChecking boxes, the difference between saying and feelingThe steps of the Acknowledgement BlueprintThe importance of staying present and curiousThe thumbs up emoji and what it means nowDemonstrating that you've actually heard someoneHow to cultivate closer relationships through acknowledgementThe optional steps when acknowledgingWhy Serena referred to us as the Fight Club of personal developmentMoving from an intellectual or verbal acknowledgment to an active and embodied acknowledgmentManaging your unmet needs during this processFocusing on whats important and how to do so Episode References: The Apology Blueprint episode - Episode 156 - The 6 essential parts of an effective apologyRelationship orbits episode - Episode 154 - What are your relationship orbits, and how can they protect you?The clearing niggles episode- Episode 61 - Friendship Series: Clearing Niggles Notes: Download The Acknowledgement Blueprint PDF here: https://theuniversalneeds.com/Acknowledgement Download The Apology Blueprint PDF here: https://theuniversalneeds.com/ApologyVideo of educating boomer appearance about the thumbs up: https://www.tiktok.com/@jasonsappy/video/7578197526180941087 Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 32m
  2. Episode 197 - The importance of joy when times are tough

    9 MAR

    Episode 197 - The importance of joy when times are tough

    ***Trigger Warning - AIDS crisis, bereavement and grief Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 197 - "The importance of joy when times are tough" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide One of the most important emotions to experience when times are challenging, is also one of the first emotions to go. Today we're talking about joy. In difficult times joy is an emotion that can feel so far away from where we are currently at. So how do we honor what is happening around us while also allowing the full spectrum of emotions that may be present? Tune into today's episode where we discuss why we resist joy, how we can begin to allow joy that is present and cultivating moments of joy that may not have seemed possible. In this episode we cover: The holiday sweater debateWhy Claire is airing on the side of ridiculous for her singing competitionThe challenge with showing and sharing joy in difficult timesResisting joy in griefAllowing and processing the full spectrum of emotionsThe difference between authentic joy and masking "joy"Processing our experiences more authentically and becoming more resourced in terms of our emotionsShifting ourselves out of the direction of "this is what it's meant to look like"Creating a space for all the emotions to be presentRecognizing the potential for joyThe steps to cultivating joyCreating small moments of joyChecking in with where you're at and what will truly bring you joy Episode References: The episode on resisting joy - Episode 133 - Why we sometimes resist joyThe negative emotions episode - Episode 33 - Why there's no such thing as negative emotionsThe episode where Serena talks about getting punchy - Episode 118 - I feel like I want to be angry but I don't know why Notes: Quote from AIDS crisis:"During the darkest days of the AIDS crisis, we buried our friends in the morning, we protested in the afternoon, and we danced all night. The dance kept us in the fight because it was the dance that we were fighting for. It didn't look like we were going to win then, and we did. It doesn't feel like we're going to win now, but we could. Keep fighting. Keep dancing." - Dan Savage Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    56 min
  3. Episode 196 - How to do business as usual when everything feels so out of control"

    2 MAR

    Episode 196 - How to do business as usual when everything feels so out of control"

    ***Trigger Warning - Experience natural disaster Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 196 - "How to do business as usual when everything feels so out of control" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide There's a lot going on in the world currently and a lot of people are struggling. To be quite honest, things are pretty shitty. How can we be expected to do business as usual, when nothing is usual?! We don't always have the answers or know what is or isn't the right thing to do so stopped our conversation to hit record and bring you in on it. Join us as we talk about getting back to basics so we are able to resource ourselves and navigate the challenges ahead. In this episode we cover: We don't always have the answer; the "business as usual" dilemmaWhat the hell is going on in the world around usDaz's on camera cameoFeeling like meeting our needs is a drop in the oceanWe're all in this dumpster fire togetherSimply meeting your needs doesn't make the world okIdentifying what we CAN do to move the dial in a better directionWhat to do when the big picture is out of your controlGetting back to basicsHow Claire navigated a hurricane by meeting her needsThe right moments to processFiguring out what supports you and what doesn'tFinding the balance between doing the things we need to do while minimizing the negative impact to our needs Episode References: Episode 89 - What to do when you’re REALLY struggling…142 - How to cope when it feels like the world is falling apartThe Interaction Dynamics (shapes) episodes - Episodes 159-169The Drama Triangle episodesEpisode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim Approach -Episode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachEpisode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachEpisode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulThe Empowerment Dynamic episodesEpisode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachEpisode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6)Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor ApproachThe other "shapes" episodes -Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering oneEpisode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9)Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of moviesThe bad habits episode - Episode 91 - How to shift bad habits or change behaviors Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 2m
  4. Episode 195 - Why there is no such thing as win-lose in relationships

    23 FEB

    Episode 195 - Why there is no such thing as win-lose in relationships

    Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 195 - "Why there is no such thing as win-lose in relationships" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide In life, you win some and you lose some. However, when it comes to our relationships, there is no win-lose. If it's not a win-win, it's a lose-lose and if something doesn't work for one person, it doesn't actually work for the other person or the needs of the relationship. Tune in to discover how finding the win-win can drastically change and improve the relationships in your life by creating something that works for everyone. In this episode we cover: Raining iguanas and exploding treesWhy there is no win-lose in relationshipsThe effects our relationships have on our needsUnderstanding and recognizing interconnectednessHow winning an argument can negatively impact our needsThe repercussions of disconnecting from someone's humanityWhat winning actually isThe culture of competition in relationshipsWhen team building builds wallsPutting energy into collaboration rather than competitionFinding what works for everyonePlanting seeds of resentmentUsing an "ideal world" to find a win-win and create a more supportive relationship Episode References: The Interaction Dynamics (shapes) episodes - Episodes 159-169The Drama Triangle episodesEpisode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim Approach -Episode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachEpisode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachEpisode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulThe Empowerment Dynamic episodesEpisode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachEpisode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6)Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor ApproachThe other "shapes" episodes -Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering oneEpisode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9)Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of moviesThe Selfirst episodes Episode 2 - The wisdom of Joey Tribbiani (An introduction to being Selfirst) Episode 20 - Selfirst Series: What is Selfirst? Let's get specific… Episode 21 - Selfirst Series: The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibility Episode 22 - Selfirst Series: A safe space vs a comfortable space, how a comfortable space can actually cost your needsThe red green spectrum episode - Episode 121 - How trying to maintain an image can compromise your needsThe Needs Ecosystem episode - Episode 36 - Self worth Series: Why it's so hard to feel 'enough' Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1 hr
  5. Episode 194 - Why it's never to late to say "no"

    16 FEB

    Episode 194 - Why it's never to late to say "no"

    Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 194 - "Why it's never to late to say "no"" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Life happens and what needs are up, impacted, met or unmet is constantly changing. Sometimes what was once a legitimate yes is now an unfortunate no. Our last episode was all about the positive impact saying yes can have on your needs. Join us this week as we discuss how sometimes what serves us best is changing our yes to a no and when we feel unable to do so we are impacting ourselves, the other person and our relationship as a whole. In this episode we cover: Some of the reasons we say yes, when it is actually a noFocusing on how something meets our needs and not considering the potential negative impact to our needsPreventing ourselves from feeling pressured to say yesWhen a yes becomes a no due to circumstancesRenegotiating agreements and commitmentsYes And and Yes ButHow to approach the no when have already said the yesWhat is PancakegateWhen avoiding changing a yes to a no creates a bigger issueProviding the whyIf it's not a win-win it's a lose-loseSerena's New Years Eve yes that was a New Years Eve no for ClaireGoing into Creator Mode to find something you can say yes toRiding the pendulum between yes and no to see where your authentic yes liesThe negative impact compromising yourself has on your relationships Episode References: The episode about saying no - Episode 69 - How to say 'no' when you find it really hardThe FOMO episode - Episode 140 - FOMO, ROMO, SOMO and JOMOThe previous episode on saying yes - Episode 193 - How to learn to say yes moreApology Blueprint episode - Episode 156 - The 6 essential parts of an effective apologyThe Apology Blueprint PDF here: https://theuniversalneeds.com/Apology Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 2m
  6. Episode 193 - How to learn how to say yes more

    9 FEB

    Episode 193 - How to learn how to say yes more

    Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 193 - "How to learn how to say yes more" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Yes. It's an easy word to say yet many struggle with it; holding them back from possibility, experience and meeting their needs in fulfilling ways. This week we're talking about how to identify and remove the barriers keeping us from saying yes more and what we need to consider to ensure we are saying yes to the things that serve us best. In this episode we cover: Why we may be struggling to say yesGetting into the habit of saying yesSimilarities between the approach to saying no and the approach to saying yesBreaking the pattern of saying noFiguring out the why behind the noRemoving the barriers holding us back from yesWhat allowed Serena to say yes more in Key West while also protecting her relationshipFocusing on the present momentWhen the yes can compromise our needsThe fear of saying yesHow to help create securityPutting ourselves out there and finding or amplifying joyThe two things that can really help us learn to say yesConsiderations to make when saying yesSaying yes to more things Episode References: Our last episode on control - Episode 192 - How to let go of controlThe episode about saying no - Episode 69 - How to say 'no' when you find it really hard Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 7m
  7. Episode 192 - How to let go of control"

    2 FEB

    Episode 192 - How to let go of control"

    Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 192 - "How to let go of control" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Do you feel the need to control things in your life? You are not alone. Control is something many of us feel we need and rarely do we dive into why we actually feel that way. Spoiler Alert...it has to do with your needs. This week we're getting into the layers of control and how our first 7 Universal Needs may be pulling the stings beneath the surface. If you're looking to change your relationship with control, this episode is for you.  In this episode we cover: What is the need to controlWhere can patterns of control come fromThe impact our met or unmet needs has on our relationship with controlHow to begin changing our relationship with controlWhy we are trying to controlThe relationship between control and anxietyHow control and our Personal Power Need are linkedThe control fear has over usA reminder that you are worthy simply because you existBurnout...the toll of controlTrying to fit in when we were born to stand outValidating ourselves through empathyDepreciating value through controlInternal, quiet, empowerment and how we can obtain itMoving forward with baby steps Episode References: The control episode - Episode 24 - How the need to have control is controlling youThe anxiety episode - Episode 28 - An antidote to anxietyThe acknowledgement episodes: Episode 92 - How to deal with the inner critic and inner saboteur and 176 - Why acknowledgment is more important than most people realizeThe perfectionism episodes - Episode 23 - How to get over perfectionism and Episode 99 - It’s OK to be humanThe Victim Approach episode - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachThe whimsy episode - Episode 153 - The power of whimsy when meeting your needsNeeds Formula episode- Episode 70 - Burning the candle at both ends series: The Needs Formula Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 15m
  8. Episode 191 - How assuming compromised needs

    26 JAN

    Episode 191 - How assuming compromised needs

    Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 191 - "How assuming compromises needs" is now LIVE! Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide They say assuming makes an ass out of you and me. What most people don't know is it compromises the needs of you and me as well. We live in a culture of making snap judgments and just assuming we know someone or a situation however, these assumptions often have us losing sight of our humanity and the humanity of others. This week we're talking about assumptions, the impact making assumptions has on everyone's needs and how to cultivate deeper, stronger and more fulfilling relationships through curiosity. In this episode we cover: When Claire got caught "drinking" on the jobThe real issue with assumingHow our needs are compromised when assumptions are madeThe difference curiosity can makeThe assumption most people make about Claire and SerenaWhat's not nice about "must be nice"Social media and the effect assumption can have on our humanityWhat we mean when we talk about curiosityBuilding trust and connection through curiosityThe question to ask yourself when you're curiousRemoving the middle man from our connectionsAssuming you know the people you know Episode References: Dark Side of Questions episode: Episode 172 - The darker side of questions Podcast Episode guide and full show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuide Find our website and connect with us on Social Media: https://linktr.ee/theuniversalneeds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 8m
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Join Claire & Serena as they take you through a journey to discover more about your Universal Needs, WHY they aren't currently being well met, HOW to meet them in ways that work for you and how to CONSISTENTLY do so in quick, easy and simple ways that fit seamlessly into your life. A combination of personal development & entertainment, this podcast shows you how meeting your Universal Needs is VITAL to all the most important areas of your life including relationships, mental health, self worth, business, parenting, boundaries, emotional wellbeing and more...with plenty of fun along the way. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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