Ep 11 The Reality of Finding Joy & Vulnerability inside Deep Pain with life coach Jacqui Beaver Reality Hub

Rob and Steve talk to Jacqui Beaver a transformational coach/mentor on how to navigate mid-life and career transition.
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00:00   Intro to life coach Jacqui Beaver Check out her linked in Profile
00:44   Intro music
01:04   So excited to have you here, how we reconnected.
02:11   A little bit about Jacqui and embracing the gig economy.
02:41   Supporting people through mid-life transition.
03:05   About workshops. Moving through life unintentionally.
04:00   Stanford life design lab. Career changes. Alternate futures.
04:31   The life design process explained.
05:16   The guys up in Slack. Parallel universes. Quantum physics.
06:04   Living 3 different lives.
06:47   Getting clear on what you think life is and what work is.
07:50   Being a square peg in a round hole.
08:30   Knowing your superpower.
09:31   What other people see in us.
09:55   Using your super power for other people.
10:21   What is your super power and knowing your truth.
11:53   Knowing yourself and comfortable with being who you really are.
12:17   Aubrey Marcus podcast with Humble the Poet quote.
13:30   Jacqui knew her superpower but didn’t believe in it.
14:12   In the acting world it’s what you say no to that defines you.
15:00   Jacqui’s Les Mills story about being an aerobics instructor.
15:59   It wasn’t about being the best instructor or having the best body.
16:50   Pivot points in my career.
17:31   Art school or Air New Zealand?
18:25   The good old days of being an in-flight attendant.
19:05   Flight attending once again a square peg in a round hole.
19:44   Jacqui’s impactful moment on board a flight one day.
20:34   Jacqui’s superpower defined!
21:16   Steve’s life hack on just listening.
21:51   Really listening and “The Matrix” analogy of listening deeply.
23:00   Synchronistic and a-ha moments.
23:33   I used my superpower to hide.
24:10   A-ha moments and one profound moment? Connecting the dots.
25:00   Moving through life as a spiritual beings.
25:11   Book recommendation Dr Amy Johnson - Being Human: Essays on Thoughtmares, 
Bouncing Back and Your True Nature.
26:00   Impact of Jacqui’s mother passing away. Didn’t cry at the funeral.
26:59   Masking and suppressing pain. Why do we do this?
27:25   Inner child analogy and childlike way of being.
28:40   Why are we afraid of being vulnerable?
29:14   Jacqui’s ex-boyfriend story and needing to talk about it.
29:55   Jacqui’s fireman story about playing into a role.
31:20   The role of being strong and getting through things.
32:10   Authenticity, intuition, empathy and helping people through transition.
32:55   Stanford life design group coaching.
33:32   Retreats and helping people through transition points.
34:06   Mid-life has a branding issue. The societal narrative.
34:52   The Mid-Life Wisdom School. Chip Conley.
35:41   Challenging how we look at mid-life.
36:00   Two phases identified of crisis adolescence and retirement.
36:33   What exactly is mid-life and debunking it.
37:51   Middle essence phase explained and defined.
38:35   Going through transition. An unraveling.
39:43   Very Well Mind website quote about mid-life crisis.
40:56   Mid-life is individual for everyone and on a sliding scale.
42:01   Middle age and having a realisation of your own programming.
43:17   The U curve of happiness study.
43:59   Explaining the U curve.
45:06   Suicide stats of 45yr old males in US increased by 50% over 20