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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled Wondery
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In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics.
Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website (JanetLansbury.com) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love.
Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at NoBadKidsCourse and JanetLansbury. Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Apple, Barnes & Noble, and free at Audible with a trial subscription.
Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more.
Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise.
Copyright JLML Press (2024) All Rights Reserved
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My Child Refuses Independent Play
With our most loving intentions as parents, we might find ourselves stuck in a full-time role we never wanted—as our child's playmate and entertainer. In this episode, a mom asks Janet for advice regarding her "bright, busy, extroverted four-year-old girl who loves having my complete attention.” Unfortunately, this parent is feeling she really needs some time to herself, but when she tries to take a break, her daughter is unwilling to let her go and seems anxious and insecure, as if this is a personal rejection.
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As Our Kids Get Older - 5 Ways to Continue Building Lasting Emotional Bonds
What does respectful parenting look like as our kids get older? Where can we get advice similar to Janet's but for older kids? Janet receives these kinds of questions often and takes the opportunity to answer them in this episode.
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The Magic That Makes Kids Want to Cooperate
As parents, we all experience moments when our kids just won’t go with the program – brushing their teeth, dressing for school, cleaning up their toys, going to bed (and staying there). We ask nicely, and they ignore us. Then we ask not so nicely, and they dig their heals in. Before long we’re frustration turns to exasperation, and we either get angry or throw up our hands in surrender. At a certain age, our kids are developmentally programmed to resist us no matter how much kindness and respect we show them. So, what’s a parent to do? Sometimes we wish we could just wave a magic wand. Well, the wands are on back-order, but Janet shares some magical recommendations that will make these interaction so much easier to navigate, win or lose.
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Losing It - Understanding What Makes Us Snap (Encore with Elisabeth Corey)
Janet is joined by trauma recovery expert Elisabeth Corey to answer a parent’s email about her struggles to become a respectful parent. This mom says certain behaviors of her 2.5-year old daughter set her off. “I don’t stay calm, focused, kind to my child.” And she believes her own upbringing (“in no way respectful”) is the root cause of her reactions. She is overwhelmed by the responsibility of raising her child and wants to know: “What can I do to help myself?” Janet and Elisabeth consider the common underlying issues of our own childhoods and how we can recognize and heal negative cycles to become better parents.
Elisabeth's work and free resources for parents are available on her site at: www.BeatingTrauma.com
For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible. Paperbacks and e-books are available at Amazon. Also, her exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com).
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Dr. Gabor Maté on Why Parents Matter More Than Ever
Physician and author Gabor Maté joins Janet to discuss the importance of developing secure attachments with our kids and why it's crucial for us to continue nurturing these bonds into their adulthood. How do we remain our children's most trusted influences while also encouraging their natural drive toward individuation? Can we maintain our role as a primary attachment figure when our child is cared for by others? How do we help kids to develop healthy relationships with peers? What's the best way to handle exposure to digital media? Gabor addresses these questions among many others and offers suggestions for maintaining positive attachments throughout our kids’ lives.
Gabor is the author of 5 books and most recently the re-issued Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers, co-authored with Gordon Neufeld, with a new chapter about how the Covid pandemic affected kids' relationships with peers and parents.
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When Kids Hide Their Feelings and Reject Our Comfort
We're trying to be there for our kids, let them know we care, and give them positive, healthy messages about their feelings. What could possibly go wrong? In this episode, Janet responds to a parent who worries that when she tries to comfort her upset 3-year-old daughter, the child seems ashamed about her feelings, even angry, and yells at the parent to go away. The parent asks, "Do you have any advice for helping her to be more comfortable with feeling sad or angry?"
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Indispensable
We discovered Janet’s work from a parenting counsellor when our first child was 4 months old and we were really struggling just to stay alive.
Fast-track 17 months later, as a FTWM, it’s the only podcast that I consistently keep up with. She’s a fantastic interviewer and invites a diverse range of guests approaching relevant and crucial life topics that we convey to our children each day (and I dare say people around us). She addresses each issue seriously and passionately to-the-point, offering solutions for root causes of struggles that often entail mindset changes, with science-based knowledge and a deeply human and humane approach. I love her personality even without meeting her. Very often I tell my husband that Janet deserves a Peace Prize do this podcast, and he agrees!
If you’re a struggling parent, or just want to learn more about how to be a good model for people, and children in particular, whilst feeling better about your role in the world, look no further than this podcast.
Essential if you care for children.. or if you work with people who act like one 😬
(Question) I would love to know, when is the right time to consider if a traditional school (kindergarten) setting isn’t working for my child, yet, and whether to consider a delayed start or even homeschool communities. My 4 year old says he doesn’t like school (he says he likes his friends and the teachers are nice, but that he’s scared and doesn’t enjoy the activities, that they don’t have good toys or enough time to play with them). He doesn’t enjoy taking part in songs for example and when he tries to discuss things that interest him, I think he feels brushed off a little if it isn’t relevant to what the teacher is talking about in circle time. So I have my reservations about the school, but am not sure if this is just the way school will be most places. (I am British but my husband is HK Chinese, so I am trying to be supportive to learn Cantonese in a dual language kindergarten. However his English is definitely more dominant so my son has adapted really well and is eager to try and speak Cantonese with his Dad, despite it being a tough language. The local school system is definitely more academically focused but we’ve done our best to try and find a local Kindie that’s as child-focused as possible). In the past, he’s also attended Reggio Emilia/Montessori/Forrest School playgroups and has loved those - however they are all strong English environments and so Chinese was difficult to fit into his day besides mornings with his dad.
Basically, a more structured environment has been met with a lot of resistance. He desperately begs for more time to play after school, which I try to give him as much as possible (no tv during the week) and my husband and I aim to be present and engage with him with as much quality time as possible, e.g cooking together, walks, river play, sports and unstructured play like LEGO building which he loves etc. But he’s often begging for more playtime in the evening. Which makes me feel like he’s not getting enough unstructured play and whether my attempt to help his Cantonese language/culture exposure is coming at a negative cost to his natural learning and play needs. He’s only at school for afternoons and has mornings and lunch with me and his baby sister.
I’m currently focussing on validating his feelings, comforting him and playing back what he says to me like, “Yeah, I hear you don’t like school, you feel it’s boring, you don’t like the toys, that’s really hard”. He really misses his Dad each day as well and so far it’s really helped to say “Yeah, you’re missing Daddy, I miss him too, I know you’d love to hang out with him all day, I would too!” This has really helped and immediately comforts him and he moves on.
But I don’t know if, in the same way as missing Daddy, his dislike for school is a phase of letting him express his emotions or if I need to consider that he would be better suited to a delayed start/local homeschool community. On the one hand I know that helping them overcome challenges will help on the path to being resilient later on. But I’m trying to also observe if his almost daily sadness and disappointment about going to school is pointing to this being the wrong fit for him and I should consider my child’s needs, development by resisting the societal flow and expecting my child to fit into the traditional school system for his age. I should mention that we did try 2 terms at a wonderful English speaking kindergarten before this local one, but he had the same response of not wanting to go.
Thank you for doing this podcast, I’m so grateful!
Louise (Hong Kong)
Love it!
Any chance of a special series for early years teachers? 😊