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Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing Choose Recovery Services - Alana Gordon and Amie Woolsey
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Choose To Be is focused on women healing from infidelity, and betrayal trauma. We are committed to helping women heal. Be a part of the conversation as we interview experts and others who have gone through this journey and gain tools to help you move forward.
Alana and Amie bring their own experiences to the conversation, and their individual expertise makes for a unique and valuable resource.
Alana Gordon-MFTI, CCPS, CSAT candidate, Betrayal Coach
Amie Woolsey-Betrayal Coach, CPC, ELI-MP, APSATS trainee
For more information: ChooseRecoveryServices.com | info@chooserecoveryservices.com
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Separation - A Pathway to Healing With Luke Gordon
It can feel soul-crushing if your partner asks for a separation, but what if it’s actually an opportunity in disguise? This week Amie is a guest on Luke Gordon’s podcast. Luke is a men’s emotional health coach and cofounder at Choose Recovery Services.
Listen in as Luke and Amie talk about how couples can use separation as a catalyst for profound individual healing and growth which can bring about lasting change in their relationship.
Listen to learn:
How separation can be beneficial and even necessary for healing and reintegration
Why tension is needed to break old destructive patterns
What a separation aims to accomplish
Referenced in this episode:
Beyond the Facade - Subscribe to Luke Gordon’s new podcast Beyond the Facade. Each week Luke will delve into topics such as authenticity, vulnerability, and integrity. Learn how to unmask your authentic self to deepen connections to yourself and others.
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Register Now!
In-person Intensive: Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping. First four weeks are free!
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services -
Victim to Chooser - Part 2
Last week we learned the thought patterns of those who are in the victim and emerger stages of healing from trauma. Today Amie takes us through the final two stages - reclaimer and chooser.
In this episode you’ll learn how to reframe toxic thought patterns and reclaim your truth. Understand how to shed your victimhood, separate your worth from emotions and circumstances, and become the unapologetic chooser of the life you deserve.
Find Victim to Chooser Part 1 HERE
Listen to learn:
Thoughts that accompany the “reclaimer” and “chooser” stages
How to break free from the “victim” mindset
How the “chooser” beliefs can empower you in your choices and actions
Referenced in this episode:
Victim to Chooser Worksheet
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group led by Morgan Ellsworth for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Register Now!
In-person Intensive: Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Luke Gordon hosts a podcast geared toward helping men live authentically and in harmony with their values.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - Learn how to work WITH your brain instead of against it by gaining tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services -
Victim to Chooser - Part 1
Do you feel stuck in the cycle of victimhood after betrayal, believing thoughts like, “I’ll never trust again” or “I’m not enough”? In this week’s episode, Amie walks us through the “Victim to Chooser” framework sharing the progressive stages she sees clients navigate towards healing and wholeness.
Listen in to see if you have thought patterns that are leaving you stuck in the first two stages, and be sure to tune in next week to learn more about the other two stages. Amie will help you feel seen, validated, and hopeful as you learn to move through the first two stages and onto the growth and healing found in the final two stages.
Listen to learn:
The four stages of healing from betrayal trauma
Disempowering thoughts that characterize the “victim” mentality
Mindset shifts that can occur as you move through the first two stages
Wanting another podcast to listen to?
Subscribe to Luke Gordon’s new podcast Beyond the Facade. Each week Luke will delve into topics such as authenticity, vulnerability, and integrity. Learn how to unmask your authentic self to deepen connections to yourself and others.
Register Now!
In-person Intensive: Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 16-18, 2024 and also July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - Learn how to work WITH your brain instead of against it by gaining tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Connect with us on Social Media:
Alana Gordon
Amie Woolsey
Choose Recovery Services -
Will I Ever Heal? What Helps and What Hinders
Do you feel stuck wondering if you will ever heal from betrayal trauma? In this powerful episode Amie and Alana share their own experiences grappling with that exact question. They provide wisdom and practical tools for aiding your healing process whether you are just starting out or are further along the path.
You can and will heal - as you keep taking those crucial next steps.
Listen to learn:
How proper self-care can promote recovery
The importance of somatic/body-based healing work
How self-judgment and denial can hinder progress
Referenced in this episode:
REAL Self-Care: Burnout Is Not Your Fault & the Way Out with Dr. Pooja Lakshmin - episode on the We Can Do Hard Things Podcast
What Does “Get In Your Body” Mean?” - past episode about somatic healing
Two groups hosted by Morgan Ellsworth - Adult Children Uniting for Healing and Resilient Teens. These groups are for adult children and teens, respectively, to gain support as they navigate healing from parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Morgan has been there and is passionate about guiding others along their path to healing.
Should I Stay or Go? - Amie’s self-paced course designed to be a companion on your journey toward self-discovery and personal empowerment.
Wanting another podcast to listen to?
Subscribe to Luke Gordon’s new podcast Beyond the Facade. Each week Luke will delve into topics such as authenticity, vulnerability, and integrity. Learn how to unmask your authentic self to deepen connections to yourself and others.
Register Now!
In-person Intensive: Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 16-18, 2024 and also July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. New group beginning soon!
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - In this program Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like. -
"If He Would Just..." Why This Keeps You Both Stuck
Do you find yourself imagining all the ways things would be better “if he would just…”? If so, you’re not alone! In this episode Amie and Alana dive into this disempowering mindset and provide wisdom on shifting your thinking by focusing on what you can control. Gain clarity as they share candid examples and advice on how to take your next empowered steps regardless of the things your partner is or is not doing.
Listen to learn:
How to recognize when you’re stuck under the “if” umbrella
How to focus on personal responsibility
How to make clear requests in your relationship
How to reclaim your power
Exciting Resources Coming Soon!
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Subscribe to this new podcast by Luke Gordon. Learn more about authenticity and the struggle to be real. Subscribe now and watch for the first episode coming soon!
In-person Intensive: Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on May 16-18, 2024 and also July 17-19, 2024. Learn more and register HERE.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. New group beginning soon!
Promo Code!
Resilient Teens is an ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage. Register by May 5, 2024 and receive $5 off weekly for the first month using code 5-OFF-TEENS. Register HERE.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience. Register by May 5, 2024 and receive $5 off weekly for the first month using code 5-OFF-ADULT-CHILDREN. Register HERE.
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust and joy once again.
Healing Hearts - For couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy and integrity.
Help. Her. Heal - For men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - Support group for men to gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
Should I Stay or Go? - Self-paced co -
Stepping Into Authenticity - with Luke Gordon
We all wear masks at times, but hiding your true self is exhausting and inauthentic. In this week’s episode we welcome back Luke Gordon. Luke opens up about his personal battles with hiding behind false versions of himself. He describes how he was finally able to deepen relationships when he stepped into vulnerability, integrity, and authenticity.
Listen to learn:
What true authenticity is and isn’t
How authenticity is “earned and learned”
The reward in choosing short-term pain for long-term gains
How to reach sustainable growth and peace within yourself
Referenced in this episode:
Connect with Luke Gordon and book a session with him HERE.
Exciting Resources Coming Soon!
Beyond the Facade Podcast - Subscribe to this new podcast by Luke Gordon. Learn more about authenticity and the struggle to be real with ourselves and others as you build meaningful relationships. Subscribe now and watch for the first episode in May!
In-person Intensive: Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity - This is a three-day live intensive for men led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held May 16-18, 2024 in Spanish Fork, UT. Learn more and register HERE.
Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. New group beginning soon!
More from Choose Recovery Services
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Believing in You - Amie teaches you how to work WITH your brain instead of against it. Learn tools that will help you move forward to trust, love, empowerment, and finding joy once again.
Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.
Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.
Choosing to Stay Webinar - Free monthly webinar for couples choosing to stay together after infidelity.
The Empowered Divorce Podcast with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.
Dating From Within - Amie Woolsey hosts this workshop which teaches you how to date yourself first. Learn how to know if you are ready to date again and what a healthy relationship looks like.
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