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12-step recovery for those of us who love alcoholics or addicts. We share our experience, strength, and hope as we use the principles of the Al-Anon program in our lives. We talk openly and honestly about the problems and challenges as we face alcoholism and addiction in our friends and relatives. We share the tools and solutions we have found that let us live a life that is serene, happy, and free, even when the alcoholic or addict is still drinking or using.

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12-step recovery for those of us who love alcoholics or addicts. We share our experience, strength, and hope as we use the principles of the Al-Anon program in our lives. We talk openly and honestly about the problems and challenges as we face alcoholism and addiction in our friends and relatives. We share the tools and solutions we have found that let us live a life that is serene, happy, and free, even when the alcoholic or addict is still drinking or using.

    Belonging — 315

    Belonging — 315

    The only requirement for membership in Al-Anon is that there is a problem of alcoholism in a relative or friend. How many other groups are so inclusive? How does this help you? How is this a challenge for you?







    Today is MLK day, the celebration of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr’s birthday. Perhaps naturally, my thoughts turned to the ideas of inclusion, diversity, and belonging. And from there, to how inclusive the Al-Anon program is. Our third tradition says, in part, “The only requirement for membership is that there be a problem of alcoholism in a relative or friend.”







    * What did this mean for me when I first came to Al-Anon?* How have I seen this tradition work for others when they first come to Al-Anon?* How does the diversity of experience and opinion support my recovery?* Can I recognize our similarities instead of focusing on our differences?* How do I know that I belong in my Al-Anon groups?







    Readings and Links







    We read from Courage to Change, July 4, and How Al-Anon Works, Chapters 16 & 44.







    A listener shared her recovery Spotify playlist.



















    Upcoming topics







    Our topic for next week is “in all our affairs”. How do you use your recovery tools and principles in your daily life? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecovery.show with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.















    Music from the Show











    Jess Glynne – I'll Be There











    Pat Benatar – We Belong











    Steve Winwood – Higher Love

    • 49 min
    Integrity – 314

    Integrity – 314

    What is integrity and what does it have to do with recovery?







    * Definitions* the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness* the state of being whole and undivided* “the root of integrity is about doing the right thing even when it’s not acknowledged by others, or convenient for you.” (Psychology Today article)* “In ethics, integrity is regarded as the honesty and truthfulness or accuracy of one's actions.” (Wikipedia)* In episode 101, I said that for me, having integrity means that “I act in all things according to my true self. I state my beliefs honestly and openly.”







    Recently, I was thinking about this topic, and also about how I have not lived with integrity. And then, I thought about how practicing the 12 steps has brought me closer to living with integrity in all my affairs. What are some of the ways in which I did not practice integrity?







    * Denial vs acceptance. When I deny the truth of reality, I am not being honest with myself, no matter how much more comfortable that denial might make me.* Pretending to be someone I am not, to believe something I don’t, to not have an opinion that I have. Typically I would do this because I thought if I was honest about my thoughts and beliefs, you wouldn’t like me or I would offend you.* Volunteering to do something that I didn’t want to do. And then doing a bad job at it.







    How did recovery help me live with more integrity?







    * Breaking denial, especially about the alcoholism in my family.* Teaching me how to accept with grace, and that acceptance does not mean condoning.* That “searching and fearless moral inventory” brought me greater clarity about who I am, how I act, and what I believe.* I can ask a power greater than myself for help in changing!* Teaching me to set boundaries, so I only “sign up” for the things I can actually accomplish.















    Readings and Links







    We read from







    Courage to Change, December 10







    How Al-Anon Works, Chapter 16 Twelve Traditions, Tradition 12







    Upcoming topics







    We are interested in your sharing on two topics







    * Being a man in Al-Anon.* Being a dual member (also known as “double winner.”)







    Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecovery.show with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

    • 47 min
    Being Heard – 313

    Being Heard – 313

    Is your voice heard, even when others disagree? Why is it important that everyone has an opportunity to be heard? How do you practice listening in your life? Meetings? Family? Work?







    Concept 5 states “The rights of appeal and petition protect minorities and insure that they be heard.” Spencer and Eric share how this concept can be applied in our lives, as well as in our meetings.







    * Definitions.* “Listening intently is the ultimate form of love.”* Listen – give one’s attention to a sound; take notice of; act on what someone says; pay attention; take heed; take notice; be alert and ready to hear something.* Speaking out or up – express one’s feelings and opinions frankly and publicly* People in the rooms can take a long time to speak up, to feel safe to speak* It’s ok to have an opinion, even when it differs from others’* Two largest fears: 1. Public speaking. 2. Death (is second!)* Aspects of practicing Concept 5:* Balance* Listening* “Do we grant other people the time to say what they need to day, to clarify their thoughts, even to say things we don’t like to hear?” (HAW Chapter 14)* Respect* Open minded* Trust* A right to have a say* Speaking up* Saying what I feel* Letting go of my certainty that I am right!* My opinion does matter, but it is mine alone.* Am I speaking my opinion or trying to control others? “If we keep saying the same thing again and again, instead of saying it once and letting it go, we are probably attempting to control.” (How Al-Anon Works, Concept 5)* How do we use this concept in our group conscience meetings?* Slogans:* Listen and Learn* Keep an Open Mind* Think* “You may be right” (it *should* be a slogan!)* WAIT – “Why am I talking?” – pause!* The orange story – fully understanding each others’ needs can lead to a better solution.* Topics from Reaching for Personal Freedom* I have a voice* Finding the courage to speak* Learning to speak honestly* Seeing from a different angle* Understanding another point of view* The right to be heard















    Readings and Links







    We read from







    Reaching for Personal Freedom







    Upcoming topics







    We are interested in your sharing on two topics







    * Being a man in Al-Anon.* Being a dual member (also known as “double winner.”)







    How do you use your recovery tools and principles in your daily life? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecovery.show with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.















    Music from the Show











    John Mayer – Say











    Sarah McLachlan – Find Your Voice











    Pink Floyd – Comfortably Numb

    • 1 hr 36 min
    Bill W with Lois W, Ebby T, Sister Ignatius and Mort J — 312

    Bill W with Lois W, Ebby T, Sister Ignatius and Mort J — 312

    I'm pleased to share this recording of Bill Wilson, co-founder of AA, speaking at the AA International Convention in Long Beach, CA, in 1960. The recording includes brief remarks by Lois Wilson, co-founder of Al-Anon; Ebby T, who introduced Bill to the Oxford groups; and Sister Ignatia, an early supporter of AA, who cared for thousands of alcoholics in Akron, Ohio. He is followed by Mort J, who established the first public AA meeting in Los Angeles.







    I have tried to clean up the recording as best I can, but it is still difficult to follow in spots. The event must have been outside, because you will hear an occasional airplane flying over.







    Links and resources







    A listener mentioned looking for an ACA phone meeting, which can be found on the ACA website.







    Upcoming topics







    Next week, Eric and I will be discussing Concept 5, “The rights of appeal and petition protect minorities and insure that they be heard.” Eric recently participated in a meeting studying this concept and was inspired by the depth of sharing. What might this concept mean in your daily living? In your interaction with others? In your family or work?







    We are also interested in your sharing on two topics







    * Being a man in Al-Anon. * Being a “double winner.”







    Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecovery.show with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

    • 1 hr 47 min
    Holiday Toolkit – 311

    Holiday Toolkit – 311

    What’s in your holiday toolkit? Do you dread spending holidays with family? What tools have you found to make the experience tolerable or even joyful?







    * (Realistic) expectations.* Recognize when you are feeling stressed (HALTS?)* Escape plans.* Literature.* Locate and plan to attend meetings if you will be out of your usual area.* Phone list.* Arrange with sponsor or friends to call them.* Don’t stay with your family — have a refuge you can go back to.* Sit at the kids table.* Don’t engage in arguments. (WAIT — Why am I talking?)* (No) expectations.* Keep your recovery routines, such as prayer and meditation.















    Readings and Links







    Al-Anon e-books can are available. Visit the Al-Anon store for details.







    A caller described several resources for visually impaired or blind people. These are







    * BARD, a free app available from the Library of Congress .* Voice Dream Reader, $20, downloads and reads websites.* iPhone has a service called “voice over” that can read books purchased for iBooks.* BookShare is a subscription service that has many audio books.* And, of course, there is the Audible audio books subscription service.







    Upcoming topics







    A couple of topics suggested by listeners are “Men in Al-Anon”, and “Double winnersPlease call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecovery.show with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.















    Music from the Show











    The Ramones – We're a Happy Family











    Joan Baez and Jeffrey Shurtleff – One Day at a Time (Live at Woodstock)











    Bing Crosby – I'll Be Home For Christmas

    • 1 hr 4 min
    Your voices — 310

    Your voices — 310

    This episode is created by your voices, both written and recorded.







    * Sam asks why some members shy away from service, while she finds it a vital part of her recovery.* Penelope and Jessica found value in Episode 308, Program Tools.* Natalie asks for some experience, strength, and hope, living with active alcoholism while maintaining a healthy relationship. Ann has similar questions, including how to keep the children safe, and what does detaching with love look like?* Sarah talks about the slogan “little by slow,” which I was not familiar with, and how it reminds her that recovery takes time.* A listener asked about the missing download link, which I have restored. It now looks like a little cloud with a downward pointing arrow.* Amy asks about Al-Anon e-books. There are 5 books currently available, and I hope that Al-Anon will add more. They are available via the Al-Anon website store.* How Al-Anon Works* Courage to Change* Having had a Spiritual Awakening* The Forum (monthly magazine)* Alateen—Hope for Children of Alcoholics* Free versions of the AA Big Book are available for Apple and Android.* Christa reminds us that “This too shall pass” also applies to the good things, which encourages her to enjoy every moment.* Alina shares her experience using the Serenity Prayer in daily life.







    My thanks to all of you for helping me to create this episode.







    Upcoming topics







    A listener suggested the topic “Men in Al-Anon”. I'd particularly like to hear your experience as a man in Al-Anon recovery.







    I am also preparing an episode tentatively titled “Holiday Toolkit”, and I'm looking to you to contribute the tools that you use to survive, or ideally, enjoy the holidays.







    Please call us at 734-707-8795 or email feedback@therecovery.show with your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

    • 31 min

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