Life Check Yourself Marni Battista

Marni welcomes Shelley Paxton to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses how to listen to yourself and navigate towards what your soul truly wants. Shelley is an author, a speaker and a change-maker. She helps people redefine their success. In this episode, Marni and Shelley talk about how to get out of something that makes you miserable. With the daily grind of life, and the pressure thrown at you from every direction, sometimes it’s easier to just continue on the conventional track, to stick to the initial plan. And it ends up slowly eating at you, at your soul.
*         How to take it one step at a time
*         Don’t wait out your pain
*         How to live your truth
 
Is it time for a sabbatical? [00:40]
 
It’s a sabbatical in the large sense of the term, almost like a rebirth. When it seems like your current life, whether that’s a job or otherwise, is dragging you down, where everything requires this magnanimous effort, it’s time for a sabbatical. It’s not a vacation, it’s a journey to reconnect with yourself and your soul.
I’m going to be the sole chief officer of my own damn life. And that was the beginning.
 
S is for Shackles [53:20]
 
In Shelley's Soul Framework, the S stands for shedding the shackles you should. And what that means is breaking free from the narratives, and the “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” that you’ve told yourself define you. It’s becoming aware of the narratives that you’ve built around your identity, that are influenced by culture, society, upbringing, expectations…and the list goes on. 
Whatever it is, we have these should, and these narratives. They come from this place of guilt, people pleasing and these cultural narratives that have been drilled into us. Especially for women, for a very, very long time.
 
 
It’s Value Over Validation [01:01]
 
It’s important to prioritize your own values over seeking external validation. Focus on what truly matters to you at your core.
All these boxes of traditional success, that I was ticking, they were all external validation. They were all outside of me.
 
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Marni welcomes Dr. Harry Cohen to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves into the practice of nurturing traits that make people naturally gravitate towards you. What are these virtues that attract people? Harry is an author, having most recently published the book, “ Be the Sun, Not the Salt''. In this episode, Marni and Harry discuss how to forgive your mistakes and move forward while practicing the authentic virtues that will bring out the best version of yourself and those around you. Are you ready to be the change you wish to see in the world?
 
*         How to embody virtuous behavior
*         Learn from history’s greats
*         How to practice apologizing well
 
How to Level up [13:41]
 
Seek out and learn from people who exemplify the highest virtues and achievements. By understanding these positive energizers, you absorb their wisdom and integrate those practices into your own life.
 
Those are exemplars. Those are the people who we intuitively and naturally are drawn to and want to be around. 
 
Knowledge Isn’t Doing [20:01]
 
Knowledge isn’t enough; it’s the application of that knowledge that matters. Act on the wisdom you acquired by performing brave and kind deeds.
 
The Learning is by doing. You want to be brave, act bravely. That’s Aristotle. Send the text, make the call, pick up the phone.
 
Simplicity and Consistency [28:25]
 
Consistency is inevitable for any kind of improvement in any aspect in our lives. Small, consistent actions can lead to significant improvements in our lives and relationships. It is by consistently practicing a certain behavior that they eventually become habits.
 
You just practice. You step in it and then you go clean it off after you step in it. You have to make the error and then do the next right thing. That’s part of it.
 
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Marni welcomes Susan Gulyas to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses the limiting beliefs that hold us back in our life. Susan, a longtime client of Marni’s, is a successful career woman who works as a senior manager in engineering at Boeing. For this episode, they delve into what it means to explore unhealthy patterns and to shift your energy to attract what you want.
 
*         How to shape your beliefs
*         What energy are you putting out into the world?
*         Communicating with Integrity
 
Confront Your Limiting Beliefs [06:48]
 
We all have stories that we tell ourselves. But sometimes, these stories stem from negative beliefs that have been ingrained in us. Take a moment to reflect on your beliefs about yourself. Are there any limiting ones holding you back?
 
I believed that I was too old to get married. I believed there was nobody out there for me. And I was not picking well, I was not picking well at all.
 
Self-Forgiveness Isn’t Just a Buzzword [19:04]
 
By challenging past shame and embracing your inherent worthiness, you lay the foundation for attracting healthy and loving relationships into your life. This underscores the importance of practicing self-compassion and embracing our imperfections. By forgiving ourselves for past mistakes and embracing our unique qualities, we can cultivate a deep sense of self-love that radiates outward and attracts love from others.
 
Until you forgive yourself and really heal that with yourself before you even forgive others, it’s really hard to let someone truly love you.
 
 
Be in Your Feminine [41:23]
 
The subtle nuances of communication in conveying feminine energy are transformative. Understanding how to express kindness, softness, and receptivity in interactions with men without compromising your authenticity empowers you to create meaningful connections.
 
You’re not compromising who you are, you’re communicating something in a different way. That’s going to get you a different result ultimately.
 
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Marni welcomes Junnie Moon to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves into the hidden aspects of ourselves that we often suppress and that influence our behavior and relationships. We suppress these parts of ourselves without even realizing it. Junnie is the CEO of Midlife Love Out Loud. She’s an author, a global love mentor and a certified shadow work practitioner. In this episode, Marni and Junnie discuss what shadow work actually is and how through working on yourself you can find empowerment and authenticity.
 
*         What is shadow work?
*         What are your triggers telling you?
*         How to cultivate self-compassion
 
Are You Self-Sabotaging? [03:33]
 
We all have blind spots. And these blind spots can show up in several ways including self-sabotage. And these come as a result of not being aligned with our highest and best self.
 
When we talk about our personalities and how we're showing up in the world, the shadow is a part of us that we want to hide. There's a part of us that maybe we feel bad about.
 
How Do You Spot the Shadows? [08:38]
 
Just look around you. Notice the people or traits that trigger strong reactions in you. Maybe it's the overly confident colleague or the friend who always seems to have it all together. These reactions are like little red flags pointing you toward your own shadows.
 
There’s a part of us that we’re denying where we’re going. I better not be like that.
 
Acknowledge the Cart Before the Horse [19:29]
 
Before diving into the world of online dating or seeking a partner, take some time to unpack your own baggage. This doesn't mean waiting until you're perfect or fully healed, but rather acknowledging and understanding yourself better.
 
When we are unpacking and coming home to the truth of who we are, not by what our beliefs are, not by what we have been taught, we can see things differently.
 
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Marni welcomes Ciicii to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo discusses how to break free from co-dependency and find your own identity. Ciicii is the host of podcast That Bitch Positive. She is a life and energy coach who has millions of followers as well as a singer-songwriter who has a book that came out yesterday with the title “Show Up As Her”. For this episode, Marni and Ciicii discuss the importance of owning your power and becoming the person you’re meant to be. And it starts by letting go of all the external triggers that may be holding you back and taking responsibility for your own feelings.
 
*         How to let go
*         What is co-dependency?
*         How to break free from co-dependency
 
Positive Bitchology  [07:48]
 
No, it’s not a cocktail. Positive Bitchology is being a babe in true connection with herself. It’s all about finding your way back to who you really are. And you do it by letting go of external triggers, whether that’s a boyfriend or a job.  
 
Step into who you came here to be.
 
Are You Ghosting Yourself? [15:30]
 
Pay attention to how you’re treating yourself. Are you ghosting your needs? Your desires? Your vulnerabilities? When you neglect your own needs, they are more likely to be ghosted or overlooked by others as well. It’s vital to speak up.
 
I think as women especially, we don’t want to feel needy when we speak for what it is we need. And that’s not being needy. That’s putting yourself on the pedestal.
 
Taking Ownership of Your Identity [20:04]
 
When we’re co-dependent on another person, it’s like seeing ourselves through their eyes, from their viewpoint, instead of seeing ourselves as full individuals in our own right. We need to be able to carve out space for our own identity and our true essence.
 
I see this from an energetic point of view, where, whenever there’s codependency, there’s some blockage or dysfunction with our sacral chakra.
 
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Marni welcomes Bobby Frank to the Life Check Yourself studio where the duo delves in the dynamics of a lasting relationship. Bobby who has been married for 31 years is currently working on his book, "The Unimpeachable Wife: Developing a Million Dollar Bank Account and a Million Dollar Family."
For this episode, Marni and Bobby discuss the secrets to success and longevity within a relationship.  Self-reflection, authenticity and personal growth are all part of it. When each person focuses on themselves first, it creates a solid foundation for a successful partnership.
 
*         How to introspect
*         What are the ABC’s of marriage?
*         How to be Honest
 
We Need to Talk About Us [04:33]
 
Don’t focus on the wrong end of the spectrum of marriage or a relationship. The key is to focus on what you both need and want, rather than only prioritizing on your partner.
 
Don’t violate other principles just because you think something is correct
 
Honesty Really is The Best Policy [13:14]
 
It’s been said over and over again because it’s true. Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. Stop saying the things you think your partner wants to hear and start saying how you feel. 
 
That’s how you develop a friendship as well.
 
The Unspoken Conversation [20:56]
 
What are the ABCs of marriage? It is knowing that your partner will not trade you in for the newer model, it is knowing that they will love you even in sickness. It is the important questions that keep you together in the long turn.
 
And c is, can you love me with cancer?
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