Podcast on Crimes Against Women Conference on Crimes Against Women

Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a New York Times bestselling author and the world's foremost expert on narcissism, joins us for an eye opening and candid conversation about narcissism and how to heal from the trauma it causes. Relying heavily on Dr. Ramani's latest book, "It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People," we peel away the layers of confusion for victims ensnared by charismatic abusers, illuminate the societal shadows where these predators lurk, and chart a course for survivors toward understanding and healing. The episode also clarifies what it means to experience gaslighting, the distinctions between everyday narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and provides a compass for distinguishing between these complex behaviors and their profound effects on intimate relationships. Together, we underscore the power of radical acceptance in the healing process and advocate for the strength found in community and survivorship. This empowering dialogue will not only educate but also extend a lifeline to those seeking clarity and solid ground.

Dr. Georges C. Benjamin, Executive Director of the American Public Health Association, joins us for an urgent discussion about the far-reaching effects of domestic and sexual abuse that threatens not only individuals but also the fabric of society itself. Our conversation traverses the vast landscape of public health, from the quality of the air we breathe to the unseen threats like domestic violence that lurk in the shadows. Dr. Benjamin's passion for making healthy choices accessible to all is a clarion call for change in the way we approach community safety and individual well-being.

In this episode we dissect the critical role public health plays in our daily lives, especially amidst crises like the COVID-19 pandemic. With Dr. Benjamin's guidance, we navigate the day-to-day victories achieved through public health initiatives, from clean drinking water to safer roads and effective immunization campaigns. Likewise this episode peels back the layers of our health systems, revealing the intricate network that strives to maintain our collective well-being and the importance of collaboration across various sectors to tackle public health emergencies head on.

Finally, we cast an unflinching eye on the unique challenges that underserved populations face when confronting domestic violence. Dr. Benjamin spotlights the American Public Health Association's dedication to inclusive health initiatives and their tireless efforts to prevent violence before it begins. Together, we explore the necessity of building trust and resilience within marginalized communities and the imperative to create a healthier, safer nation for every individual. This is a powerful call to action, urging us to recognize and respond to the public health crisis of domestic violence with the urgency and compassion it demands.

When the right to make decisions about one's body is wrestled away by an intimate partner, the shadows of domestic violence become even darker. Marium Durrani from the National Domestic Violence Hotline joins us to illuminate the often-overlooked issue of reproductive coercion and share the hotline's journey since its 1996 inception, including its response to over 6.8 million pleas for help. Amidst the complexities of this subtle abuse, we underscore the survivor's inherent right to self-determination, especially concerning their reproductive health, and the lifesaving importance of recognizing these manipulative tactics.

Survivor stories are more than just tales; they are stark reminders of the reality many face when trapped in relationships marred by reproductive coercion. As we hear these personal accounts, we confront the chilling effects of this abuse—from forced pregnancies to the psychological warfare of threats and societal pressures to remain silent. We dissect the abusive mindset that views reproductive control as a weapon, and discuss strategies to empower and protect those caught in such daunting circumstances.

Through the National Domestic Violence Hotline's user-friendly website and comprehensive services, we show that help is within reach for those facing domestic violence. Each story, each call for help, is a building block towards a future where violence and coercion have no place, and the hotline is at the forefront of this transformative mission.

Joining forces with Sergeant Michael Wilmore-Crumrine, we venture into the complex terrain of gender-based violence and the unique struggles within the LGBTQI+ community. With Sgt. Wilmore-Crumrine's background in law enforcement and his drive for advocacy, our conversation peels back layers on the societal factors that fuel such violence, and how those most vulnerable are often unfairly blamed. His own path to policing, marked by a dedication to standing up to bullies and seeking justice, sets the stage as we explore the inception of the Lesbian and Gay Peace Officers Association in Austin, Texas, and its vital role in creating a more inclusive and secure environment for everyone.

The heartbeat of this episode thrums with the theme of inclusivity, particularly within the echelons of law enforcement. We confront the reality of biases—be it homophobia or transphobia—that can erode the very foundation of trust communities have in their police force. Sgt. Wilmore-Crumrine illuminates the intersectional challenges that compound the experiences of LGBTQI+ individuals, especially when they intersect with other marginalized identities. He advocates for rigorous training and the establishment of national standards that promise equal protection and respect for each citizen, no matter their background.

Capping off our enlightening discussion, we tackle the pivotal role of expert witnesses in LGBTQI+ cases, and how their expertise on trauma and victim behavior is indispensable in the courtroom. Sgt. Wilmore-Crumrine shares a compelling narrative of a case involving a male serial rapist, highlighting the systemic obstacles faced by victims from marginalized groups. 

As Detective Kelly Downey unravels the haunting narrative of "Christine," a woman ensnared by her spouse through her car's GPS, we confront the sobering reality of tech-enabled abuse. Our discussion with digital safety expert Adam Dodge ventures beyond physical violence to expose the psychological and technological warfare waged in abusive relationships. This episode strips bare the complexities of car stalking and the severe implications for victims' safety, questioning the accountability of car companies and the effectiveness of current legislation in protecting those at risk.

Peeling back the layers of vehicle tracking apps, we reveal the unsettling truth about modern stalking tactics, where abusers exploit the very tools meant to provide convenience and security. Our conversation takes a critical look at the automotive industry's privacy practices, or lack thereof, and the obstacles law enforcement face when seeking cooperation from tech giants. We spotlight the bold steps necessary to safeguard personal privacy in an era where technology can be both an ally and an adversary.

In response to the pervasive threat of digital harassment, we share innovative strategies and resources that offer victims a lifeline. Encrypted messaging and vigilant digital hygiene become shields against abusers, while legislative strides in phone number portability present a beacon of hope. 

Confronting the shadows of abuse and the resilience of the human spirit, author Rachel Louise Snyder joins us for an unsettling yet vital conversation in our latest episode. With her raw and deeply personal memoir, "Women we Buried, Women we Burned," Rachel doesn't just recount her own experiences with abuse and addiction, but illuminates the pernicious societal structures that sustain violence against women and children. We traverse the often-misunderstood dynamics of familial abuse, the failures of legal and support systems to grasp the full picture, and the complexities involved in ending abuse without severing the ties that bind.

The dialogue takes a turn into darker territories as we explore the devastating realm of child abuse within religious institutions and the tumultuous landscape of foster care, sharing insights from her own life-changing stint in Cambodia. These experiences unearth a profound understanding of abuse and trauma that transcends cultures and borders. As Rachel's narrative gains traction with the possibility of adaptation for a Netflix series, we underscore the increasing need for these critical stories to be shared and recognized in mainstream media, paving the way for change and awareness.

Wrapping up the episode, we pause to acknowledge the healing power of books, and the beacon of hope they represent for those in the throes of overcoming abuse. The upcoming 2024 Conference on Crimes Against Women stands as a testament to this commitment, promising to shine a light on these issues and foster a community of support and understanding. Join us for this profound discussion, where stories of adversity are met with unyielding hope, and the conviction that conversations like these can truly make a difference.