Pretty Girl Problem No. 1: UgLY?‪?‬ Honey & Hot Sauce

Today starts the series Pretty Girl Problems. What are they, you ask? They are the issues that women deal with simply because they are considered, by most standards, to be attractive. Now, the first disclaimer that I want to make right here, right now, before the cancel police try to come and say I’m discriminating, is that I’m going by my own personal experiences (yes I’m pretty, and it’s okay to know that) I’m going by the experiences of my friends, who are also pretty, and I’m going by events from celebrities that people label as attractive, etc. I’m not saying that “unattractive” women don’t deal with these things, but my overall point is that when it is understood that a woman is attractive, which is subjective, there has been a link between it and unfair treatment. There has been a link between it and a quest to take away her self confidence in some way. There are tons of stories about the underdog being treated unfairly, but because of this, society has created an idea that because you are pretty, your life must be easy, and that’s not true. Many girls grow up thinking they are not pretty, simply because they are, so at the end of the day, it’s about your view of yourself. So I want to expose these things, and hopefully bring enough awareness to them so that we can fix it and there will be no more pretty girl problems.

This brings me to Pretty Girl Problem No. 1: Being Told You are Ugly, Simply Because You Are Pretty.

Why is that even a thing? And I mean it starts early, in childhood. Why are grownups feeling the need to tell a young girl that she’s not cute, or that she’s straight up ugly? And why is it considered an appropriate joke to tell a kid? I *know someone who literally broke up with a guy because he had to make it a point to tell her daughter, who is beautiful by the way, that she was a “lil ugly butt.” To him, it was not serious, but she was 4 years old and still learning about herself. And when the mother addressed it and asked him not to do it again, ofc he did it again, I guess to prove a point. she had to make decisions to protect her and she dipped. But she is not the only child who has been told she was ugly for no reason. People do it all the time. That in no way means it should be acceptable though. Jealous kids tell each other that because kids are just mean in general. And as they grow up, teenagers tell each other that. Then when we become adults, we body shame each other. It’s all the same thing—a need to bring a person “down a notch” if they are “too confident” or just looking like they are enjoying life. Why is it necessary? Why are you worried about telling someone else whether they are accepted by you or not? Why should they even care?

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not trying to say that a pretty girl should be able to use her image as a weapon to hurt another person. I am in no way endorsing bullying; what I am doing is exposing reverse-bullying. You know, calling someone a “Plastic,” and stuff like that. Just let people live their lives, and you do what you are happy doing. If you are happy doing your hair and makeup every day, then do that. If you like to wear heels every day, then do that. If you like to dress up, then do that, and don’t let someone tell you you are doing too much. Be team too much and wear it proudly. And if you are not team too much, stop turning your nose up at a girl who is or who wants to look and smell her best, or present herself in a way that makes her happy because she isn’t a tomboy. If she wants to sparkle, let her sparkle.

A person’s attitude, the way they treat people; those things can make a person ugly, but there is beauty in literally everyone. Am I being dismissive? Idk. But I hope I made someone think about this. Thanks for listening.