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Pretty Girl Problem No. 4: Reverse Bullying??? Honey & Hot Sauce
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- Diari
Hi guys! Thank you all so much for tuning in to the Honey & Hot Sauce Podcast, a place where my friends and I talk about life, dreams, work and relationships. I incorporate honey and hot sauce into my outlook on everyday endeavors. Some sweet, some spicy. Some things need to be said, and some things are just enjoyable. I am your host Chiara. I’m sheltered, but I got a lot to say, and I’m so happy you’re here.
We are still on the topic of Pretty Girl Problems, and you may have noticed that Pretty Girl Problem No. 3 was actually high-jacked, and I made it to be about colorism instead of today’s topic. So today’s topic is Pretty Girl Problem No. 4: Reverse Bullying, Just Because You are Pretty. Exhibit A: Elle Woods, ahem, and myself, and my sister Danielle. Like, I’m already sensitive as it is, I don’t need people trying to come for me based on how I look. I said before, in Pretty Girl Problem No. 1 that I know I’m pretty, and I stand by that, but what I don’t like is when people act like I am automatically dumb, mean, or a slut because of it.
In the movies Legally Blonde 1 and 2, Elle Woods constantly dealt with people assuming she was dumb and mean, simply because she was pretty and lived in her pretty girl energy. She obviously wasn’t the only pretty girl in the movies, but she was the one who embraced it, with vibrantly-colored clothing, French manicures, and sparkles. And I totally understand the stigma of the mean “popular girl.” It is very real, and it has affected many people in their youth, including myself. However, don’t assume that because a woman looks similar to the one who hurt you, that she is the one who hurt you. She is not, and she probably has no idea that you are walking around holding grudges from high school.
While we’re talking about high school, I remember in high school that I was part of the school’s newspaper. It was not exactly one of the clubs that many “popular” kids were a part of. There were a lot of IB students—International Baccalaureate, aka uber smart kids.
The IB kids had a stigma, that they were really smart but not necessarily sexy. Meanwhile, I’m a new kid who came straight out of homeschool and was not as popular as I might have looked. I distinctly remember one of the IB girls assuming I was going to be mean to her, so she felt the need to beat me to the punch by trying to insult my intelligence and just being overall RUDE for no reason. When I brushed it off and showed her, nicely, that I knew what I was talking, about, she shut right up and left me alone. Side note: I was a beast in journalism to the point that the teacher always asked me if I was plagiarizing …pshhh, noooo Ms. McMillian, it was straight off the dome every time!
Also, apparently when there is more than one pretty girl in the room, people subconsciously feel like they have to compete. Like literally, I’ve seen girls get excommunicated from a group of friends just because she was getting in shape or because some guy had a crush on her, that apparently another girl in the group had a crush on. It’s not anyone’s fault, but everyone wants to blame the girl who is embracing her pretty girl energy.
I’ve seen friends get sabotaged. I knew a girl who was having a party and she told one of our other friends that it was a pajama party, but it wasn’t. It turned out to be a very Legally Blonde moment; the one where Elle was invited to a party and they told her it was a costume party and she came in the bunny costume. My friend came in footie pajamas and it wasn’t even a pajama party. Because the other friend told her it was. There was literally no reason to do that.
It’s crazy that people will assume you to be a threat, even when you are not thinking about them in that way at all. Just because the dude I like likes you, now I hate you. It’s not our fault! Get your man, sis!
Hi guys! Thank you all so much for tuning in to the Honey & Hot Sauce Podcast, a place where my friends and I talk about life, dreams, work and relationships. I incorporate honey and hot sauce into my outlook on everyday endeavors. Some sweet, some spicy. Some things need to be said, and some things are just enjoyable. I am your host Chiara. I’m sheltered, but I got a lot to say, and I’m so happy you’re here.
We are still on the topic of Pretty Girl Problems, and you may have noticed that Pretty Girl Problem No. 3 was actually high-jacked, and I made it to be about colorism instead of today’s topic. So today’s topic is Pretty Girl Problem No. 4: Reverse Bullying, Just Because You are Pretty. Exhibit A: Elle Woods, ahem, and myself, and my sister Danielle. Like, I’m already sensitive as it is, I don’t need people trying to come for me based on how I look. I said before, in Pretty Girl Problem No. 1 that I know I’m pretty, and I stand by that, but what I don’t like is when people act like I am automatically dumb, mean, or a slut because of it.
In the movies Legally Blonde 1 and 2, Elle Woods constantly dealt with people assuming she was dumb and mean, simply because she was pretty and lived in her pretty girl energy. She obviously wasn’t the only pretty girl in the movies, but she was the one who embraced it, with vibrantly-colored clothing, French manicures, and sparkles. And I totally understand the stigma of the mean “popular girl.” It is very real, and it has affected many people in their youth, including myself. However, don’t assume that because a woman looks similar to the one who hurt you, that she is the one who hurt you. She is not, and she probably has no idea that you are walking around holding grudges from high school.
While we’re talking about high school, I remember in high school that I was part of the school’s newspaper. It was not exactly one of the clubs that many “popular” kids were a part of. There were a lot of IB students—International Baccalaureate, aka uber smart kids.
The IB kids had a stigma, that they were really smart but not necessarily sexy. Meanwhile, I’m a new kid who came straight out of homeschool and was not as popular as I might have looked. I distinctly remember one of the IB girls assuming I was going to be mean to her, so she felt the need to beat me to the punch by trying to insult my intelligence and just being overall RUDE for no reason. When I brushed it off and showed her, nicely, that I knew what I was talking, about, she shut right up and left me alone. Side note: I was a beast in journalism to the point that the teacher always asked me if I was plagiarizing …pshhh, noooo Ms. McMillian, it was straight off the dome every time!
Also, apparently when there is more than one pretty girl in the room, people subconsciously feel like they have to compete. Like literally, I’ve seen girls get excommunicated from a group of friends just because she was getting in shape or because some guy had a crush on her, that apparently another girl in the group had a crush on. It’s not anyone’s fault, but everyone wants to blame the girl who is embracing her pretty girl energy.
I’ve seen friends get sabotaged. I knew a girl who was having a party and she told one of our other friends that it was a pajama party, but it wasn’t. It turned out to be a very Legally Blonde moment; the one where Elle was invited to a party and they told her it was a costume party and she came in the bunny costume. My friend came in footie pajamas and it wasn’t even a pajama party. Because the other friend told her it was. There was literally no reason to do that.
It’s crazy that people will assume you to be a threat, even when you are not thinking about them in that way at all. Just because the dude I like likes you, now I hate you. It’s not our fault! Get your man, sis!
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