How to Use Science to Understand Love With Dr. Fred Nour Knowledge For Men Archives

Born in Egypt, Dr. Nour left Cairo in 1977 after graduating in the top of his class at the Medical School of Cairo University. Looking for the freedom to study medical subjects of interest to him in the U.S., he made his way to London but got caught in three year immigration process.
After many years of private Neurology practice in the Midwest and due only to an allergy to Canadian Geese, which flourish in large populations there, Dr. Nour moved to Southern California. Happily married with two daughters in college, he is now semi-retired. He is an accomplished painting artist, videographer, photographer and a graphic designer.
He enjoys opera, sailing, tennis, bicycling, and learning about other cultures through travel, all while still enjoying helping patients with complex neurological disorders.
Favorite Success Quote “With persistence, you can achieve anything your heart desires.”
Key Points 1. “Love” is a Scientific Series of Processes that Occur in Four Distinct Phases
1. Mate Choice
The first phase of love is mate choice. At it’s most basic level, this is the process of meeting someone and (subconsciously) deciding that they are a good match for you and your potential offspring on a genetic level. This phase happens almost instantly.
2. Falling in Love
The process that Hollywood and pop culture have used and abused. This is the phase in a relationship where the two individuals will feel massive attraction for one another and experience a heightened increase in certain pleasure chemicals. This phase will typically last 1-3 years.
3. Falling Out of Love 
A necessary part of finding true love, the third phase of love is where you effectively experience the proverbial “come down” from the neurochemical high that you experienced during phase two. During this phase of the process, you will begin struggling in your relationship and find your partner less appealing than you did before.  This phase will typically last around a year.
4. True Love
This is where the rubber meets the road. During the final stage of love, “True Love”, you have experienced falling out of love, made a conscious and informed decision that your current partner is right for you, and you now experience a release of a new set of pleasure chemicals that are slower forming but longer lasting, leading to the much desired “Happily ever after”.
2. Falling Out of Love is Essential to True Love
Many people assume that if they are falling out of love with their partner it is a bad thing.
However, they should actually get excited.
Falling out of love is an essential, if not the most essential part of the four phases of true love.
You see, the first two phases of love cause people to experience such an overwhelm of pleasure chemicals being released in the brain that they quite literally cannot see the other person for what they really are.
Thus the phrase “Love is blind”.
However, because your genes are hardwired to help ensure that you are able to survive and procreate with the highest levels of success possible, phase two begins.
During this phase, your genes are working behind the scenes to help you determine whether the person you are with is truly the best match for you in the long run.
If you do not have this phase, you cannot have true love.
Read that again and write it down.
Unless you fall out of love with your partner, you will scientifically never be able to experience true and lasting love. 
This is not an easy reality to stomach, but the knowledge and foresight of what is to come will allow you to make informed decisions about your relationships and truly determine what is best for you in the future.
3. If You Do Not Fall Out of Love with Somebody You Cannot Fall in Love With Someone New
Many men beat themselves up and feel battered down because they are unable to move on after a bad breakup or divorce.
Gentlemen, I have good news for you.
It is not your fault.
Despite what we have been l