The Healing Trauma Podcast Monique Koven

With Mother's Day approaching I'm re-releasing a special episode with psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Arielle Schwartz.

In this episode, Monique Koven and Dr. Arielle Schwartz discuss the complexities of Mother's Day and the impact it can have on individuals with trauma. They explore the range of emotions that can arise, including happiness, sadness, guilt, and shame. They emphasize the importance of self-compassion and attending to the sacred wounds of the past. They also discuss the role of attachment and how our experiences with our mothers shape our sense of self. The conversation highlights the healing potential of acknowledging and validating our feelings and offering love and compassion to ourselves.

Keywords

Mother's Day, trauma, emotions, self-compassion, attachment

Mother's Day can bring up a range of complex emotions for individuals with trauma, including happiness, sadness, guilt, and shame.
It is important to practice self-compassion and attend to the sacred wounds of the past.
Our experiences with our mothers shape our sense of self and can lead to feelings of responsibility and confusion.
Acknowledging and validating our feelings is essential for healing and creating space for self-love and compassion.
Attachment plays a significant role in our relationship with our mothers and our ability to offer love and compassion to ourselves.


The Range of Emotions on Mother's Day
Practicing Self-Compassion and Healing Sacred Wounds


"Mother's Day is approaching, we start to feel this almost as countdown of a complexity of feelings."


"We learn to push down our authentic feelings because somebody else gave us this message that they couldn't handle our feelings."


"What is true for you is welcome here now."

Grateful for Dr. Arielle Schwartz enormous contribution to the work of Trauma Recovery and Healing.

Check out her website for details on her books and resources.https://drarielleschwartz.com/

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This episode is a recent recording from psychologist Dr. Alison Cook's podcast "The Best Of You' where I was a guest.


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'Today’s episode is just so special and so deeply personal. If you’ve experienced trauma, please listen. If you love someone, please listen. Trauma touches so many lives, and it’s so often misunderstood. In today’s episode, Monique Koven, host of The Healing Trauma podcast, shares her powerful story of healing from trauma. There is absolute gold in this episode for everyone."



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In this trauma healing conversation, I am joined with Tricia Lott Williford & Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, authors of the book, You Are Safe Now: A Survivor's Guide to Listening to Your Gut, Healing from Abuse, and Living in Freedom. This conversation is so unique as you will hear from both sides of the Trauma healing journey. Tricia shares from her perspective of feeling stuck in overwhelm & PTSD, and how she was able to slowly move through with the gentle support and guidance of her skilled therapist. Jana shares what it was like working with Tricia and what really helped and supported her through. They talk about the process of untangling the trauma and coming to the understanding of grooming, manipulation and sexual and spiritual abuse by a person of trust.

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You Are Safe Now offers a survivor’s first hand story of abuse in the church, including
an explanation of the nature of abusers and their common tactics; a compassionate, nuanced discussion of trauma responses; research, examples, and statistics to identify abusive dynamics, predation, grooming, and psychological manipulation; and practical tools and resources to facilitate recovery. For survivors of abuse, counselors, therapists, pastors who treat survivors, and those who support survivors in their healing, You Are Safe Now is an indispensable resource.

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Tricia Lott Williford is a writer, blogger, teacher, and co-host of the podcast Let’s Talk Soon with her brother Rob. A prolific writer and ghostwriter, Tricia is the author
of many books. She lives in Colorado with her family. Connect with her and follow
her writing at https://www.tricialottwilliford.com/.

Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, and trained in EMDR, is a seasoned therapist with decades of expertise in counseling victims of trauma, grief, and addiction. Jana has presented internationally as a mental health educator with an emphasis in oncology.
Jana lives in Colorado with her family.

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It was an absolute pleasure to be joined by psychologist Dr. Dan Allender and therapist Cathy Loerzel for an incredible conversation about the journey of healing Trauma. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel are the authors of the book Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling.
They are also the founders of The Allender Center. I really excited to sit down with them after reading the book and participating in story work.
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 Dr. Dan Allender has pioneered a unique therapy centered around his innovative theory and training in transforming betrayal, ambivalence, and powerlessness into faith, hope, and love. He is a professor of counseling psychology at The Seattle School and founder of The Allender Center, speaking on trauma, sexual abuse recovery, love and forgiveness, and intimacy. He’s a popular podcaster on The  Allender Center Podcast and the author of  multiple books, Health the Wondered Heart,The Wounded Heart, The Healing Path, To Be Told and God Loves Sex. Connect with Dr. Allender on Facebook or Instagram The Allender Center 

Cathy Loerzel received her MA in Counseling Psychology in 2007 is the Co-Founder of The Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology and co-author of Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Your True Calling. She has spent the last 15 years developing the theory and methodology of a popular new coaching and therapeutic approach called Story Work that moves people through their past stories of heartache to heal and discover healthier ways of being in the world. 
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On Today's healing conversation you are going to get compassionate validation as well as some understanding around the impact of childhood trauma on the body and the brain. I am joined once again with my friend, Dr. Mark McNear. Mark is a survivor and a therapist that shares openly about the healing journey. I loved our conversation and think you will too. Mark shares his personal journey to help others in theirs in his book, Finding My Words, A Ruthless Commitment To Healing Gently After Trauma.

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To listen or watch the video episode of the extended version of this episode where Mark guides us slowly through some regulating tools that he uses in his own private practice with his clients and uses himself. You can follow along and add them to your own tool box of self care. Regulating Tools are a very important to use as work to support your nervous system to feel more present and grounded.

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