Get Your Life Together, Girl Danielle A. Vann

Most of our suffering and upset come from how tightly we hold onto our perspectives as truths and the emotional, mental, and physical behaviors we cling to that never serve us, such as perfectionism, procrastination, negative self-talk, and avoidance. When we live from a space that prevents us from experiencing our life to the fullest, where we are closed to everything and open to nothing, we keep ourselves in a cycle that pushes against growth and ourselves.
There’s a term for this behavior, and it’s self-sabotage. 
Today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into self-sabotage, what it is, and how it impacts us. Then we will move into a space where we learn to be observers of ourselves and our behaviors so that we may grow, find self-love, rest in inner peace, and fully thrive as the souls we are in our human experience.
So, let’s dive right in.
Key Takeaways
00:00 Introduction
01:59 We’ve all engaged in self-sabotaging behaviors 
04:06 What is self-sabotaging?     
05:18 Behaviors that show up when we are in full sabotaging mode  
06:33 Signs you are self-sabotaging
16:01 Why do people sabotage themselves?  
Episode 71: Limiting Beliefs
19:07 The four areas sabotage causes us the biggest issues  
22:14 The type of sabotage
22:47 The impact of procrastination. Epi 37
24:51 The impact of perfectionism          
25:24 The impact of self-criticism
26:00 The impact of resisting change
27:00 The impact of poor self-care
27:47 How to become the observer
34:40 Emotional scale and the importance when it comes to self-sabotaging
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1200Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!
TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.
Affirming with me:  
It’s time for some radical life ownership! My voice matters. My words matter. My emotions matter.I am the definition of strength built by fire and desire.
I am surrendering and welcoming abundance in a way I’ve never known possible.
I am everything I am because that is who I want to be.Every little piece of my soul matters.
And from now on I will not let one piece of living slip through my fingers because nothing will be lost again.
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1200In this episode of the Get Your Life Together Girl podcast, we are diving into the complex emotions surrounding feelings of invisibility. We all have times were we feel unheard and unseen; it’s a natural experience in life, sadly. But there is always a reason why overlooked and unheard. The discussion includes personal experiences with feeling invisible, the impact it has on self-esteem and confidence, as well as actionable steps to break out of this cycle.
Key Topics Discussed:
The Impact of Feeling Invisible: How being constantly overlooked can erode self-esteem.
Understanding Why You Feel Invisible: Exploring reasons including mental health issues like depression or anxiety.
Childhood Experiences: How they contribute to feelings of invisibility in adulthood.
Shyness vs. Social Anxiety: Understanding how these traits affect visibility in social settings.
Communication is Key: The importance of expressing your desire to be seen and heard.
Practical Tips Shared:
Tune into your feelings through mood journals or meditation practices.
Stop hiding by engaging authentically with those around you.
Communicate openly about your need for inclusion in social activities.
Build healthy relationships based on mutual respect and understanding boundaries.
Takeaways: There's no one-size-fits-all solution to overcoming feelings of invisibility, recognizing its root causes is essential for change. With these tools you can work towards internal validation while actively seeking connections where you feel valued.
Remember that seeking help from professionals like therapists when struggling with deep-seated emotional challenges is always a viable option.
Join us next week as we continue our journey toward reaching your greatest potential!
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Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!
TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.
Affirming with me:  
This is the last moment, day, week, month, and most certainly, the year that I willingly accept anything less than what I deserve. I’m claiming it now and refuse to go back on my word. What I deserve is far greater than what I’ve allowed, and that stops now. From now on, what I create and accept is written by my standards and no one else’s. This is my season of reawakening. This is the season of honoring myself. This is the season that I toss out the limits and unwind my anxious mind. This is the season of me, and there’s not a single person, feeling, event, or thought that is going to get in my way. As of today, I WILL no longer accept anything less than what I deserve!
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Welcome to another enlightening episode of the Get Your Life Together Girl Podcast. Today's episode is a must-listen as we explore the complex world of validation – both internal and external – and how they coexist in our quest for self-acceptance. We all seek validation—to feel accepted and understood. Social media bombards us with ideas of what validation should look like but remember it's both an inner and outer process.
Today we'll explore how validating yourself can reduce dependence on others' opinions. Let’s dive into why both internal and external validation are necessary for a fulfilling life.
Let’s dive right in!
Key Points:
The Need for Validation: We delve into why every person craves validation, the role social media plays in shaping our perceptions of it, and why seeking external affirmation isn't inherently negative.
Two-Step Process: Discover how validation operates on two levels – outer (external) and inner (self-validation). Learn why balancing both is essential to personal growth.
External vs Internal Validation: Danielle breaks down what each type entails, their importance, potential pitfalls, and misconceptions surrounding them.
Self-Validation Challenges: Understand the barriers that prevent us from validating ourselves including limiting beliefs, past traumas, and societal expectations.
Practical Tips & Techniques: Receive actionable advice on how to start affirming yourself through examples of self-validation statements and a four-step process aimed at fostering self-appreciation without over-reliance on others' opinions.
Radical Genuineness: Embrace radical genuineness by accepting all parts of yourself unapologetically; learn to differentiate between feeling an emotion versus being defined by it.
Past Influences on Present Feelings: Gain insight into recognizing when past experiences influence current emotions affecting self-validation efforts.
Why Self-Validation Can Be Hard: Explore reasons behind struggles with self-validation linked to cultural norms or individual upbringing that may hinder relying on one’s judgment.
Remember:
No amount of outside approval will fill you up if there's an absence inside; true fulfillment comes from syncing internal acknowledgment with positive external feedback.
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I also invite you to check out the new 15-day Affirmation Course, where I take you on a journey through how to your brain chemistry and your greatest desires to your benefits. It’s available to start right now!
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Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!
TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.
Affirming with me:  
I deserve to feel my best, and it's now my focus!I deserve the life of my dreams, and I'm taking daily action to create it.I am capable of creating everything I desire without blocks or getting in my own way.I am prepared to take advantage of the opportunities before me, because I deserve to do just that!I will never give up my dreams to make others happy, because I am giving myself permission to be happy!I am focused on me. I love me. I am strong. I am confident. I am grateful for my life.My thoughts are becoming my reality as I say YES to everything I am, have been, and am wildly becoming! From today forward, I am living a life of HELL YES, and I'm doing it for me!
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