12 episodes
Unlocking Conflict Unlocking Conflict
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- Society & Culture
Unlocking Conflict is a podcast all about handling conversations better – in work, at home or in life. We look at the skills that can help us navigate conflict better to reduce stress and build better relationships or get better outcomes. This isn’t just about the big blow outs – it’s about the small things too, like the feedback we want to give, but can’t work out how to say, or the conversation that just never happens. Join our group of mediators, coaches and facilitators to start turning conflict on its head.
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Series update!
A year on from our first episode and we're planning season 2! It will feature new guests, new questions and we'd love to hear from you.
If you've got an idea, a topic, or something you're curious about to do with conflict and difficult conversations, get in touch! (Or anything else you'd like to request).
Email: unlockingconflict@crux.org.uk
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Noise, neighbours and how to approach it
Noise from your neighbours can feel like one of the hardest things to resolve well. We know it’s a bigger issue than normal after months of lockdown, and it can have a huge impact on our wellbeing. But there are small steps you can take to try and improve the situation (or stop it getting worse). This episode covers top questions including :
What can I do about the noise?
What’s likely to make the situation worse?
What if I’ve already fallen out with my neighbour?
What if I don’t want to raise the issue?
Where can I go for help if I don’t want to deal with it on my own?
Episode resources:
Message to send to others with this issue:
Hiya,
I’ve just listened to this podcast about handling issues with your neighbours and I thought of your situation. You can listen to it at the link below for tips on things which might help. The organisations on the programme also offer help and support which you might be interested in.
www.crux.org.uk/podcasts
Hope you find it useful!
Organisations that can support you:
Wandsworth Mediation Service: www.wandsworthmediation.org.uk
Peacewell: www.peacewell.org.uk
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Navigating Christmas and coronavirus well
Christmas looks very different this year, and so do the conversations around who to spend it with. If you’re facing tricky decisions because of coronavirus, on top of the usual Christmas tensions, this is the episode for you!
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Mediation Part 2: how to suggest mediation as a way forward
Part 2 of our mediation special starts off with the practical question of how you might get a mediator, or suggest to someone that mediation might be a helpful way forward. We look at things to bear in mind while doing that, and finally how mediation techniques can help us counteract polarisation.
Where to find a mediator:
Email us at unlockingconflict@crux.org.uk if you have any questions and we can point you in the right direction.
Family mediation: https://www.familymediationcouncil.org.uk/
Civil & commercial mediation: https://civilmediation.org/mediator-search/
Community mediation:
Drop us an email unlockingconflict@crux.org.uk and we can signpost you to local mediation charities in London
Or you can search in your local area,
Or find a mediator on https://civilmediation.org/mediator-search/
If you live in the London boroughs of Wandsworth, Islington or Camden, our community mediation services can help you for free:
Wandsworth: www.wandsworthmediation.co.uk
Camden & Islington: www.crux.org.uk
Help for individuals
The Men's Advice Line offers support for men experiencing domestic violence from a partner, ex-partner or other family members. Call the confidential free helpline on 0808 801 0327, Monday to Friday 9am-5pm.
Women's aid protects women from domestic violence. Call their 24-hour helpline on 0808 2000 247.
You can talk to Childline about anything. Call them for free on 0800 1111 or visit their website.
Relate is an affordable relationship and sex counselling service. 0300 100 1234 -
Mediation Part 1: the power of mediation
In this mediation special, we look at how mediation can help transform seemingly hopeless situations. We hear how from the courts, to the workplace to the street, mediation creates a space where people travel from toxic conflict to relief. And we find out how Stephen, Sharon and Phil discovered mediation themselves.
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Stuck in a loop? How to stop having the same argument again and again
What can we do when we keep having the same issue or argument with someone? We look at how and why arguments repeat themselves, and how to break the cycle, including:
Why timing matters
How powerful changing the conversation is, even when you continue to disagree
Ways to bring clarity and resolution to deeply rooted issues.
NB: You don’t need to do this on your own - sometimes you need support. Look out for our next episode on mediation and conflict coaching for how other people can help in a conflict situation.
Episode links:
If you’re interested, this article covers The Drama Triangle and how you can break out of it if you find yourself in it:
https://www.forbes.com/sites/remyblumenfeld/2018/12/07/how-to-transform-your-relationships-by-getting-creative/