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Do your kids typically favor one parent when it comes to...EVERYTHING?!  "Mom, can you..., Mommy, I need...., Mama, I don't feel good." Sound familiar? Go ask your father! If you can relate, this episode is for you. If you cannot relate, you're in luck, because this episode is for you too.

This is not a discussion about gender roles per se; however, it is interesting how certain responsibilities gravitate to on parent versus the other. How did we get here? Sure, women are naturally more nurturing than me, and men are a little rougher around the edges (typically), but that doesn't seem to solve the mystery. Also, is it fair that women (typically) bear the responsibilities of caring for the children, the husband, and the home? Maybe that's changed too.

We had a meaningful discussion with James & Tonya Johnson about our family dynamics, and the importance of each parent being responsible contributors when it comes to the children. Even with the best of intentions, somehow the children seem to develop a preference for one parent over the other...at least in their younger years. We had fun with the discussion, and, more importantly, we grew. 

Grab your spouse, mate, or anyone that might benefit from this conversation and watch it together. We'll be waiting to discuss your perspectives in the comments. Be blessed, Fam!

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We're losing our primary source of income, and it feels...weird. At least that's the feeling at the time of this recording. Neither of us are overly concerned or overcome by the black cloud of doubt, yet. In a sense, we've been preparing for the next phase, but there's something about knowing the date when that phase technically begins. We also have five children that like to eat all day everyday!

For Derek, the biggest struggle is attaching to a new professional identity. The corporate life has been rewarding, but at some point he got lost in the throws of success. Similarly, Kisha has struggled with a similar professional identity crisis since she became a stay-at-home mom in 2007. That's a long time to carry such a burden, but this commonality will help them find the common ground as they work through the tough conversations ahead. 

Grab your spouse, mate, or anyone that might benefit from this conversation and watch it together. We'll be waiting to discuss your perspectives in the comments. Be blessed, Fam!

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Does your relationship have the keys to a healthy work life balance? Many couples start and end their days with brief, superficial conversations. "Good morning, have a good day," or "how was your day?" Now there's nothing wrong with these questions, but they are often used to check the 'communication' box in the relationship. Most of us spend the majority of our day with people outside of our relationship, or, at least, channeling out attention to others. We don't even notice that the relationship is eroding until it hits a critical point. 

Does it get any easier if you work with or run a business with your spouse? On the one hand, the time away can shield the other from the daily frustrations of the workday. On the other, spending 'too much' time together can be the source of angst and frustration for many. But wait, how can you spend too much time with the one you have chosen to spend your life with (for the married crowd)? How do you manage your career, family, and romance without going nuts?

We had a meaningful discussion with James & Tonya Johnson about the highs and lows of working together, and if 'balance' is even a thing. In its most literal form, balance means that the opposing forces are equal, and nothing is moving. Life typically leans more toward 'what needs attention, gets the attention.' However you define a healthy state, the important thing is for couples to agree on what that looks like, and remain accountable to each other to ensure the boundaries are honored. It's a dance for sure. 

Grab your spouse, mate, or anyone that might benefit from this conversation and watch it together. We'll be waiting to discuss your perspectives in the comments. Be blessed, Fam!

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How should I protect you? By now, most of the world has developed a theory or a perspective of what should (or should not) have happened at the Oscars (2022). The hosts are not here to rehash the incident, but it did get them thinking about what protection looks like in their marriage and family. Kisha doesn't need anyone to speak or act on her behalf, but appreciates the protective quality in Derek as the head of the household. Derek knows that Kisha can handle her own, but when should he step in (if ever)? One interesting fact is that they've never had a conversation about what the expectations are of each other.

Kisha recalls an incident when a perceived friend took a not so friendly tone with her in a group setting. That situation got interesting. Derek tells the story about their oldest son having to "put the paws on" a classmate in self-defense; another interesting story. Neither of them promote violence, but agree that there is a tipping point. Where do you stand on the 'knuck if you buck' continuum? Chime in with your thoughts!

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Welcome to 2022!!!!! Whew ya'll, we made it, and we're updating our married mindset. This shift is so empowering for our relationship and it can definitely enhance yours as well.
We're not really big on making resolutions for the new year, but we are very serious about planning our goals for the new year. We decided to share what we discuss in hopes that it will spark a conversation between you and your partner. What are some habits or behaviors that no longer serve you, therefore are being left behind? What are some goals that you are going to pursue? What has been working for you, both personally and professionally, that you are bringing with you? This was a very positive and helpful exercise in opening the dialogue and speaking your truth. The conversation also helped to point out some of the language we use that could sabotage our progress. The shift in language and action makes all the difference in the world! We hope you enjoy.....Be Blessed Fam!

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Is forgiveness even real?! Does it get easier as the relationship ages? We had to check ourselves in this episode and face some harsh truths about what forgiveness meant to each of us individually and also how we identify with the definition of 'forgiveness' as a couple. It gets pretty obvious early in the conversation that we had differing schools of thought during the first several years of our marriage. On one end of the spectrum, one of us forgave because that was the right thing to do. On the other end, one of us saw forgiveness as a weapon...or a pass to continue ignorant, immature behaviors. The tone of the conversation reflects our growth as a couple. We pray that it gives you hope, because there was a time when we couldn't or wouldn't operate in full transparency primarily to avoid serious conflict or as a way to manipulate a situation. As always, we welcome your thoughts on what forgiveness means to you and the importance it holds in your relationship. Share your thoughts via the related posts published through the social media accounts below or leave a voice note if you really want your voice to be heard. Be blessed, Fam.

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