Judy's Parenting Podcast for New Moms Judy Banfield

"The way you raise your boy now will strongly impact the kind of father they will become."
Have you ever wondered about how your father became the way that he is?
Last week, I had an experience that confirmed with me what I've observed to be true for many years in my work as a parenting coach - parents with young children can't imagine their kids as adults.
The experience I had involved me taking part in an event that brought high school students together with seniors, to talk openly with one another about their respective lives.
The most amazing thing that I heard was that the teenage boys all shared a similar anxiety... "how do I be a man in the world today?" "how do I act around girls in this #MeToo world?"... and much more.
This got me thinking of what it takes for parents of young children to raise healthy boys before they become teens and eventually men.
This week, I decided to record a podcast to share my advice about raising boys to become healthy men and fathers.
~ Judy

Ever wonder how some folks manage their kids and the transition back to school and seem to make it all appear so easy?
How do other parents do it?
Perhaps they took some advice that I share in my interview with Deb Kozak on Kootenay Morning. (on Kootenay Co-op Radio)
It’s always a pleasure for me share my knowledge about what it takes to be a great parent. Listen in and learn how you can manage the stress of back to school with your kids.

I'm sure you've heard the expression "children say the darndest things."
But sometimes they can say the most hurtful things.
I had a couple in the store last week who were distraught because their 3-year-old was lashing out at them.
Lucky for them, I had a really good idea about what caused such behaviour in their little one.
And lucky for you, I recorded my podcast about it this week.
Dealing with a preschooler isn't always easy, so I'm happy to help you understand this issue and share ways to deal with it.
~ Judy
This week's related blogpost offers some developmentally appropriate and proven successful approaches to dealing with hurtful words from a preschooler.Is there anything I can help you understand about your kids? I'd love to hear what you're going through and help others with your situation if I can too.

Remember life before children?
You’d see a child screaming in the supermarket and you said… “I’d never let my child do that!”
Or... or... or!
You probably had a long list of “I’d nevers.”
And then you had a baby.
Try as you might, you probably have ended up doing things that you were sure you never would.
And you're not alone in that. Parenting is hard. It's just plain hard. And that ocean of "parenting misinformation" on the internet isn't helping you feel any more confident in your parenting role, is it?This week on my podcast, I've recorded something that I hope will guide you be a better parent. Some fundamentals that really matter.
~ Judy
PS: Do you know someone who could use some guidance with their parenting? I'm here to help. Send them this podcast or get them to email me... whatever works. 
 
Here is the link to the related blog post. http://www.judybanfield.com/i-swore-id-never-then-i-had-kids/

The issue of “spoiling a child” is obsessive in our culture.
And now, seeing as it’s summer, a lot of people have family visiting.
So even though the weather is lovely, moms have been telling me they are having a tough time being responsive to their own kids because they are getting a lot of flack from their visitors (the in-laws or mom or sisters or dads or whoever).
Things like…
“You pick that child up to much… you’re spoiling them…”
“Don’t pick that baby up every time it cries or you’ll turn them into a spoiled brat..”Ugh.
The idea of “spoiling a baby” is very scary for a lot of parents… they doubt themselves and think “OMG, am I really spoiling my child?”
This week, I recorded a podcast to talk about what “spoiling a child” really means (and to give you some tools to deal with visiting family!)
 

“Don’t be such a momma’s boy.”  “Careful you don’t turn her into a daddy’s girl.”
When it comes to the development of young children, there is such a strong push in our culture to force kids to be independent, even before they’re ready.
Parents are literally expecting their young children to “figure it out” on their own.
It’s like parents believe that having a toddler who is dependent on you is a bad thing.
But what if I told you that your child’s dependence on you is actually important and that it will help them be stable, more secure, and give them the confidence to spread their wings.
This week on my podcast, I talk about the idea of your child’s need for dependence on you as described in the wonderful new book I just read called Discipline Without Damage.