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QUELLING THE FEAR OF REJECTION...especially from narcissistic hijackals‪!‬ Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships

    • Relationships

No one likes to be rejected. It's uncomfortable, painful, and a blow to the self-confidence and self-esteem.
What can you do about it? How do you think it through? It's more difficult in a relationship with a Hijackal, Listen in to understand the dynamics and know what steps to take to quell the fear of rejection. 
if you had a Hijackal parent, you may well have developed a fear of rejection very early in your life. Living with a Hijackal parent or two creates a demand from them that they always have the upper hand and discard you at any moment, for any reason. That taps into a basic fear of being abandoned, and as you get older that can develop into a fear of rejection once you understand language and have a sense of your family dynamics.
Many people strive for perfection in the hopes of meeting the parents' expectations and receiving their validation. Conversely, I think that that striving for perfection is more motivated by a fear of rejection. Unless you address this in your life, you cannot find and live your own personal power. Hijackals will rule your life, even when they are not around, because you have internalized their unrealistic expectations of you. This is SO work thinking through and working through.
Rejection happens. You'll have feelings about it and they may not be pleasant, maybe even painful. You'll live through it. When you liberate yourself from the FEAR of rejection, you set yourself free.
HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
Why the fear of rejection is too common--more common than you thinkHow the fear of rejection is developedHow narcissistis and other Hijackals use fear of rejection as a tool to control youWho is most likely to have a fear of rejectionWhy recognizing a fear of rejection is the beginning of setting yourself free
If you recognize that you have a fear of rejection,  I'm here to help.
Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97
CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.
FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler
LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler
CLUBHOUSE: @drshaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
join my Community Circle now.
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No one likes to be rejected. It's uncomfortable, painful, and a blow to the self-confidence and self-esteem.
What can you do about it? How do you think it through? It's more difficult in a relationship with a Hijackal, Listen in to understand the dynamics and know what steps to take to quell the fear of rejection. 
if you had a Hijackal parent, you may well have developed a fear of rejection very early in your life. Living with a Hijackal parent or two creates a demand from them that they always have the upper hand and discard you at any moment, for any reason. That taps into a basic fear of being abandoned, and as you get older that can develop into a fear of rejection once you understand language and have a sense of your family dynamics.
Many people strive for perfection in the hopes of meeting the parents' expectations and receiving their validation. Conversely, I think that that striving for perfection is more motivated by a fear of rejection. Unless you address this in your life, you cannot find and live your own personal power. Hijackals will rule your life, even when they are not around, because you have internalized their unrealistic expectations of you. This is SO work thinking through and working through.
Rejection happens. You'll have feelings about it and they may not be pleasant, maybe even painful. You'll live through it. When you liberate yourself from the FEAR of rejection, you set yourself free.
HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
Why the fear of rejection is too common--more common than you thinkHow the fear of rejection is developedHow narcissistis and other Hijackals use fear of rejection as a tool to control youWho is most likely to have a fear of rejectionWhy recognizing a fear of rejection is the beginning of setting yourself free
If you recognize that you have a fear of rejection,  I'm here to help.
Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
Want clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97
CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.
FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler
LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler
CLUBHOUSE: @drshaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
-------------------------------------------------------------
I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
join my Community Circle now.
Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls each month!
WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community 
#fearofrejection #perfectiontoavoidrejection #notspeakingup #fearofnotbeinggoodenough #hijackalsuserejection #narcissiststhreatenrejection #threatofrejection #whydoIhaveafearofrejection #tyrannyofrejection #tyrannyofnarcissists
#codependence #enabling #emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered
#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #emotionaltrauma #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #emergingempowered #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stopemotionalgabuse #drshaler #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #antisocialbehavior #lackingempathy #journorequest #prrequest
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