Girls Gone Deep Elle and Vee

This week, Vee and Elle discuss a range of topics with sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa), a sex therapist and host of the podcast In Bed with Alexa. They cover everything from new couples exploring ethical non-monogamy, to being able to relax into receiving oral (especially as a vulva owner), to navigating bisexuality, and so much more, including:

What advice do you have for a couple in which one partner has more experience than the other in non-monogamy?  How can you deal when you’re unsure whether it will work with someone who has no experience with being open? (4:51)


Vulva owners receiving oral: tasting yourself so you’re not worried about how you taste or smell, and the benefit of having a partner who loves natural body odors. (17:07)


Alexa’s secret to relaxing when receiving oral: setting time boundaries! How long do you think it actually takes you to orgasm? Getting over guilt for taking “too long” to orgasm while receiving. (22:49)


Bisexuality and biphobia.  How does biphobia show up in non-monogamous spaces? What is “one penis policy”, and how a male partner dictating that their female partner can be with other women but not other men is problematic. (30:11)

 
The stigma of male-on-male play in swinger spaces and sex parties. Normalizing speaking about bisexuality, especially in men. Watching your male partner give head and deep throating. (34:29) 
 
Alexa’s “specialties”, and the full range of volume in sex - letting go vocally when coming vs holding your breath and being totally silent. (39:20) 
 
Is it weird to announce it when you orgasm? (41:44) 
 
“Challenge your beliefs and question everything.” What do YOU actually want? The path to a greater sex life. (43:42) 
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This week, the girls continue their chat about all things ORAL.
(Listen to 069: Part 1: Techniques, Uncircumcised Blow Jobs and Power Dynamics here.)

What to stop doing in oral sex. (2:38)


Tips for helping with gag reflex. (4:56)


Imbalance of giving head vs eating p***y. (10:14)


Challenges and hangups with oral. (12:45)


Best oral positions in group sex. (17:03)


Grooming and hygiene. (21:03)


Cum: spit or swallow? (27:17)


Cum: where to finish, and how to communicate about it. (29:42)


Ask Dr. Elle: 
Is it bad to give or recieve oral with morning breath? (35:20)How do you give oral with stuffy nose? (40:01)How can whatever is in the giver’s mouth affect my genitals? PH balance, etc. (42:33)Is it ok to give head to an irritated dick? (45:05)How can you get rid of the condom taste? (48:44)Where to find us, and how you can support us:

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It's the oral extravaganza! Vee and Elle chat about all things oral: blow jobs, eating out and all the good and bad along with it. 

Why do you deep throat? (1:53)


Enthusiasm - our number one tip! The importance of moaning to show enthusiasm when receiving. (6:37)


Techniques for giving head: the corkscrew method; communication; ball sucking and licking. (9:49)


Getting comfortable! The best positions to give head and go down on someone. (15:08)


Techniques for licking pussy (cunnilingus, going down on someone, etc): make out with the c**t; build gradual pressure. (19:10)


Eating out: flicking vs sucking the clit; fingering in conjunction with c**t play; in and out vs come hither. (22:34)


Tongue fucking. (25:44)


How do you stop someone if you don’t like what they’re doing? How to be comfortable sitting on someone’s face, and why you might not want really good head in a play situation. (27:21)


Eye contact during oral: yay or nay? (36:03)


What should we stop doing? What makes oral bad? Teeth, smell and bad hygiene, and the importance of tasting your own cum. (40:24)


How to give head (fellatio, blow jobs) to uncircumcised dicks. What do you do with the foreskin? (45:09)


Power dynamics of oral sex: who’s in charge? Face fucking. (47:38)
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In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Sarah Eve about sensation play, including everything from the tools to use, to what questions to ask before a session, to safety considerations (especially when using electroplay), and so much more.

Sarah Eve is an educator and facilitated a mini workshop on sensation play at Daytime Playtime: a Sober Play Party, which Vee recapped in Episode 063.

What is sensation play? How can we stimulate different senses to heighten a sexual experience? It’s not just touch - how to play with scent, sight, taste, and smell, too. (6:58)


What’s in your bag of tools for sensation play? (12:58)


Things to consider: intensity, pressure, speed, direction and location. (18:10)


Setting and negotiating the scene to deliver a great experience: the right questions to ask before engaging in a sensory play scene. (20:50)


TENS unit play and electro play - what to ask beforehand, insertables, using condoms and safety.  (23:47)


What can you do when you don’t have tools at your disposal? Using your mouth: breath, spit, temperature, teeth. (30:17)


Thoughts on numbing or intensifying creams? (39:00)


How long is a good amount of time for a sensation play session? (44:09)


Pain play and floggers. (47:52)


What does sensation play do for couples? De-centering penetrative sex. (49:40)
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In this episode, Vee chats with two couples at Hedonism Swing Breakers about their tools and takeaways for making a vacation at an all-inclusive lifestyle resort a success.  Superslut and The Turk chat about how therapy helped set them up for success, while Josie and Evan share how Evan cutting out alcohol changed their relationship for the better. Additionally, they cover: What are some communication techniques to mitigate the effects of the free-flowing alcohol? Why keep doing it if it's so much work? ...And what are some hot experiences they've had along the way?

First Hedo experience: a big challenge. Going through a polyamorous breakup. (3:55)

Tools from both solo and couples therapy. People pleasing. No "taking one for the team".  (8:42) 

Safety Tool: No record-counting. Setting desires not goals. (12:30)

Safety Tool: Move at the pace of the slowest person. Playing separately vs. playing together. (15:34)

Safety Tool: limiting alcohol consumption to help manage emotions. (17:51)

Safety Tool: Only argue for two minutes. Keep the mindset that you're a team. (19:01)
Spicy story: being a couple's first ENM experience. Enthusiastic consent. (20:01)

Spicy Story: Superslut's first double penetration (DP). (21:31)
Stag and Vixen: what is it? Why a woman might not enjoy watching her partner with someone else. Finding your dynamic through trial and error. Why Hedonism is not the ideal place to figure out what works for you. (22:50)

Drinking and the lifestyle: how drinking affects your ability to respect boundaries and agreements. Getting sober to save your relationship. How stopping drinking can enrich your experience with your partner. Getting used to being at an all-inclusive resort without alcohol. Discovering we are braver than we thought. What do you do with your hands? (28:29)
Why swing? Dressing sexy for your partner. Vaginal hook harnesses. (35:49)

Why be in the open lifestyle? Sense of community. "Hedo people are the best people." Icebreakers. (38:13)

Major takeaway: don’t have a checklist. Release expectations. There’s always next time. (41:01)

Squirting and exhibitionism. (43:20)






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In today’s episode, Elle and Vee bring back two male guest for a GUYS GONE DEEP edition to play WHOREible Life the game.


First up, Zachary Zane @zacharyzane_ :
from Episode 057: Bisexuality with Boyslut Author Zachary Zane: Shameless Sexuality, The Importance of Visibility, and Living Your Best Slutty Life!


Then, The Builder:
from  Episode 012: Guys Gone Deep: The Builder and M on Double Penetration, Short Men, and Friendships in the Lifestyle and mentioned in multiple other episodes! 


Fucking yourself in the ass as a way to warm yourself up and clean yourself out before a play night. (3:20)


Squirt juice facials with a side of hot sweaty squirty sex.  (9:24)


Spitting on your partner and into their mouth. (16:01)


For men, the balance of being forward yet also needing to read the room correctly. (19:45)


Enthusiastic consent in straight play spaces versus opt-out consent in gay spaces. (22:42)


Prostate play and how to have a prostate orgasm. (25:10)


Leaking prostate juices and toys for prostate play: nJoy and anal hook discussed. (29:14) 


Airtight: the benefits of each position. (38:26)


"Running a train". (44:19)
 
Experiences meeting people on ENM or swinger apps. (50:15)


Working through catfishing and making real connections on dating apps. (54:48) 


Where do you meet dates, and what do you do dates with a unicorn or another couple? (59:59)


Full head mask during sex and latex fetish experience. (1:03:03)
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