Tune in to Quiet Messenger if you’re a deep feeler, highly sensitive person (HSP), empath or introvert leader who has something BIG to say. Your host Adria Sophia, shy TEDx Speaker and guide for quiet leaders, will help you tap into the message that moves you, use your voice, embrace intuitive marketing based on your values and integrity, and share your truth clearly and courageously to call in your people and your next level of impact...without needing to change who you are.
Uncover the unique way you show up as a Messenger at MessengerQuiz.com. Follow Adria on Instagram for more around this conversation: instagram.com/iamadriasophia. For full show notes, visit QuietMessengerPodcast.com.
200. Redefining Consistency - 200 Episodes…in Eight Years
Many of us view being consistent and reliable as a badge of honor. It’s natural and inevitable in the productivity culture we live in.
But what if we redefined consistency? What if we recognized that consistency isn’t a rigid thing? That it’s about continuing to show up and giving yourself what you need to do that.
AND what showing up looks like might be fluid. Especially if you’re highly sensitive or neurodivergent and struggle to keep up. That’s what I’ve learned from doing 200 episodes of my podcast...and taking almost 8 years to do it.
In episode 200, we turn the tables and Kat asks me
The #1 thing I’ve learned doing 200 episodes of my podcast What’s changed in the messaging landscape since I started in 2015 The key to continuing to show up & create for 8 years The top 3 episodes downloaded, all-time (I was surprised by this) Uncover your Messenger Archetype & more at AdriaSophia.com.
Connect with Adria.
Connect with Kat.
199. The Highly Sensitive ADHDer - Neurodivergence in Quiet Leaders
This is for you if you’re neurodivergent, suspect you are, love someone who is, or are simply ADHD-curious.
For years, I suspected I was neurodivergent, that my brain worked differently than others. BUT I thought of ADHDers as bold, rash, outspoken and disorganized risk takers with overflowing energy. I, on the other hand, was a careful, shy, sensitive overthinker who ran out of steam by the afternoon.
It didn’t seem possible to match up the view I had of ADHD with how I saw myself as an HSP (highly sensitive person). Until I read about masking.
Kat and I talk about:
Busting the ADHD stereotype with quiet, sensitive women Our own ADHD & HSP stories The impact of being undiagnosed for decades Unconsciously masking, being highly sensitive & our voices Uncover your Messenger Archetype & more at AdriaSophia.com.
Connect with Adria.
Connect with Kat.
Links from the episode:
The Inflow app “A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD” by Sari Solden “The Highly Sensitive Person” by Elaine Aron Jacqueline Sinfield Kat’s ADHD Resources Page
198. Quietly Disrupting and Introverted Activism
Your way is likely not loud. It may not be shouting on a loudspeaker at a protest or posting a polarizing opinion on social media. But that doesn't mean it isn't activism.
In case the word “activism” has you thinking this isn’t for you, let me remind you that as a Quiet Messenger, you’re an activist. You are speaking on behalf of a message that needs to get heard.
The reason you may discount yourself is that most of what we think of as activism is actually pretty extroverted.
Join season co-host Kat Frogosa and I in this conversation on Introverted Activism. Because you CAN quietly show up for your values…and the truth is that introverts can be just as effective and are JUST AS NEEDED as loud, outspoken folks.
Uncover your Messenger Archetype & more at AdriaSophia.com.
Connect with Adria.
Connect with Kat.
Links from the episode:
Speaking to What Matters Series Sarah Corbett’s TEDx “Activism needs introverts” Azalea Moen & Wilder Ones Studio
197. Co-Creating, Body-Doubling & Not Holding Your Work Alone
I'm back! And I'm not alone. (goes hand-in-hand with this episode)
An idea that stuck in my head for months was bringing on a co-host for a season. I knew if I had a friend I was co-creating with, it would be easier to show up. I didn’t realize at the time that I was employing the technique of body doubling.
Enter Kat Frogosa, past client, friend, ADHD Money Coach and fabulous co-host for this season of Quiet Messenger.
Because who says we need to follow the standard business formula that says we each have to build our own things?
Kat and I talk about…
Feeding the desire for community, in an introverted way The power of body doubling to accomplish tasks you’ve been procrastinating on for MONTHS Permission to try differently, not harder (the anthem for Quiet Messengers & neurodivergent folks that don’t think the way the dominant paradigm does) What it means to not hold your business or work alone Uncover your Messenger Archetype & more at AdriaSophia.com.
Links from the episode:
Kat’s Website and Instagram Adria’s Instagram Ashley Looker’s Empowered Sisterhood Sonia Choquette https://soniachoquette.net/
A Persona vs Messaging that Feels Like *You* with Kat Frogosa
Do you ever feel like there’s a certain way you need to sound to be heard online?
An empath with a rebellious streak, Quiet Messenger Kat Frogosa is a natural-born nurturer with major resistance when being told to do things a certain way.
If it doesn’t feel good deep down in her bones, she’s not doing it.
She had seen so many women — especially burned out, overwhelmed empaths — cringe when they heard the word “finances,” and knew that there must be a better way. So she turned her background in finance into work as a Transformational Money Coach.
But even though Kat was getting engagement on social media, her messaging didn’t feel like it truly reflected her. She had come away from past copywriting trainings with catchy copy but confused and unsure what her voice was, feeling scared to be herself — and like she needed to put on a persona and brush up on pop culture to sound “cooler.”
Even when she knew what she wanted to say, she would stare at a google doc for 45 minutes, paralyzed to get it right before putting it out there.
She was holding herself back, not actively seeking clients.
Through joining a cohort of other Quiet Messengers, she began to see her sensitivity and empathic nature as a superpower rather than a weakness. She realized she could impact the lives of other women by teaching them the tools she’d learned to help herself.
She realized that she could be a quiet person AND a disruptor…if she gave herself permission to just be herself. (And let out the bubbly, lots-to-say, magnetic voice of her inner Expressive Messenger Archetype!)
Her confidence in herself as a quiet leader grew, and she found herself no longer holding back. She started showing up more on Instagram, being more consistent with her newsletter, and trying new strategies — like creating a quiz and a meditation — that she would never have tried if she wasn’t feeling so solid in her messaging (and her voice).
This led to discovery calls, being invited to interviews, and new clients…until she was finally ready to go all in with pitching to be on podcasts and revving up her referral system!
Listen in to hear Kat’s story. I bet you’ll relate to a lot!
Kat and I talk about: The exact messaging shifts that made her people really “get” it Why The Disruptor and The Empath are not opposites, and how they can coexist in you The difference between putting on a persona and bringing forward the quiet or rebellious part of yourself that has been suppressed How being rebellious and being in alignment are kinda the same thing Deeper support from me: What’s your Messenger Archetype? Take the quiz. It’s final enrollment for the winter cohort of the Messenger Mastermind! It’s an intimate circle of sensitive, introverted women leaders who like cozy spaces for connection, growth and processing and who want to feel solid, confident & consistent in their messaging so they can grow a movement that matters ~ both to the world and to their business’ bottom line. Kat’s Links Kat’s Instagram @frogosaselitesolutions Kat’s Website Frogosaselitesolutions.com “Letting Go of Money Regret” Meditation
Neurodiversity, ADHD & How “Differences” Connect with Sarah Hennessey
Sarah Hennessey is a Sustainability & Wellness Coach supporting self-identified female misfits who are looking for a sustainable and alternative twist on living a truly healthy life.
As someone who was too shy to speak in school growing up, Sarah spent most of her life definitely not seeing herself as a Messenger. When she started her business as an adult, she felt more comfortable as a virtual assistant behind the scenes of others’ businesses.
Then she felt the pull to step out as a leader and share what she had to say.
She had a background working with kids on the spectrum of autism and a degree in Psychology with a concentration in child development and disability. But the pressure of visibility made her feel the need to hide her own neurodiversity and other differences that she thought would stop clients from hiring her.
The dichotomy of online marketing is the push to differentiate yourself while simultaneously holding a fear of being seen as different. Through joining a supportive group of other Quiet Messengers that didn’t judge her, she realized that what she had to say — and who she was — was of value to people.
She didn’t see any wellness coaches with ADHD, so she made herself her own role model – which led to her first paid coaching client. She created a brilliant niche and discovered her ideal client on a much deeper level and so was finally able to clearly and compellingly connect the threads of her messaging and communicate what she had to say.
Now she’s talking about so many things she had never talked about in public before – like this episode where she speaks publicly about her neurodiversity for the first time.
She’s learned that taking a stand is not about being super aggressive; it can just be confidently saying something meaningful.
Sarah and I talk about: Why sharing her own personal stories – like being the child of teenage parents – creates connection points with potential clients The exciting and terrifying transition from behind-the-scenes Virtual Assistant to using her voice as a Messenger Her assumption that being an expert was about sharing facts, when in reality the posts with the most engagement and connection are the personal posts of her life and stories Where templates are helpful and where to yield to the power of being in relationship A call for embracing neurodiversity — and why the world is a better place when we have all types of brains, perspectives, and folks who view the world in different ways How she’s reclaiming and owning the word “misfit” Deeper support from me: What’s your Messenger Archetype? Take the quiz. It’s final enrollment for the winter cohort of the Messenger Mastermind! It’s an intimate circle of sensitive, introverted women leaders who like cozy spaces for connection, growth and processing and who want to feel solid, confident & consistent in their messaging so they can grow a movement that matters ~ both to the world and to their business’ bottom line. Sarah’s Links Sarah’s Instagram Sarah’s Facebook Group: #BestSelf Women’s Club
I love the diversity of topics discussed in this podcast!
I love the diversity of topics discussed in this podcast! from leadership and business to health and wellness, so interesting to follow.
Great podcaast with quality takeaways
This is a fun podcast to listen to with so many actionable takeaways. Great guidance with high quality content.
I listen every time I’m not sure what to say
Any time I’m feeling a bit shy about my content or I just plain don’t know what to create, I listen to Adria. She has a knack for helping me reconnect with the core of what I’m trying to convey and then she gives practical tips for bringing that out.
She is THE person I turn to when I’m in a messaging rut. And getting clearer on my messaging has made everything (content creation, brand design, what photos I put on my site, EVERYTHING) easier.