ReLearned Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa

Do you believe that your mindset has the power to shape your outcomes and determine your level of success? As Henry Ford once famously said, "Whether you think you can, or you think you can't, you're right." This thought-provoking statement reminds us of the immense impact our mindset has on our lives.
In this episode of the ReLearned podcast, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa explore the significance of adopting a growth mindset for personal and professional development. They discuss how mindset shapes our experiences and the importance of being open to new perspectives. The conversation covers the malleability of mindset, the influence of upbringing, and the role of mindset in leadership and resilience. They emphasize the benefits of curiosity, documentation, sharing, and applying new knowledge. They also discuss finding positive lessons in negative events and conclude the season by encouraging listeners to embrace growth and look forward to future episodes with expert guests. The episode aims to empower listeners on their journey of transformation and growth.

Key Takeaways

Mindset is pivotal in shaping our view of the world and our success.

A growth mindset believes in the development of abilities through effort, while a fixed mindset sees abilities as unchangeable.

Leadership is more effective with a growth mindset, promoting empowerment and avoiding micromanagement.

Mindset affects health and pain perception, with a positive mindset potentially improving treatment outcomes and reducing pain intensity.

Strategies to foster a growth mindset include adopting a "not yet" attitude, using the two-minute rule, the one new thing challenge, and reframing self-talk.

Curiosity and the act of documenting and sharing knowledge are crucial for maintaining a flexible mindset and personal growth.


In This Episode:

[00:03] The definition of mindset

[02:50] The impact of mindset on achievement and performance

[05:06] The malleability of mindset

[06:23] The influence of upbringing on mindset and resilience

[07:29] The role of mindset in leadership effectiveness

[09:49] The power of mindset in influencing outcomes

[10:05] The impact of mindset on decision-making and leadership style

[13:43] Mindset's influence on health outcomes and pain perception

[16:16] Embracing a growth mindset and the "not yet" approach

[17:27] The two-minute rule for conditioning the mind.

[19:26] Tricking the mind

[22:36] No complaint challenge

[26:11] Embracing curiosity and diverse perspectives for personal growth


Notable Quotes
 [01:22] “When you have a growth-oriented mindset, you're all about agility, flexibility, malleability, adaptability.” - Nidhi

 [02:42] “People who believe that abilities can be developed through effort outperform those who have a fixed mindset.” - Billy

[11:35] “The best leaders in the world don't just hold a title and hoard power, they democratize power, and they create more leaders because they see the potential in others as well.” - Nidhi

 [22:06] “Challenge yourself to go a period of time without complaining, without voicing negative thoughts, and ideally without even thinking negative thoughts.” - Billy
Resources and Links

Nidhi Tewari

https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/

https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW

https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/

https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi


Billy Samoa

https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/

https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/

https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa

https://twitter.com/BillySamoa

https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/

Are we just adult-sized children yearning to play? As adults, our lives often become consumed with responsibilities, work, and societal expectations. We leave behind the carefree days of childhood, where play and imagination were at the center of our existence. But what if we told you that play still holds immense value in our adult lives? Just like a river that constantly flows and adapts to its surroundings, so does play in our lives. It may change its form and shape, but its essence remains a vital part of who we are as human beings.

In this episode of the ReLearned podcast, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa discuss the importance of incorporating play into adult life, particularly in learning and training experiences. They share personal anecdotes and reflect on the benefits of play, such as enhancing memory, fostering bonding, and improving overall well-being. They also discuss the societal discouragement of adult play and the need to overcome this. They highlight the importance of play in fostering creativity, innovation, and meaningful connections. They conclude by encouraging listeners to reintroduce play into their lives for a more fulfilling existence.

Key Takeaways

Play has a significant role in adult life, despite societal discouragement.

Incorporating play and games into educational and training settings enhances learning outcomes and creates a fun and engaging environment.

Play fosters creativity and allows adults to reimagine the world and find creative solutions.

Integrating playfulness into relationships deepens bonds and connections.

Relearning play can enhance learning and overall well-being.

Recognize the influence of past experiences and early childhood development in incorporating play.

Bringing more play into our lives can potentially extend our lifespan.


In This Episode:

[00:07] The importance of play in training

[01:12] Memorable and enjoyable training experiences

[03:11] Personal journey with play as an adult

[06:56] Play and creativity in adulthood

[08:27] The role of play in building connections

[11:01] The importance of integrating light and playful elements in relationships

[12:08] Engaging in playful activities during the holiday season

[13:05] The value of incorporating play and creating a secret language

[16:46] The importance of play in childhood

[19:21] The benefits of play on brain development

[21:37] Play as a tool for strengthening relationships

[22:38] Recognizing and breaking conditioning

[22:38] The life-changing power of play


Notable Quotes

[01:12] "Play does so much for me personally. Honestly, my career was what it was in the corporate space because of play specifically." - Billy

[02:23] "Play allowed us to strike a chord with so many people who went through our training. It became a very almost-famous part of the culture within our company." - Billy

[03:11] “Engaging elements make learning memorable. Without play, training can be dull and forgettable." - Nidhi

[22:42] "Relearning play and bringing play to the forefront could literally change your life, could help you live longer."- Billy
Resources and Links
Nidhi Tewari

https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/

https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW

https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/

https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi


Billy Samoa

https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/

https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/

https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa

https://twitter.com/BillySamoa

https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/

In the relentless pursuit of professional success and personal growth, we often overlook the simple joys that anchor us. Among these treasures is the profound impact of laughter—a universal force that bridges divides and deeply unites us.

In this episode of the ReLearned podcast, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa explore the transformative power and multifaceted benefits of laughter. Dive deep into topics like self-induced laughter, the rejuvenating practice of laughter yoga, and the tangible rewards: from stress alleviation and enhanced immunity to uplifted spirits and extended longevity. Billy candidly shares how laughter became his antidote to depression, urging listeners to maintain their own "laughter diaries." Tune in for a compelling conversation that underscores the vital role of humor and laughter in nurturing holistic well-being.

Key Takeaways

Laughter yoga is a practice that artificially creates laughter and releases happy chemicals in the body

Laughter can help alleviate depressive symptoms, moderate anxiety and trauma responses, and improve overall mood and well-being

Laughter can help you live longer by stimulating your heart, lungs, and muscles through the intake of oxygen

Laughter can be a key component of sleeping soundly by decreasing stress hormones and relaxing the muscles

Laughter can be used to manipulate brain chemistry and avoid negative emotions

Keeping a laughter diary can help document moments of laughter and revisit them in the future


In This Episode:

[00:06] - Introduction to the topic of laughter as a magical medicine

[01:19] - The concept of self-laughter and its benefits

[02:21] - Artificially creating laughter.

[03:25] - Laughter for connection and memorability.

[06:14] - Laughter's physical benefits.

[07:58] - Laughter and the immune system.

[09:08] - Laughter as a social connector.

[12:24] - Laughter as a social lubricant.

[13:33] - Reconnecting with old relationships.

[16:24] - Laughter and facial expressions.

[18:29] - Laughter's mental health benefits.

[20:05] - Physical health benefits of laughter.

[22:38] - Laughter and memory retention.

[25:05] - Laughter as a wake-up call.

[26:15] - Long-term benefits of laughter.

[27:28] - Laughter and sleep.

[31:26] - The benefits of self-laughter.

[32:34] - Keeping a laughter diary.

[33:07] - Being intentional about laughter.


Notable Quotes
[04:14] "The fact that there's an emotion tied to this experience in laughter brings on an emotion you're automatically going to remember something a whole lot more than if it was just said without any laughter or any humour." - Billy

[06:14] "If we can hone in the skill of laughing and integrate this into various points in our day, it will help us to live healthier lives, which I think is interesting." - Nidhi

[17:29] "Laughing increases the blood supply in your cheeks which ultimately nourishes the skin and gives you that glow. When you have that joy in your face, it creates this magical connection between you and other people." - Billy

[19:35] “Incorporating more humour and laughter can better read and be easily read by others. It also bolsters our own mood and mental health." - Nidhi
Resources and Links

Nidhi Tewari

https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/

https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW

https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/

https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi


Billy Samoa

https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/

https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/

https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa

https://twitter.com/BillySamoa

https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/

Conflict–a word that often evokes feelings of tension and discord—is far more multifaceted than its negative connotations suggest. At its core, conflict represents a collision of differing perspectives. With a fresh lens, we challenge conventional views on conflict, revealing its transformative power and emphasizing the importance of constructive engagement.

In this episode of ReLearned, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa embark on a comprehensive exploration of conflict, dissecting its definition and diving deep into its evolutionary role. From understanding the anatomy of conflict to leveraging techniques such as establishing conflict-free zones and using conflict journals, Billy and Nidhi uncover actionable strategies for effective resolution. Along the way, they emphasize the pivotal roles of empathy, self-awareness, and clear communication.

Key Takeaways

Challenge the status quo with a fresh perspective on conflict, revealing its capacity to spark positive change.

Embracing techniques such as establishing conflict-free zones, using conflict journals for emotional clarity, and leveraging synchronous communication to minimize misunderstandings.

Understanding personal triggers and practicing self-awareness as foundational elements in effective conflict resolution.

Recognizing the pivotal role of empathy in fostering understanding and resolving conflicts constructively.


In this Episode:

[00:52] - Understanding the definition of conflict

[03:04] - The importance of compromise in conflict resolution

[03:58] - Effective communication and empathy

[04:43] - The evolutionary role of conflict

[05:13] - The internalization of conflict and its consequences

[06:02] - The positive outcomes of conflict

[07:03] - The role of understanding in conflict resolution

[07:43] - The importance of articulating needs in conflict

[18:37] - The impact of conflict in the workplace

[19:51] - Understanding the anatomy of conflict

[20:30] - Conflict as a mirror

[23:49] - The use of conflict mapping in understanding conflict

[32:40] - The importance of conflict education

[34:51] - Visualizing conflict as a dance

[36:28] - Embracing opportunities for growth

[36:42] - Transforming conflict into positive change


Notable Quotes
[02:45] “Conflict is much more about finding the middle ground than it is about standing on our opposing sides.” - Nidhi

[06:00] “Sometimes conflict has a very positive outcome. And so we have to remember that it can lead to increased awareness about a situation or about a topic.” - Billy

[08:56] “The biggest mistake I see couples make is that when they face conflict, they sweep it under the rug.” - Nidhi

[36:36] “Conflict doesn't need to be a dirty word. What starts as a conflict can absolutely end as positive change.” - Billy
Resources and Links
ReLearned
https://www.relearnedpodcast.com/

Nidhi Tewari

https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/

https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW

https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/

https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi


Billy Samoa

https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/

https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/

https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa

https://twitter.com/BillySamoa

https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/


Mentioned
https://hbr.org/2017/07/how-to-handle-a-disagreement-on-your-team

Ever wondered what makes a workplace truly exceptional? What sets apart companies that not only succeed in their business endeavors but also create a compassionate and inclusive environment for their employees? The answer often lies in a single word: empathy.

In this episode of the ReLearned podcast, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa discuss the importance of empathy, especially in leadership and business. They explore the neurological effects of empathy, its role in altruistic behavior, and its influence on decision-making. The episode also covers the impact of social media on empathy, the concept of empathy fatigue, and the fear many CEOs have of showing empathy. They suggest practical ways to cultivate empathy, such as active listening, mindfulness, and engaging with diverse content. The episode concludes with a discussion on the importance of empathy as an essential skill in personal transformation.

Key Takeaways


Empathy drives altruistic behavior, as individuals are more likely to help those they empathize with.

Technology can positively and negatively impact empathy, with social media limiting exposure to diverse viewpoints.

Empathy fatigue can occur, and it is important to set boundaries and take breaks to avoid emotional depletion.

CEOs often fear showing empathy in the workplace, but empathy is crucial for creating connections and better outcomes.

Cultivating empathy involves active listening and reducing judgment.

Curiosity and mindfulness play a role in developing empathy and fostering deep connections and attunement to emotions.

Showing empathy involves exceptional listening skills, validating emotions, and offering support to build trust and connection.

Empathy is an essential skill that greatly impacts relationships and should be practiced and developed in daily interactions.


In This Episode:

[00:03] Empathy as a critical skill
[01:09] Empathy and neural activity
[03:09] Empathy and altruistic behavior
[06:20] The importance of understanding diverse viewpoints
[07:13] The negative impact of social media on empathy
[08:38] The balance between empathy and self-care
[14:16] Cultivating empathy in daily lives
[16:23] Different types of empathy
[17:31] Lowering the volume of judgment
[19:05] Curiosity and asking questions
[21:06] The role of mindfulness in increasing empathy
[23:25] Expanding perspectives
[25:25] Empathy in effective communication
[27:35] Deepening the conversation with empathy
[28:48] Empathy as a trust-building skill

Notable Quotes

[00:51] “Empathy is one of those things that as a leader, I often reflect and think if I didn't have empathy, I wouldn't be able to lead people in the way that I need to.” - Billy

[02:28] “When we're experiencing an empathetic connection with somebody, their pain quite literally becomes our own pain” - Nidhi

[10:59] “Empathy plays a pivotal role in moral decision making, influencing important decisions based on emotions.” -Billy

[13:03] “Empathy is actually critical to creating connection and better outcomes in the workplace." - Nidhi
Resources and Links
ReLearned
https://www.relearnedpodcast.com/

Nidhi Tewari

https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/

https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW

https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/

https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi


Billy Samoa

https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/

https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/

https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa

https://twitter.com/BillySamoa

https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/

In today's workplaces, feedback emerges as a crucial catalyst for professional development and organizational success. Whether you're steering the ship as a captain or navigating the waters as a vital crew member, it serves as the compass guiding individuals and teams toward excellence. Beyond being a managerial tool, feedback is a cornerstone of effective leadership, offering insights into team strengths and weaknesses to foster continuous improvement. Employees, too, benefit immensely from constructive feedback, gaining clarity on performance, understanding expectations, and unlocking their full potential.
On this episode of the ReLearned podcast, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa delve into the pivotal role of feedback in personal and professional growth. They address the gap between perceived and actual feedback from managers, explore the emotional impact of feedback, and share strategies for ensuring its receptiveness. The conversation extends to fostering a culture where seeking feedback is comfortable, addressing biases in feedback, and the importance of discernment in considering whose feedback matters. The hosts emphasize the key elements of clear expectations, capability, measurement, and consequences of ineffective feedback.

Key Takeaways

There is a significant gap between the importance of feedback and the lack of managers providing it.

Creating a culture where people feel comfortable asking for feedback is crucial.

Positive reinforcement and constructive feedback are both important in improving performance.

Leaders should be aware of their biases when giving feedback.

Four key elements to consider when giving feedback are clear expectations, clear capability, clear measurement, and determining consequences.


In This Episode:

[01:17] - The importance of feedback and the lack of managers providing it

[02:31] - The impact of unsolicited feedback on emotional reaction

[04:51] - The need to create a culture of proactive feedback-seeking

[05:56] - The importance of feedback and its impact on learning

[06:50] - The value of negative feedback and the need for constructive feedback

[09:00] - Managing anxiety and staying calm when giving feedback

[15:13] - Finding the right approach for feedback

[17:31] - The importance of separating positive and negative feedback

[18:33] - The impact of positive feedback on a fixed mindset

[19:36] - The role of culture in providing feedback

[23:35] - The importance of timing in giving feedback

[23:59] - Tailoring feedback to the recipient's needs

[29:13] - Giving unsolicited feedback

[30:20] - Crab mentality and discerning feedback

[31:19] - Regulating feedback based on mood

[34:04] - Clear expectations and commitment

[35:15] - Clear measurement and tracking progress

[36:13] - Consequences and accountability


Notable Quotes
[22:52] "Sometimes you have to be more direct with somebody, sometimes you have to give the hard feedback, and by us telling people how they should communicate and what they should communicate.” - Nidhi

[27:28] "Expect it but don't internalize it, be critical of the source of the feedback that you're receiving." - Billy

[33:07] "I had to accept the fact that I'm a night owl and that means that when I am giving or receiving feedback, I have to be conscious." -Nidhi

[38:13] "When it's all said and done, life's short. We want to get the most out of it. To make every minute count, we have to embrace good feedback." - Billy
Resources and Links

Nidhi Tewari

https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/

https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW

https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/

https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi


Billy Samoa

https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/

https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/

https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa

https://twitter.com/BillySamoa

https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/